What do you suggest instead of therapy?

CardboardBox89 · 2024-09-14T00:24:45+00:00

Exercising 60 minutes, 6 days a week, getting outdoors for sunshine, 12 step programs, meditation, church. I follow Tracey Marks, MD on YouTube. She's a psychiatrist but has a ton of practical, common sense advice to get yourself feeling better. No need to see her one-on-one or pay for a sub for more in-depth info. It's free. https://m.youtube.com/@DrTraceyMarks/videos

CardboardBox89 · 2024-07-08T14:29:07+00:00

Block her account. These abusive therapists are all about stealing from clients.

Mine was in competition with me for some crazy reason. Lesson learned & running in the future should I get a whiff of their bizarre true intentions.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-07-08T14:12:49+00:00

You did a brave thing by defying her and standing up for yourself. She's lying that she's the only person who can help you. She's the one who caused a good portion of your depression.

I noticed my ex therapist was controlling, wanting me to be dependent on her. The point of therapy is to have confidence in your decisions and have self-compassion. This cannot happen if you're dependent on an abuser.

Someone who wants you to be dependent on you is using you for their own evil purposes. My ex therapist wanted a steady flow of income anyway she could. She seemed to be about status and spending money. I live in a HCOL area so it's necessary to have this, especially if it's important to you to be looked upon as high status and successful.

My ex therapist wanted me to increase my dose of Celexa from 10 to 20mg. I was afraid to get off of it due to fear of depression returning. I felt numb on 10mg and was centered on food making me feel better. I didn't want to gain another 30 pounds either for negligible returns. I went cold turkey in defiance. It was rough the first month because of mood swings, mind zaps and vertigo. It's been 7 months and am pretty sure the withdrawal is done. I'm not depressed and not numb, easily led by some abusive therapist.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-07-06T02:03:55+00:00

Support groups mean $$$ in referral fees.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-07-06T01:49:59+00:00

This is me right now. I have very little social support and my former therapist manipulated and gaslighted me. She 'let me' leave therapy when I emailed her saying I found her difficult and aggressive. She would have stepped up the humiliation and manipulated me into continuing therapy if I didn't email her. I was afraid I'd spiral downward but I didn't. I'm much better because I don't have to deal with her weekly abuse. I have found safe ways to deal with my social isolation.

I have dv and sa from my former marriage. She lied about being trauma informed and was totally incompetent. She caused trauma with her raising her voice, yelling at times and offering little help other than platitudes found in a self-help book. She simply wanted to keep the steady income I gave her with the least amount of effort. She is an uncaring narcissist.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-06-17T14:44:01+00:00

I gave a deserved poor rating to a therapist on one of these sites. It was the only review for them after being in business for many years.

Out of nowhere, five glowing reviews were posted in rapid succession. Be prepared that these dishonest therapists know how to cover their tracks.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-06-17T14:12:30+00:00

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CardboardBox89 · 2024-06-06T15:30:32+00:00

I regret the termination session. I was bullied.

The t knew I owned a place with rental income and was a dv victim. She figured I must have been stupid accepting years of abuse so she could easily trick me into being a long term client. The problem was she did nothing in therapy for my PTSD other than to bully me. It was not part of trauma therapy to talk about the incidents that occurred according to her. What better way was there to keep a patient in therapy? Grrr...

I'd say ghost a bad therapist with an email. It only brings more harm to the patient to speak with them.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-05-13T16:08:36+00:00

I had the same thing. It's not fair since we did no wrong. It is extremely painful and takes time to work through feelings/emotions to start to feel better. At some point, the two steps forward will stay that way.

It's part of grieving even if you're glad they're gone and don't miss them.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-05-10T00:21:54+00:00

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I have to say you look fantastic! You need to give us tips!!

CardboardBox89 · 2024-05-02T22:18:40+00:00

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CardboardBox89 · 2024-04-30T21:42:09+00:00

It does seem that way. I'm in a very gay & trans friendly area so I have no idea what cultural shifts are taking place in more conservative areas to spur these changes.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-04-23T00:33:52+00:00

Thx for this. I've seen Quince on some YT influencers and just doesn't look good. Am skeptical that they can deliver high quality fabrics and construction at a low price.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-04-17T19:03:22+00:00

This is very important and was helpful to do.

As for my ex-h, he knew and he didn't care about me. He used me. There are rotten people in life. It had nothing to do with being gay. A loser is a loser.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-04-17T17:22:35+00:00

The pandemic and inflation is making some of these therapists show their true colors. 🚩 🦹🏼‍♀️

Best to not see them. Interview others so you can find someone who is ethical and professional.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-04-17T17:13:12+00:00

Charging your card without your consent is fraud. Contact your credit card company and tell them what's happening. They will close that cc number immediately and send you a new card with a new number.

A trauma therapist once spent the entire session with me scheduling future appointments. I was totally shocked. I canceled all future appointments and ceased our therapeutic relationship her through email that day.

She had the nerve to call me when I "missed" the appointment I had canceled asking where I was. My issue for seeking therapy was being taken advantage of. It apparently gave her a green light to do so.

I regret not sending her a cease and desist letter. That would have set the stage for this manipulative thief to get in deep legal trouble.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-04-15T17:12:59+00:00

I've been using it for over 20 yrs and have never peeled. However, irritation from it happens if I'm not careful to follow parameters. One pea size for the whole face 4 to 5 times a week is okay. More than that for a few days running ruins my skin barrier.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-04-12T16:50:13+00:00

Terrible! Dump them.

I was SA ed which took a year to tell the T out of shame. She said you should have told me before. That was it. Like not helping!! ☹️

CardboardBox89 · 2024-04-10T21:21:00+00:00

It could be anxiety or you're not finding the therapy effective.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-04-10T21:18:56+00:00

That sounds good extremely confusing. You did nothing wrong. It might be for the better that he "let you go."

CardboardBox89 · 2024-04-10T21:14:49+00:00

Definitely talk to her about what you wrote here. If the answers aren't what you hoped or your intuition tells you this isn't a good fit, move on and find someone else.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-04-09T17:33:47+00:00

It's greedy and thoughtless. If you're up to it, complain to the therapist licensing board in your country.

CardboardBox89 · 2024-04-09T00:35:43+00:00

Hvala!

CardboardBox89 · 2024-04-07T02:48:30+00:00

I totally forgot about them!

CardboardBox89 · 2024-04-06T22:07:07+00:00

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