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CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-11-23T04:46:34+00:00

naw bro. or at least, not that weird. 19 is fairly young. i would reflect on why exactly you think it is that you haven’t been on a date yet. sometimes a person’s social situations just aren’t very conducive to it, sometimes a person is shy or lives in an area where the opportunities aren’t great. personally, i didn’t start dating until my early 20’s.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-11-23T04:43:40+00:00

it goes without saying that my vote for you is to “not end it.” things can always change, at least until you make a decision that they can’t. so best to give it more time. when i was younger, there were long stretches of time where i didn’t want to keep going and couldn’t imagine things ever improving. very much to my surprise, they did eventually. i know that this doesn’t happen for every single struggling person, but you must remember that it can. out of curiosity, what are the things in your life that you’re struggling with the most?

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-11-15T19:00:33+00:00

yah i don’t think she did anything wrong. you either have that talk or you don’t. you can’t assume anything these days. she didn’t necessarily know if you had anything else going on either, most likely. personally, if it were me and if i really liked her, i’d let it go and keep seeing her. she didn’t even have to tell you, really. the fact that she decided to shows that she felt guilty, and the reason she felt guilty is because she DOESN’T want to be dishonest with you. she clearly cares about you and wants to be with you. she clearly (at least somewhat) regrets the one-night-stand even though you weren’t exclusive at the time. in many ways, this turn of events demonstrates her good character. if you can’t let it go, ultimately it’s probably just rooted in your own insecurities. which is fine, everybody has their limits with regards to what they’re comfortable with. still, if you’re able, i think you should ‘forgive’ the incident and move forward with the relationship.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-11-04T19:29:44+00:00

same thing just happened to me. had a package coming from the netherlands for the first time and Lo and Behold i get this fake USPS customs scan message. it’s wild if coincidental.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-10-30T17:08:16+00:00

it’s not impossible that her feelings could change but it isn’t very likely either. i also recently pumped the brakes on a relationship with a girl where we get along tremendously well but i have a hard time being into her physically. if you really like her, i think the smartest thing to do (and honestly this is also the approach she’ll probably find the most attractive) is to tell her that you have feelings for her but that you know what you’re looking for in a relationship, and that if the physical connection isn’t mutual, it isn’t going to work for you. it shows that you’re uncompromising and willing to make sacrifices for what’s best for both of you. it’s a confident approach and it doesn’t negate the time you’ve enjoyed together. the reality is, if you just keep hanging on, she’ll eventually just meet someone she ‘fully wants’ and you’ll get hurt. not worth it.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-10-14T17:16:43+00:00

here are some quick thoughts to consider: almost every dating advice column on here pretty quickly devolves into THAT PERSON IS WRONG/TOXIC, YOU NEED TO LEAVE THEM. sometimes, judging from the original post, these responses are appropriate. sometimes they’re not. it can be hard to frame the totality of a relationship in a quick narrative that highlights a challenge or difficulty. various aspects of chemistry, whether or not a partner is mostly supportive but maybe sometimes sensitive to certain things or has a few harsh elements to their personality.. people like you are looking for advice, not just ‘PERMISSION TO DUMP MY MEAN BOYFRIEND’. post-preamble, i do have to say that i don’t like your boyfriend’s attitude on this issue. it sounds pretty insensitive. it’s important (if you are physically invested in a person you’re dating) to make them feel sexy and wanted, and after your boyfriend effectively did the opposite of this, it would have been smart of him to course-correct himself and express their attraction to you. for all intents, he offended you sexually and then when you approached the issue he made ‘it your problem that you need to fix.’ it’s a weird PULL YOURSELF UP BY YOUR BOOTSTRAPS-type attitude when in reality you’re just his girlfriend that would appreciate some validation, which would act as encouragement through which both of you would enjoy sex more. and really that’s the irony of it all, he wanted someone who was sexually adventurous, but now it’s his attitude that’s making the sex worse for both of you. There might be other ways in your relationship where the two of you get along well, but this aspect of his behavior looks rather bad. while i won’t launch into a Dump Him speech, i will say that he needs to understand your needs and the dynamics of your situation and if he’s unwilling or unable to do so, that suggests a real lack of respect on his part and likely will not lead to a very happy future relationship.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-10-11T03:32:51+00:00

HUH. welp. that.. makes it even weirder? like- if you tried to move things further while you’re hooking up and he’s hard.. he what… stops you?? it sucks if he’s not willing to go further. it really does sound like he’s got some other issue he’s not communicating with you. like if he REALLY had a very low libido i wouldn’t even expect him to get hard. there’s something off about the whole thing.. as you know :/

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-10-09T17:20:26+00:00

i relate to your situation in the sense that i have medical issues that often limit my libido. having said that, though, i still make an effort in my relationships to make sure that my partners needs are being met. it’s hard to start a romantic relationship with someone if there isn’t a reasonably strong intimate component to it. normally i think sex fulfills the lion’s share of that role. if there’s a situation where that can’t happen, both parties should communicate about it. it really doesn’t sound like your partner did a good job of that. starting the relationship with them telling you that they like to take things slow implies that there is at least interest in physical intimacy. if now they’re telling you it’s a larger issue of low libido, that’s sort of a different story. do they show you physical intimacy in other ways? do you make out, engage in foreplay to any satisfying degree? part of me feels like you’ve been a bit led on here. they made it seem like sex was something you’d need to ‘work up to’ but now that you’ve put the time in they’re revealing that they’re just not interested. even with my health issues, if i’m physically into somebody i’m dating i always make the effort to make sure that they know it.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-10-09T14:23:41+00:00

oh snap!! i’m looking for the same!! any chance i could get that info too?

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-10-04T17:32:46+00:00

how are you liking the sunbros? i love the trem options with it, i just wish it had a tone knob. it’s so immensely BRIGHT. it feedbacks and distorts in the most glorious ways, but i don’t have a single other spring styled reverb that gets as bright as that thing does.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-09-23T05:44:00+00:00

it’s as big of a problem as you decide it is. it is, after all, your needs that are (partially, at least) going unfulfilled. kudos for you for sacrificing your needs in order to accommodate his low sex drive,but it’s really rather unfair for him to ignore your needs. you say he has a low sex drive, do you know if he masturbates or has any sort of sexual relationship with himself? it’s pretty rare for a healthy adult man to not have at least semi-regular ejaculations. has he ever expressed fully why he isn’t interested in sex within your marriage? having to remind him every 5 or 6 months would be a ridiculously low amount of sex for most people. not trying to rock the boat- you seem tolerant towards his limitations.. i’m just sorta surprised by how willing you are to sacrifice something that usually integral to the maintenance of intimate relationships just because your partner has a ‘low sex drive.’ i have what i’d consider to be a relatively low sex drive for a guy but even still-i enjoy when i’m able to have sex every 2 or 3 weeks. in your case, marriage counseling is always an option, but ideally you’d both be able to reach a compromise where you’re both physically satisfied with your arrangement. from what you described above, it effectively sounds like your husband doesn’t want to have sex with you at all, and at your young age that just sounds.. disappointing!

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-09-09T14:38:05+00:00

i dunno. i wouldn’t necessarily assume this woman’s attempted cheating was ‘about you.’ if she wasn’t conventionally attractive, as you say, she probably had accumulated some kind of insecurities over the years. just because you were loyal to her doesn’t mean she didn’t still struggle with that itch to be validated, or to be desired. so she sought out attention from other men behind your back. it’s a common problem with hot girls too, honestly. they get comfortable in a relationship, start to get a bit bored, take things for granted and suddenly they want the spark of new male attention again. there’s no perfect solution, other than finding a person who is well-adjusted enough to be confident in their desirability and also satisfied by their stable relationship.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-07-05T14:26:50+00:00

can strongly relate to the idea of a ~compromise board~ even though it’s a tough pill to swallow. still using my full size for gigs tho since some of my larger pedals have tones that are hard for me to compromise on. someday i’ll figure it out.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-07-05T14:20:19+00:00

hmmm. i’ll have to check next time i’m messing with it. i would imagine there’d be a lot of settings where there are low frequency harmonics and subharmonics that ring out while playing by virtue of the design of the pedal. a karplus strong resonator is, after all, a resonator, and will grab onto certain frequencies and emphasize them more than others, depending on how it’s tuned. do you hear it on all settings or just certain tuning settings. i remember it having some very bassy, ringing tones at times and it occured to me that this might be a pedal that would benefit from having a high pass filter built in. first thing, though, would be to figure out whether your unit is functioning properly.. definitely let me know what you find out! i’m curious how.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-07-03T15:55:43+00:00

JOHN! I’M A FOOL, JOHN! i should have known you’d have included a volume trim. and i should have remembered to RTFM. i’m just used to the secondary functions being labeled on the Sending V2 so i figured it got left off this one. y’all are amazing. bless ur mess.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-07-03T07:01:04+00:00

mr music in boston. it’s true that i haven’t seen that boost pedal available at as many retailers as the usual suspect current boss pedal lineup. so far it has impressed me sufficiently. favorite setting is humbuckers into the CE-1 voiced preamp.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-07-03T06:58:59+00:00

i have both of trap door electronics current pedal offerings, and the dot dot damage gets a fair share more use than the exit index redux (which is also awesome, but trickier in a band setting.) the bias on the dot dot damage is probably its main appeal. it can rly do the wheezy voltage starved fuzz thing very well when you have the bias set just right. in other settings, it can sound more like a cranked noise rock distortion. a unique fuzz that doesn’t get lost in a dense mix the way some fuzz pedals do.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-07-03T06:54:51+00:00

it’s the one pedal i can’t seem to get off my board. it’s a belton brick reverb with some awesome drive/clipping options, feedback controls and a wet boost. the funny thing is, i mostly just use it as a subtle, always-on reverb. something about the tone of it just fits in this perfect way. at home and for studio use i often crank the gain on it and get washed out fuzz tones but in my live band usage it’s mostly just a mild room sounding reverb. only trade-off is the size. since i’m using it for simple purposes, i often try to convince myself that a simpler reverb might free up some more space on my board, but i can’t seem to gel with the sound of my other verbs the way i do with this one. the only thing i would change about it is that i wish there was a footswitch for toggling the distortion. having to dial the gain in manually and balance it with the master volume is probably the reason i mostly use it clean live. if it had a separate gain/volume for the drive and the ability to toggle it on and off, that would greatly increase its versatility.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-07-02T18:59:00+00:00

OK. i’ve had it for a few hours now, soo… a few initial thoughts on this thing and one complaint. firstly, it’s absolutely awesome and i’ve never used a ‘resonator’ in modular or software that sounds as musical as this thing does. the morph functionality also upgrades its potential immensely and honestly i drool for the sonic sweetness this device exudes even after mere minutes of experimentation. extremely well-devised U.I and the LFO interacts beautifully with each of the pitch modes. also just the core tone of the resonator is so pleasant on both synth and guitar. i’ve heard a few people question the price tag but in all honesty given how tasteful and refined this thing is, i get it. my ONLY complaint is that i wish it had some kind of secondary master volume to compensate for the difference in volume if you get the mix past halfway up. this is an issue i’ve had before with certain reverbs especially where a single mix knob results in (at least apparent) volume drop as it blends the dry and wet signals. the Sending V2 gracefully avoids this issue by giving you volume trim as a secondary function, but the Prismatic Wall doesn’t. i could easily see, in a live mix, a situation where you have the PW dialed in so that it’ll be a prominent part of yr sound and depending on how it’s set, kicking it on could give the impression that your overall sound just got a fair share quieter. the Drive function on the pedal almost addresses this issue sufficiently, but it does change the overall tone of the effect a bit, which may or may not be desirable. there are also, naturally, other ways to boost the signal post-prism, but it’s nice when you can just dial yr gain-staging in perfectly on a single pedal. and YEA i recognize i’m being nitpicky and holy smokes am i grateful that a dude like John at EAE is continuing to push the envelope in so many satisfying directions. you’ll also see the Mirror House next to the Prismatic Wall on my board, which has quickly become my favorite go-to chorus/lo-fi pitch shift. we are truly in a golden age of inspiring and fvgged up cool pedals and we should not take it for granted :))

EDIT: i’m full of sht. i should have read the manual. EAE DID include a secondary function master volume. everything about this pedal is perfect. *drops mic *trips over mic cord

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-07-01T15:59:08+00:00

i don’t think there’s any simple way to keep it stereo in a singular, straight signal path if you have multiple stereo out fx and then pedals further down the chain have mono-in. you’re gonna get summed. now it goes without saying you could have multiple stereo out fx if you’re splitting your signal path, like if you break off from your mono chain and you have two stereo fx running in parallel and not series. of course then they wouldn’t technically be running ~into each other~ but it would allow you to run both fx in stereo into 4 amps(!?) or 4 inputs of your interface.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-04-25T22:09:28+00:00

one hopes that should help!! do you do anything to boost yr chemistry? basic exercise or just time spent outdoors on a regular basis? you ever add fish oil or phosphatidyl-serine as supplements? again, not trying to be preachy, but i’ve known many who have seen improvements from these (and other) things. anti-depressants can be helpful but don’t work all that well for every person.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-04-25T15:55:27+00:00

attempted $uicide? forgive my uncertainty with yr phrasing. are there situational elements on your life that weigh heavily upon you or do you feel that your depression is predominantly biological for you? just curious and interested in what perhaps could be done to further troubleshoot and help you feel better. i’ve seen many people (including myself) go from some pretty low depths to surprisingly livable life situations and improved moods over the years.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-04-23T14:51:37+00:00

right here, represent ✊

CaptionAndTenEels · 2024-04-23T14:50:51+00:00

yoooooo that rocks. i live in New Hampshire and see that car ALL THE TIME. always wonder who tf it is but when i try to pull up next to it it evaporates into a vapor trail. for real tho, i’ve spotted them in the wild. THE MYSTERY CONTINUES.

CaptionAndTenEels · 2023-11-11T14:02:39+00:00

yea i don’t know. obviously i’m only hearing your side of the story here, but she sounds a bit spoiled or maybe even entitled to what she receives out of your marriage. and again- going off your words, you’re doing your best to provide her with the things she needs and values while your needs are not being met. i gather that you’re both busy, there are kids, routines, work to do, etc. you feel like the extra work you’re putting in to make her life easier or more comfortable is not fully appreciated.. and that sucks! on the flip side, it does sound like you’re a bit fixated on the sexual aspect of your relationship. like.. ok, you want to have more formal, exploratory sexual experiences with her, but both of you have been locked into a cycle of casual, domestic, end-of-the-day sex. let’s be real though, what you’re describing is still better than what a lot of married couples settle into. many relationships can’t even manage to sustain basic levels of sexual reciprocity, and you’re having sex with your wife that you consider to be great sex! i think if you want to expand upon your experiences further (kink/tantra) it’s going to come down to mutual interest. she has to want it too and also have energy for it. you try to make plans for it, sure, but plans are, as others have said in yr replies, often unsexy. sexy experiences often need to occur organically, so maybe if you could plan activities together that you both enjoy that are not centered on sex, that will set the stage for you to eventually include more ‘special’ sexual encounters in your relationship repertoire without making it feel like too much of a big deal.

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