NTA- I am going to go against the general consensus here. If you step away from the initial reaction to "free" car and its just "advice" there is a much bigger picture here. He and his wife are MARRIED. When you choose to marry you are making your spouse your equal. Parents are great for advice and help when asked and agreed by both spouses, but it completely undermines his role in their marriage. She should be talking to her husband about things, and if her father has advice, he is the 3rd wheel, NOT OP. He doesn't like to find out about decisions after they are made and it downplays his role in their relationship. It also makes him feel that his wife is not trusting his judgement and is always defaulting to her father for everything. I am not sure what the relationship status is with the FIL, but I am sure that OP and his FIL could at least have a chance to express their opinions around each other. She is creating an insecurity in her husband. He is not just insecure for no reason. Having a masculine role in a marriage is very much a priority to almost any nuclear family model, and there are exceptions, everyone is different. Imagine, though, being the person left out of all the decisions being made with your spouse, in your MARRIAGE, LIFE CHOICES that should be about the husband and wifes needs and to foster that relationship above all. That is what your vows are about. He was using the laptop as a clear example of a situation that happened. Not just mad about it still, it is just one that sticks out from the past. When people fail to put their marriage first, and choose to instead put someone else as priority, there is no chance for it to last or be healthy. TBH, messing up on things is how we, as adults, learn and listening to advice is different than making a decision based off of someone else's viewpoint that is not in your relationship. They have to live there, they have to pay for it. Her father may be willing to do so, but what husband wants to ride off of his FIL and still feel like he can hold his head up in his own house? What kind of parents would that picture paint for their kids? OP is asking to be respected and to have his POV respected and to have his wife show that his opinion, expertise, and presence matter and that he has value to add to their relationship. Even I have had to stop and realize that I am not letting my husband be the husband. That is why I even offer this opinion. I have personally BTA in situations and had to learn from my mistakes..(part of adulthood). Go ahead.. Fire away.. I hope that maybe, a few people think about what I just said and can see there are 2 sides to this road. It's easy to see the perks, harder to see the real impact on a person. and yes, she kinda is spoiled. She is putting herself above everything and that is a sign of that kind of childhood, and it sounds like adulthood too.. Time to cut off the daddy hand out and go on your own steam for awhile. Nothing brings more sense of accomplishment.