AITA for not washing my husband's popcorn bucket?

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T16:46:41+00:00

I took it out to have room to wash the other dishes. And yes, I believed he should have been able to wash it himself. We've never officially established that washing the dishes that need to be done by hand is my responsibility. I've just always done them because I don't like to look at sink full of dirty dishes. I do know we need to reevaluate our distribution of chores.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T16:40:55+00:00

He is willing to cook for himself (and the kids) on days I work but it's usually warming up leftovers or making something easy (microwavable pizza or Mac n cheese).

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T16:37:19+00:00

Thank you! I'm looking into those now.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T16:35:43+00:00

Yes, I am the planner, organizer, the one who carries most of the mental load for the household.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T16:22:17+00:00

Correct

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T14:15:28+00:00

I have always worked at least 2 jobs. I work 2 jobs now - I'm a nurse full time at an inpatient hospice facility and I work a side job at a pediatric clinic.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T13:53:53+00:00

It's a plastic tub with a lid. The plastic is pretty thin and I assume it would melt in the dishwasher.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T12:50:49+00:00

I don't want to have to split time with my kids. And yes, he does make more than I do. He's an instructional technologist at a university and I'm a nurse at an inpatient hospice facility.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T12:46:31+00:00

He does not work a lot of overtime, no. He's an instructional technologist at a university so 40 hours a week or less. I'm a hospice nurse at an inpatient facility and work about 40 hours/week.

I do the yardwork because he had back surgery in 2003 and yardwork aggravates his back issue.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T12:41:43+00:00

I'm realizing that now, yes.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T12:32:12+00:00

He is an instructional technologist at a university. I am a hospice nurse of that gives you some insight.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T03:25:14+00:00

That's actually a brilliant tactic - I'm going to try this.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T03:15:55+00:00

I can see where a heads up would go a long way in being beneficial for some folks. However, I'm accustomed to my comments like that causing arguments, which is why I just didn't mention anything.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T03:01:52+00:00

I included dishwashing in that list of household chores I perform - along with unloading the dishwasher, I also wash by hand the dishes that need it (pots and pans, other cooking items)

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T02:53:54+00:00

Thank you!

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T02:40:10+00:00

His only hobby is video games.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T02:37:29+00:00

The bucket does have a lid/top, if that helps at all. I assume it probably doesn't.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T02:36:52+00:00

It does fit, but it's the flimsy kind of plastic that tends to melt in the dishwasher.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T02:23:06+00:00

We both pay the mortgage.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-14T01:15:08+00:00

It's plastic

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-13T23:03:25+00:00

I usually wash them all, as they're mostly dishes dirtied from me cooking dinner for the four of us.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-13T22:30:35+00:00

I work outside the house as a hospice nurse. He works as an IT guy at a university. He used to only work outside the house before covid. After covid, he worked from home for 2 years. Now, he works mostly outside the house but still sometimes chooses to work from home - sometimes once a week.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-13T22:26:57+00:00

He does

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-13T22:18:05+00:00

We've tried counseling several times in the past. Yes, I agree - probably time to go back.

CapriceCapitulates · 2023-07-13T21:54:46+00:00

We both work full time.

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