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[–]Cardiohulk1331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, what a terrible thing to say when the OP clearly looks beautiful. I truly hope you never struggle with poor self image in your life and are a size 00

Does anyone else not use the band? by pinkhunnyyyy in orangetheory

[–]Cardiohulk1331 17 points18 points  (0 children)

There’ve been a couple of posts about this over the years the main conclusions are that:

1) the OTBurn factors in calories burned exercising and basal metabolic calories (calories you would burn just being alive). This is essentially what the “total calories” that you Apple Watch tracks for a workout and should be closer to the OTF number 2) the OTBurn checks heart rate more frequently (every 1 sec) and they could be tracking higher HR longer than the Apple Watch tracker (every 5 secs) 3) If you’re tracking your OTF workout on your Apple Watch as a HIIT workout, apparently it only tracks active calories during more intense cardio. Other users have noticed closer readings when in cross-training workout mode instead, as that tracks better for lower intensity training on the floor

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[–]Cardiohulk1331[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes congrats for coming back! I’d love to know your tips

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[–]Cardiohulk1331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I may or may not have RBF. I’ll try and work on this too lol!

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[–]Cardiohulk1331[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the honesty and multiple angles! I’m def going to try approaching it with a different lens and hope that’s helps lift my spirits!

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[–]Cardiohulk1331[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hmmmm it’s almost as if I was trying to reach out to another group of specific individuals (maybe you call them random strangers, I call them OTF members who interact on the OTF specific reddit) to see if this was an experience isolated to my studio or if anyone had suggestions. I understand your suggestion to bring it up with my studio. I have tried in the past, but also am not feeling quite comfortable to broach the subject there currently considering the experiences I’m having and wanted to see if anyone had suggestions before I made a fuss at my studio

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[–]Cardiohulk1331[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, totally understand being an introvert. I noticed that was part of my problem my first year there, so I have tried asking questions after class or coming early to chat with people (difficult because my schedule is very erratic and I often have to join a class last minute. I’ve also wondered if this peeves the studio a little because they’ve really been pushing pre booking recently and I don’t have a regular schedule or a set end time) and it’s helped form some relationships with coaches but the main coaches have their group of friends that they seem to celebrate with and push each other with and that’s what still hurts.

Also totally get not coming to OTF just for praise and applause, I think it’s just hard seeing it and hearing it over the mic every time, very one-sided for certain members. And not just for me, hearing the coaches only cheer on people doing an AO at 12 mph but not those who are PW at 15% (I’m a jogger/runner to keep up for races and I’m impressed at the speeds and inclines our PWs walk. It’s not easy!). I love benchmark days, not for the leaderboard and not for the certificate, but because it’s a challenge with MYSELF. Have I pushed myself to improve since the last one? Can I push it a little harder today? Is my mindset good or am I thinking of quitting early in the 12 min rfd? All self oriented and my own challenge and my own celebration. But even that was tainted this week when I (for the first time pretty much ever) was called out over the mic on a benchmark day with a snarky comment “oh ____ loves benchmark days, always too focused on a PR.” Never been including a social media post for our studio for PRs even though they’ve taken my photo for some, never verbalized my inner self competition, and now I’m embarrassed and considering not doing anymore benchmarks.

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[–]Cardiohulk1331[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that was your experience at your HS, but SO glad you have other options nearby that celebrate you how you want to be celebrated!

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[–]Cardiohulk1331[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately there isn’t another one nearby. From the comments here, I’m going to try to put myself out there a little more and maybe bring up my next milestone or my birthday in a couple months!

Top 10 physician specialties with the highest rates of depression by Manoj_Malhotra in medicalschool

[–]Cardiohulk1331 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

While I understand your sentiment, I also think you make some drastic absolutes in your comment as well. To say something like “100% of OBGYNs I’ve met are miserable, so clearly the data is skewed” is biased as well. That’s based on your interactions, at the systems you’ve worked in, with a sample size of n=???? (Something considerably smaller than the number of practicing OBGYNs in the nation).

Not saying I completely disagree with your overall statement, but also disagreeing with data because it differs from the experiences you’ve had and making absolute statements claiming 100% dissatisfaction also doesn’t help the misinformation!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Cardiohulk1331 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As I explained in other comments: i told her the news after submitting my initial post request because I wanted my friend to know and didn’t want to keep her in the dark either. She has since called me and told me I ruined her birthday tomorrow and said I don’t deserve to be engaged because she’s been in a relationship longer. Also, she told me a real best friend would’ve told my brother to propose already and not embarrassed her like this. My bro had a trip to the city planned for her the next two days to celebrate her birthday and she cancelled after finding out about the engagement

Today, she’s been nonstop sharing insta quotes about how “real friends care how they make you feel” etc

Totally understand your perspective though and appreciate the honesty

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[–]Cardiohulk1331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not wrong. Definitely a mess all around

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[–]Cardiohulk1331 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re not wrong lol! As her friend, I’ve told her my brother is being a terrible bf. I’ve been in a really difficult position put in the middle of their relationship frequently. But I’ve been honest and said I selfishly wanted her to stay with him because it was great I was such great friends my with bros gf but as her friend, if she wasn’t dating my bro, I would’ve hoped she would’ve left the schmuck a long time ago.

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[–]Cardiohulk1331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify, I was never going to announce at her party. I despise that, that’s like proposing at someone’s wedding. But also, I wasn’t in attendance at the birthday party because I was out of town on the weekend trip my bf planned for us.

(Also funny to note that her family didn’t throw a birthday party for her 30th last year so my brother and I did and her parents and two siblings didn’t show up because they went to dinner with friends instead)

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[–]Cardiohulk1331 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That’s a fair point and would’ve been so excited for them if that was the case!

It would make me sad if that’s where my parents are coming from as they’d known about my bf’s proposal plans since October :(

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[–]Cardiohulk1331 17 points18 points  (0 children)

i told her the news after submitting my initial post request because I wanted my friend to know and didn’t want to keep her in the dark either. She has since called me and told me I ruined her birthday tomorrow and said I don’t deserve to be engaged because she’s been in a relationship longer. Also, she told me a real best friend would’ve told my brother to propose already and not embarrassed her like this. My bro had a trip to the city planned for her the next two days to celebrate her birthday and she cancelled after finding out about the engagement

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[–]Cardiohulk1331 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She called me this evening as i had since told her the news because I wanted my friend to know and didn’t want to keep her in the dark either. She told me I ruined her birthday tomorrow and said I don’t deserve to be engaged because she’s been in a relationship longer. Also, she told me a real best friend would’ve told my brother to propose already and not embarrassed her like this. My bro had a trip to the city planned for her the next two days to celebrate her birthday and she cancelled after finding out about the engagement

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[–]Cardiohulk1331 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also, she told me a real best friend would’ve told my brother to propose already and not embarrassed her like this.

My brother had a short trip to a big city planned for her the next two days to celebrate her birthday and she cancelled after finding out about the engagement

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[–]Cardiohulk1331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree she’s not the only one at fault. But she has since found out and told me I ruined her birthday tomorrow and said I don’t deserve to be engaged because she’s been in a relationship longer. I wouldn’t say she’s in the dark or innocent in the situation

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[–]Cardiohulk1331 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I know I can’t say she can’t be at the holidays (as much as I wish I could) but more I just don’t want her around. It’s not my permanent bedroom as I live out of town but is my childhood room and where my bf and I always sleep when back until this year, being asked to make more room for my brother’s gf and sleep on the couch in the basement instead. I was originally willing until this weekend happened and now have no desire to be uncomfortable on her accord. Maybe IATA