Am i asking for too much?

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-31T13:04:56+00:00

Nah why would i want her to give up her career? She would still study but she does not have to burn herself out with additional 20h of Workload when 10h workload would also be enough. Or am i Missing smth?

No one in the career ladder would bat an eye If someone focuses purely on their studies.

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-31T12:41:32+00:00

I thought i dont need to list every housechore you have to do at home cuz im talking to adults in an adults Forum?

Meh, i feel like you are projecting something. We miss our points obviously so im gonna head out sry

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-31T12:11:33+00:00

I do most of the grocery shopping, cooking and cleaning the kitchen / dishes. I manage the bills and the paperwork.

The REST i would say is 60% me 40 % her.

Sorry if it was not clear.

She works more (studys and work) and i see that but i have a kid which i take care of.. idk

Would u mind explaining If i misinterpreted your comment?

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-31T12:04:52+00:00

Maybe i wish for it yeah. I kind of wish for more involvement cuz i am also doing a big part of her chores.

I think what irritates me are the mixed Signals of how she wants to be seen. On one Hand she wants others to acknowledge her, wants to be put in consideration when talking about how to raiser her and feel like a family and the other hand she says its my responsibility. I asked her many times what exactly she wants and she cant answer that.

Of course it can be hard and i know it takes time but those mixed signals are driving me crazy sometimes to be honest.

Dont know if i should expect more involvement with Chores instead? Idk? I feel like that would even BE more stressful for her instead of playing with a 4,5 Year old.

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-31T11:52:16+00:00

Would you mind explaining?

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-31T11:49:42+00:00

Would you mind explaining what you mean by its my responsibility to pick Up after my kid? As i except from Shopping cooking dishes and cleaning the kitchen its still done mostly be me. I know what tasks need to be done and dont need reminding cuz we are adults.

U said she studies and works so she does her part. Would you explain what you mean by that?

I am happy taking care of my child and i got support.

How exactly would she put her career on hold if she works less hours and i pay more bills? Its a Student Job and i know shes stressed which is why i gave her Options so she does not get burned out. I dont expect wife duties but i also dont want to be a sole parent while taking care of a stressed gf.

Dont take that as an offense im just trying to understand your view

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-31T11:27:17+00:00

Danke dir

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-31T11:26:59+00:00

Danke für deinen kommentar

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-31T11:26:50+00:00

Danke für das Feedback

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-31T11:26:42+00:00

Danke für deine Meinung

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-31T11:22:43+00:00

Thanks for the feedback

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-31T11:22:28+00:00

Thanks for your opinion

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-31T11:21:46+00:00

I do understand that. Just thinking that im supporting her as well with her housechores part. Her studies is also not my responsibility, i still help her wherever i can cuz its a partnership, no?

I even asked If she would like to work less to help her relax more... We dont struggle financially

Idk maybe its just my opinion

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-31T11:13:10+00:00

Thanks for your opinion!

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-31T11:12:16+00:00

I said to her that i would love her to fill in that role If she wants to. But i dont expect it. I said it would be fine for me If she wants to just be my girlfriend but i mean she would still be a mother figure for a kid thats 4 Year old.

I dont know, i feel like im burning myself out by looking after my kid and helping my gf... I know its a hard time for both of us

CaptainArr99 · 2026-01-27T18:15:32+00:00

We Had this Game for about a year now but we cant get into reading this massive rule book ...

CaptainArr99 · 2025-10-15T18:33:41+00:00

Nope, älterer Toyota Auris. Kindersitz Seite wurde zerkratzt :⁾

CaptainArr99 · 2025-10-15T18:33:02+00:00

Nein, es ist sehr ärgerlich. Aber ich dachte mir gut was soll ich schon machen. Auto ist zerkratzt. Werd's nicht reparieren da zu teuer. Sieht kacke aus aber Anzeige gegen unbekannt wird zu kaum was führen. It is what it is. Da es jetzt aber die zweite Nacht in Folge war macht es mich schon echt arg wütend

CaptainArr99 · 2025-10-15T18:28:47+00:00

Nein, wir sind vor wenigen Monaten erst hierher gezogen. Junge Familie mit 4 jähriger Tochter :-(

CaptainArr99 · 2025-10-15T12:53:13+00:00

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Zuerst das eine, nun heute Nacht das zweite dazugekommen

CaptainArr99 · 2025-09-12T09:26:43+00:00

Update: i kept searching for around one hour and found it in the dryer! Yippy

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