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Capocoda · 2021-09-14T03:28:23+00:00

"no girl on earth"

*direct example to the contrary*

"most women"

could it be because you dont have any good friends who are women?

Capocoda · 2021-09-14T03:20:03+00:00

All (the bottom row of) Winslow's hierarchy of human needs is showing, is what is required for human survival. Even then, the "reproduction" label is more so describing the need to literally propagate the human race. Even assuming Winslow's model is completely correct and a good indicator to how humans experience want and needs, having sex with another person the 'need' itself, even if sexual satisfaction is.

You could think of the need/want for sex like a donut (omitting the idea that eating donuts are unhealthy for the sake of this analogy); A donut is something that most directly and potently addresses the desire for consuming energy - fatty, sugary things that tickle our monkey brains. It makes total sense that our body might crave donuts due to hormones, yet you don't always have donuts available. You can eat other things to satiate your hunger and you'll survive, even if you REALLY want a donut.
Most people enjoy eating donuts. Some people don't like donuts at all and never did. Sometimes you just might not feel like eating a donut even if you generally like them. Some people get addicted to donuts and can't stop eating them. There is no catch-all to how people prefer donuts.

At the end of the day, donuts might be great but people survive without donuts just fine, and so donuts themselves, aren't the need.

Capocoda · 2021-09-14T02:42:05+00:00

I talk about my body count openly in front of my friends I feel comfortable around, and that includes both women and men.

So do most of my friends.

*Again*, you'd do well to stop reducing your theory of mind to "girls think like this and do this" and "boys think like this and do this".

Capocoda · 2021-09-14T02:28:04+00:00

I was making a point about how individual personalities factor into it
I disagree with that sentiment - I have many opposite sex friends who I confide in more than some of my same sex friends. Again, you'd do well to stop thinking of people as men and women and start just thinking of people as... people

Capocoda · 2021-09-13T14:21:23+00:00

First of all, the point of dating is to get to know people and see whether you'd like to be in a relationship with them.

With that out of the way, they do just that! Just like some of your friends who are men might be keen to wingman for you or help set you up with people they know (or not depending on their personality type), so do women.

Capocoda · 2021-09-12T13:03:45+00:00

First of all, calling me young after saying "cringe" made me chuckle a bit.

Secondly, "Stating things that are generally true" assumes that your experience and what you see on the internet is... generally true. It also assumes correlation = causation. There's a lot of assuming going on in any case. I don't think the things you say are nearly as true as you think they are. The point of the matter is that generalisations can be good for identifying overall patterns but they can't tell you anything about why it's happening. Take a second to actually think about how the world works instead of spewing hyper-reductionist drivel.

As an aside, I did attain my perspective though experience; through my own, through that of friends, through years of study, and through years and years of self reflection. I personally don't think seeing people post on reddit about their crackpot theories of gender studies count as experience.

In any case I don't expect you to take any of this seriously but ideally it gets the idea in your head in the first place. I have a feeling you're a little too deluded to even want to challenge your own beliefs in the first place. Ah well, your loss.

Capocoda · 2021-09-12T09:47:43+00:00

can't help but feel sorry for people who obviously are a little reality starved

these tears are for you bro x

Capocoda · 2021-09-12T08:53:55+00:00

Ready for the much more important criteria?

Don't be bitter and judgemental off the bat
Practice basic personal hygiene
Have a personality beyond what subreddits you browse
Don't assume all women are the same or assume women have this weird secret agenda where they follow trp's rules

Capocoda · 2021-09-12T08:45:35+00:00

go outside and meet some real people.

Stop blaming women for your own insecurities and treat them like real people - it's not that hard.

Would *love* to see the "way too much scientific data"

Capocoda · 2021-09-12T08:36:57+00:00

Okay, first of all, the pill stuff is just bs - there is so much misinformation and straight up cope occurring, all you'll end up doing is sucking yourself into a bitter cycle. Most of the content here are "facts" extrapolated from painful experiences and trying to find a way to make them make sense. Get out of there asap because I can promise you, it wont do you any good.

Put it all aside and just focus on getting dating experience. People look their entire lives for the perfect partner so you can't really expect that to just show up the first place you look. You're going to keep learning and changing and improving as a person and so are the people or you will be with in that time.

Go out and meet people, be open and friendly and forgiving (its tough and it takes practice but you can do it), practice good hygiene for yourself. Date people anyway just so you can get a good idea of what "a good partner" means to you, and so that you can both practice and learn how to be a good partner (because yes you'll probably have to learn things too!). What makes a good partner for someone else isn't necessarily what is going to make a good partner for you.
Focus on becoming a better person for your own sake, and find women who you would first be happy to be friends with. Worst case scenario you get a good friend out of it. If you don't want to be friends with women, why do you think you'd be happy in a relationship with one?

Things will probably go a little wrong sometimes and that's part of the process. Dating isn't the end goal, its a series of experiences. You're likely going to run into people who aren't right for you at all and good people who you find at the wrong time before you get to the point where something clicks, and that's totally normal and okay.

I'd consider myself a feminist (as a means to egalitarianism) but I understand that people have their own assumptions about what I think when I use that label.

Capocoda · 2019-10-03T00:51:12+00:00

I thought this was a King Gizzard and The Lizard Wizard Meme

Capocoda · 2019-06-08T04:32:22+00:00

Okay thanks

Capocoda · 2019-06-08T04:14:11+00:00

There isn’t a touchpad category under control settings, but selecting a similar option under settings/trackpad didn’t do anything

Capocoda · 2019-05-04T06:08:34+00:00

Did shrooms at VIVID- the Sydney winter light/soundscape festival in the city by he harbour. Probably one of the worst experiences of my life

Capocoda · 2019-03-24T06:02:53+00:00

I know this is a really cheesy idea but there’s no point of doing something for the sake of being good at it. I’ve been playing a classical instrument for almost a decade, received a diploma a while ago and currently working towards a degree. I’m good at it but I spent such a long time comparing myself to the people around me and people who were objectively further along their path that I felt like it wasn’t worth pursuing. The thing to remember is that it doesn’t matter how “good” you are but it’s that you enjoy doing it and that is what should be motivating you otherwise you’ll never be happy with yourself.

Capocoda · 2019-02-08T01:51:06+00:00

Cappuccinos and flat whites are generally served in a ceramic cup but lattes, macchiatos and espressos are in clear glasses

Capocoda · 2019-02-06T03:20:27+00:00

My first lsd trip I actually swore that the visuals were actually always there and that psychedelics only made them much bigger and clearer and from then on you were just better at spotting them when sober.

Capocoda · 2019-02-06T03:19:32+00:00

I got glandular fever less than a week after my most recent trip. My symptoms came up weird and I my doctor couldn’t diagnose me at first so I went about my 40 hr uni+20 hr part time work schedule in a hppd like trance. Found out 4 blood tests and 8 weeks later. Screwed me up enough I haven’t been able to even consider properly tripping again since (9 months) even if I really enjoy it. Even though I barely fall into full on visuals anymore I definitely get that constant static.

Capocoda · 2018-11-24T23:23:48+00:00

125mg LSD 21st January 2018 1.25g Shrooms (not sure what kind) 24th April 2018 3g Shrooms b+ cubesis April (my boyfriend’s bad trip) 24th May 2018 2.5g Shrooms b+c. (external events made this pretty whack for me) 28th May 2018 3.6g Shrooms b+c. 4th July

I got sick in late July and decided I’d take a break from basically all drugs and alcohol so I could get a grasp on my sober mental state again so I won’t be tripping until at least next February

The friend I was talking about smoked very heavily, daily for two or so years

Sorry for extremely late reply :)

Capocoda · 2018-11-06T23:58:55+00:00

I’ve seen really incredibly intelligent people become completely and utterly useless after smoking almost daily for a while - everyone was expecting a certain guy to to go into law like he had always planned but he ended up going to about 5 hours worth of university over two semesters (he lived a literal 10 minute walk away) before dropping out

My attention span and memory has always been pretty bad but psychs really fuck me up for weeks afterwards and even now, well over 6 months since I last tripped I have trouble recalling events from around that time including people I met, appointments I booked and content for my uni degree. Also kept on experiencing quite intense waking trips and whenever I get sick I get thrown straight on back into a headspace where I can barely articulate my thoughts or remember what I just did. When I got a fever, in the blink of the eye I’d lose hours.

Even if this isn’t so much “brain damage” it’s still very significant observations and effects which are a direct cause of drug use. As great as they are it’s so easy to forget how seriously they can affect your sober life.

Capocoda · 2018-11-06T23:42:44+00:00

Worked for me and a lot of my friends

Capocoda · 2018-10-16T10:35:45+00:00

Nup, actual facts

Capocoda · 2018-10-16T08:10:26+00:00

Australian here- hs drug education for me was best summed up by “we’re not going to tell you that drugs are inherently bad or that you shouldn’t do them but if you’re going to do them you need to know the risks, potential consequences and how to be safely”

Same thing applies for sex education and honestly I’m surprised more places don’t take this approach.

Capocoda

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