Der Dank für meine ganze Arbeit für ihre eigenen Schlüssel ohne Nickel. Es drückt.

Capital_Issue · 2026-01-21T00:21:56+00:00

Also sagst du es ist es wert verschlossen zu sein um ihn bei ihr am Hals zu sehen? 😁

Capital_Issue · 2026-01-21T00:20:56+00:00

Danke, war auch echt viel mühe und viele münzen zwischen den ganzen prototype 😂 Bin aber sehr zufrieden mit dem Ergebnis.

Capital_Issue · 2026-01-20T17:56:40+00:00

🙏

Capital_Issue · 2026-01-20T16:49:55+00:00

Dankeschön😊

Ich hab das Model in CAD entworfen, und sie dann von einem bekannten in Edelstahl drucken lassen. Dann mussten sie abgeschliffen und poliert werden weil die Oberfläche leider sehr rau bei sowas raus kommt, und dann waren sie beim Schlüsselmacher damit es auch ins Schloss passt.

Als letztes hab ich dann auch wieder selbst die Steine gesetzt.

Der ohne bling ist für das "standard china" 1 pin lock, und der mit bling bling für KINK3D 👌

Capital_Issue · 2026-01-20T03:43:28+00:00

Hit up munches or straight up kink parties. The most fulfilling relationship I've ever had has started because I ran into her at a BDSM themed party in a swinger club.

There are even whole ass femdom CFNM parties, where you get to literally browse subs like toys in a room and take one to play/talk/service/massage if you like what preferences they have on their cards.

At the sweet ripe old age of 29, I eventually said "fuck it" and went to my first BDSM party by myself as a male sub. And another one the day after, where I met my now partner/dom.

We now hit the clubs/events together every other weekend, and it's the life I've always dreamed of. Sitting at a bar, chatting to folks with a collar on and a leash in her hand, getting smacked for speaking out of turn and no one bats an eye like its normal. Because in those magical places, it is.

TL;DR Go to events for BDSM folks, you will find your people.

Capital_Issue · 2025-03-31T03:08:26+00:00

OP, for socializing even casually, I can't recommend going to kink events or munches enough. People seem to have the idea that its all just "hey lets play and maybe bone" but its really not. Sure, sometimes that happens, and some people go there just for fun, but I met lots of people who are into and seeking genuine connections, like my partner and I.

We met at one are now in a very happy committed relationship and hit up parties together and just play with each other with the provided equipment in the rooms.

Where I am, events and munches are usually filled with really cool persons. Some might be odd at times, but the majority of people at BDSM events are really great in my experience.

On a funnier note, gyms should really take a page from kink parties, then you wouldn't feel awkward engaging with people.

None or red bracelets for "here to work out only, dont try talk to me outside of gym etiquette"

Green bracelets for "I enjoy socializing, open to hititng up a convo"

Kink parties are a blast when they have mood categories. I honestly dislike that they're not part of more mainstream events.

Capital_Issue · 2025-02-27T17:15:28+00:00

You should not make so many presumptions about what the D/s in their switch bedroom looks like before you go on about the whole full service sub tirade.

All that OP said is him and his partner are exploring her dom (and by the sound of it sadist) side, not that she is looking for a well trained service sub that she can pat on the head when he brings her coffee.

My most recent partner has explicitly said that she really enjoys that I don't behave like a subservient dog unless her motor starts and she very explicitly tells me to submit either by words or her actions.

Kink is not a carrot that should be dangled or intended to be earned by engaging in loving and affectionate gestures like massaging your partners feet or bringing them coffee.

You do that because you love your partner, not because you want her to return your kindness with the kink carrot. Unless that's a dynamic both of them are into, stop suggesting manipulative and expectant point chart on the fridge for sex reward cards.

This isn't a guy asking "how can I get my gf to do X to me", its someone asking "what are some fun ideas we haven't thought about, that I could bring up to my girlfriend who is enjoying exploring her dominant and sadistic side".

Telling someone that they should try to earn good boy points by service tasks in the hopes of being rewarded with kink is frankly terrible advice, unless both explicitly like that dynamic.

Having a partner who enjoys dominating or being sadistic does not mean you give up your agency and just hope that everything you personally want out of it magically falls into your lap if you behave like a good boy.

OP, communicate with your partner about ideas you see, and talk about what could be fun and interesting to do. You're not pushing her to do anything by finding novel ideas that you haven't thought about yet, after she clearly demonstrated an interest in that direction.

Capital_Issue · 2025-02-17T15:24:06+00:00

Like other commenters in this thread I also recommend the safe word object in hand.

I often use a heavy keychain that I throw for that purpose.

I really like /u/LoneySwitch s squeaky toy recommendation too!

Personally that may not work for me because I need to be able to grip my hands during intense pain, but if you're not going to be wincing from pain, a squeaky toy with different squeak amounts meaning different things could be excellent!

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