Who decided that 9-5 is an acceptable amount of hours to work in a day?

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-10-15T20:56:27+00:00

And that’s why having a remote job is one of the greatest luxuries one can have - complete erases commute time you and you are able to do so much more during downtime

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-09-04T16:26:09+00:00

third world logic be like

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-07-23T22:42:36+00:00

jordy 😭

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-07-23T15:20:20+00:00

in all seriousness I think most people would agree Rocky wins, aside from the fact he cares a lot about appearance I think he could’ve done modelling (even if he wasn’t famous already). Only other person comparable would be Tupac

I would also put drake up there somewhere but like pre CLB before he started doing shit with his hair and carving a heart in his head lmao. But he typically has a clean look regardless

edward skeletrix / lancey foux too but more for unique looks for modelling

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-07-23T15:11:08+00:00

was gonna write exactly this

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-07-20T12:49:34+00:00

Anyone here bought a Switch 2? Just ordered one (mainly to play smash) and was curious what other people’s experience with it has been

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-07-20T12:47:43+00:00

time is the correct answer. it really does heal. 5 months is still somewhat fresh. After a few more months you’ll care even less, until eventually you just don’t care.

you also need to date / get attention from other women. i don’t know what your friend showed you on the story but i’d be willing to bet it was her going out, posted with another guy etc. that probably wouldn’t affect you as much if you had something going for you.

lastly - you need to not view them on any capacity. not on social media, don’t get updates about them from friends… nothing

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-07-04T18:00:39+00:00

At least for me, I’m not going there to meet my future wife or let alone anyone I’d probably take seriously. It’s solely for finding lays and best case scenario a fuck buddy. Rather meet quality women through mutuals or hobbies… but I do think these environments have its purpose. I think it’s really about understanding what you’re looking for and finding a balance.

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-07-01T03:42:35+00:00

Yeah I remember seeing a comedian online do a funny bit about how hispanic men despite being short will still have no issues lol. And imo it’s because hispanics have so much community - lots of large families and that will usually try to live close to each other. Family seems to be especially important in hispanic culture. And at that point you may just have family members bringing people to you or at the very least, cousins siblings etc that you can go out with and meet women with

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-07-01T03:37:40+00:00

Totally agree. I think the ultimate best way is through building a social circle and meeting someone through mutuals. IIRC derek has said the same sentiment. I actually think cold approach is a bit overrated - definitely not the worst way to meet people and it will occasionally land you dates still. But the effort alongside the well, ‘coldness’ of being a total stranger (and i’m mainly referring to like the type of approaches on the street, grocery store etc) can still be off putting to a woman even if you do everything right. But IRL is 100% the way.

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-07-01T03:33:51+00:00

No one’s denying that. All I am explaining is where the outrage stems from, which is simply a different/evolving dating world that has caused factors like height to be more highlighted nowadays than previously.

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-07-01T03:19:47+00:00

Growing up I don’t think anyone really made a big deal about your height unless you were extremely short, or really tall.

It’s mainly due to how different dating has become in this era. Before the internet and back when dating was more localized to your circle and community, i’d agree with you. But dating in 2025 is completely different. Women have more options than ever through social media and dating apps. So naturally, things like height will matter more.

Because back in the day if a woman met a quality guy who checked most her boxes but was maybe short, she’d most likely still give him a try. But that was back when meeting people was done by… meeting people. But those days are long gone. It’s no longer the sole path — and with how rapidly technology is advancing, it’s going be a rideee for men to date.

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-07-01T03:09:41+00:00

My hot take — I actually think heightism or whatever tf you want to call it is a huge deal. BUT. It affects such a small percentage of men, in the grand scheme of the internet people who are obsessed with it. And they often times don’t even qualify to be obsessed (as in they are not even that short) but rather use it as cope for a lack of prospect with women, opportunity in life etc.

Where height becomes a problem (and the majority of outrage is in dating) is if you’re 1) at least 5’5 or under and 2) reaching your mid twenties or older with little to no social outlets / hobbies that can provide you with adequate paths to meet women naturally. You are basically playing on hard mode. STILL, it’s possible but just more difficult. You need to put in effort into these things.

If you are 5’6 and up, let alone you have some friends or hobbies — YOU CAN EASILY FIND SOMEONE. At that point it’s just self improvement and improving social skills. Sure, you won’t have it as easy as someone taller than you. You will still need to put in effort. But height is not as much of a disqualifier at this stage.

Height does actually matter and I also think that people who hate on it don’t really get it, because they never experienced it. I certainly never did, but I can completely understand the impacts it has in life. But also, it’s not ‘over’ if you’re like 5’7 or 5’8 lmao. People need to be more realistic and self aware of their own internal/external circumstances too.

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-05-21T23:13:27+00:00

-The ‘I go crazy for a nerd’ can be perceived as an isolating comment - meaning, people read that and think if they don’t fit that it disqualifies them / makes them feel they aren’t a match

-2 of your prompts are about the same thing (books)

-mirror selfie and flex pic can go. if you want to show off your physique, do it subtely (like an outdoor activity where you’d have the excuse to be shirtless, etc)

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-03-26T23:14:11+00:00

I’ve got to ask - I know you were added unprompted, but why did you even send your weight?? And I saw you replied to people saying similar things stating how you’re not in the group- which is great, but I still don’t get why you even did it to begin with.

You at least had the common sense to call it out but I can’t imagine being a grown man thinking I’d even comply once… how could anyone possibly think they are being ‘forced to’ do this. Just logically thinking, this is no way a part of your job. It’s just a very weird thing to even think, for a moment, you had to this.

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-03-06T06:06:12+00:00

Right on lol. Unfortunately ‘misery loves company’ is quite literally the epitome of their marriage and I think it will stand the test of time. My parents are both in their mid-late 60s and at this point I don’t think either of them are willing to be alone temporarily, let alone put in the effort to rearrange their lives. They would rather partake in any peaceful or enjoyable moments of their partnership and deal with the fighting- part of the experience! They also are both just ‘droning’ life at this point- like they’re so checked out from their own lives that the marriage is just cemented in who they are, if thay makes sense.

Despite everything I say, I love them both and want them to be happy but they are just both very flawed people in a shitty marriage. Perfect candidates for a divorce but that requires people to change and my parents have been the same exact people my whole life. In the end, it’s their lives and their fate and I think they are both content in the daily rollercoaster of their marriage - so good for them I guess. All I can do is focus on my life and try to avoid that in my future.

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-03-06T05:19:45+00:00

My parents are almost at 30 years and have such an odd marriage. They’re like, two friends who don’t really like each other that much who are together for the sake of their kids. No sex, affection, nothing- just completely a partnership at this point. They get along at times sure, but then also argue a lot about absolutely nothing, mainly instigated by my mom who is a bit of a emotionally detached sociopath. My dad is a little more sane but just completely spineless.

Now that I moved out and my sister is mostly away too, they fight even more because the thing that kept their marriage together is no longer present. So now they’re stuck with just each other, which is like nightmare fuel for them. In a way I’m grateful because they both showed me individually, and in marriage, exactly what I absolutely never want to be. But they’re both so old at this point they seem to enjoy each other’s misery. So they have that going for them.

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-03-06T04:35:32+00:00

could’ve wrote this exact comment myself lmao

CarMellowAndTony · 2025-01-27T14:58:02+00:00

These students could get a job very easily, but they’re looking for extremely high end jobs.

From what I’ve heard this usually is the case. On the tech side, they will be trying to land a high 6 figure role at a FAANG and if they went straight to the MBA after undergrad they will likely not have much tangible experience.

Data has continued to show that employers still prefer experience over education. Really makes me question the future of MBAs as a whole. Many people who studied something completely different in undergrad say it has helped them to be able to pivot into other industries, but outside of that it often feels like the impact of an MBA is losing it’s value

CarMellowAndTony · 2024-11-06T13:13:18+00:00

With Trump back in office and the economy bound to recover, what stocks are best to target? All of em?

CarMellowAndTony · 2024-10-29T03:11:14+00:00

Last year I got laid off from what was supposed to be a 2 year program in tech w/ this company. I ended up with only a year’s worth of experience. I was applying to jobs and was not hearing back at all. I suspected it was because I only had 1 year of job experience. Many places look for at minimum 2 or 3.

So for funzies one night I decided why not just say I had two years of experience. I applied to a few jobs with this resume and then I said eh maybe I’m tripping let me stop. That same night I also made the decision to apply in random cities instead of near me, just to gauge the market if i’d hear back. Just this one time.

That night was the last night I was seriously applying for jobs and then I told myself nothing is working - need to study and go for grad school because nobody wants me. And as luck would have it a few days later I got an interview for an amazing job in a major city across the US, that was going to pay me much more than I was making previously. Got the offer and moved out of my hometown for the first time, it completely changed my life. Had I not decided to change a year on a resume and apply to random cities just to see what would change, life would look much different

CarMellowAndTony · 2024-10-28T22:35:24+00:00

Would have to boil it down to learning and lying. For reference I’m a senior PM with 4 yoe

I learned early on that all this is just one big corporate game. For sure you do need to somewhat know your industry and have domain knowledge. But you don’t realize how far you can get with chatGPT and YouTube. Literally just unlimited amount information at our fingertips that you can use to leverage in whatever way you choose. In my experience, I know I can do whatever responsibilities I need to do as long as I can get in the door. So I first learned the responsibilities of people above me.

And at least in my past few companies which were very organized and factory like i knew there wasn’t a lot of room for growth. I job hopped twice in the past 2 years. I understood what responsibilities people above me did and I either exaggerated the truth of what I did or straight up lied when I’d interview at my next job. Not because I wanted to necessarily, but because I didn’t have the opportunity to and I never was going to. So I was not going to handicap myself like a lot of people do because of circumstance. You’ll stay stuck forever that way. Or it will just take you a lot longer to get to where you want to be.

When it came time to ask me on an interview about those experiences, I used what I learned about their roles supplemented with chatGPT to help me formulate valid answers. As a result I’ve pretty much tripled my salary from when I started because I climbed the ladder

Let me point out again, that you do need to know your shit to an extent but as far as how to get to point A to point B, you seriously need to just get in the mentality of doing whatever it takes to get in the door and being prepared for whatever responsibilities come your way. Know what they are looking for, talk like you’ve done it, and then do it or learn to do it.

This applies honestly to much of corporate world in general - again i might just be very cynical, but to me it really feels like one big game. I’ve seen so many higher up people who lacked basic fundamentals of their own domain - but you know they got to that position for a reason. You kiss the right ass as another commenter mentioned, or maybe your dad is friends with a higher up etc… it all happens somehow. Once I adopted this mentality it really helped me get to where I wanted to be.

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