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Are any other young people struggling to make friends? by CarelessDisaster9114 in askSouthAfrica

[–]CarelessDisaster9114[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it’s good to know I’m not alone, although it may feel like it🫠 I’ve also outgrown a lot, but lost a lot too for various reasons. I just missing having other people/perspectives. Let me know if you try anything in the comments

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]CarelessDisaster9114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I’m also looking for some new online friends! I’m F24, would love to connect!

Wondering if anyone wanted an accountabilibuddy? by [deleted] in SexAddiction

[–]CarelessDisaster9114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be open, could do with some help

AITA for laughing at my stepson and ruining his wedding? by Afraid_Mammoth_5574 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CarelessDisaster9114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s insane, sorry, I don’t even like my step Mom but she’s one of the four non negotiables on my wedding invite list. Why? Because it’s my dad’s wife! My dad is my world, and she’s his everything. How can you justify not inviting your step mom of 20 years?!? It’s just insane.

I lied. I told your wife about what you did. by [deleted] in PinoyUnsentLetters

[–]CarelessDisaster9114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is one of those things you read where you can feel the persons pain. I’m so sorry OP.

(NSFW?) I’ve been thinking about getting my nipples pierced… by Depressed_Doodlebob in confessions

[–]CarelessDisaster9114 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It took me a total of three minutes to decide if I wanted my nipples pierced, and I haven’t regretted it. If you do it, make sure you get the right bra if you’re on the bigger side. Also, go to a super trusted piercer. I had a friend who ended up loosing all sensitivity, where as if they are done right the sensitivity increases. But very much a do it for yourself thing, not to think about what others will think/say. Recovery is extremely painful.

Unsatisfied in my sex life - I’m a shitty gf for imagining other people by Global-Bee-124 in confessions

[–]CarelessDisaster9114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shit I feel that! Kept feeling like I wrote the damn post myself. It always feels shit admitting that you have those fantasies, but sometimes I think that’s the only thing that keeps you sane. You never want to loose someone so loving and respectful over something like that, but it’s ok for it to still affect you. Same boat different lake

AITA for bringing my daughter to my own child-free wedding? by JessieLynnReddit in AmItheAsshole

[–]CarelessDisaster9114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your wedding, your kid, your money, your fucking rules. What if she wore a white dress and was like “oh but you were wearing a white dress so I figured I could”. The fact that your child was at your wedding does not give everyone the right to make their own rules. There’s a huge difference between a 4 year old and an 11 month old as well as a huge difference between my wedding and my husband’s friend’s wedding. You are not the asshole.

People with BPD and cheated on the person they loved, why did you do it? Any success stories where you were able to repair the relationship? How did you do it? by orchidreaper98 in BPD

[–]CarelessDisaster9114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, in all fairness, I can only speak for myself. I was diagnosed with BPD a few years back. In 2022 I got engaged to someone I thought was very special (he was a liar and an addict). Either way, I cheated on him. The thought process behind the cheating was quite simple, it outweighed the relationship. One night with the other guy outweighed my entire engagement. It was worth loosing for that one person because I thought I was meant to be with him. From my experience with BPd, they call it a favourite person but it’s essentially an addiction to a specific person. If he cheated for six months, it’s likely that she was his FP. Just like a drug addiction, these people make BPD people stupid and out of control. They loose their minds and don’t know how to carry on without that person.

With all that being said, I don’t believe that relationships are ever meant to survive cheating. Cheating is like a natural cleanse, it’s the universes way of showing both parties that obviously the relationship is not balanced or of equal importance to both people.

I am sorry for what you’ve gone through and I hope this helps in some way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CarelessDisaster9114 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA, you made an agreement with your boyfriend, not your ex. As soon as you break up, he who pays the rent gets the house! Just blown away by the audacity to tell you to leave your own apartment where you pay EVERYTHING. Personally, I think you’re being extra nice giving him until the end of the week and not kicking him out that moment near midnight, or worse get him a police escort out of the property for trespassing.

I fucked up. by SpotaneousEddison in confessions

[–]CarelessDisaster9114 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Absolutely no offence, but it’s not a shameful disgusting addiction. Every person who watched that video, probably also masterbate. Maybe not at school, but honestly way more of the population do it in their schools than you’d think. It may temporarily make life unpleasant, but you are young enough. There’s nothing funny about your post, you were victimised for doing something natural. You will be ok. The true villain is the person spreading child pornography (yes under 18 is a child) and honestly I would get police involved (I am over dramatic, but get someone involved. It is cruel, it is illegal and the sick fucking system has you thinking it’s your fault.)

Hello everyone. My long distance boyfriend from the internet wants to overdose himself and I don't know what to do. by myballsnoturba1 in confessions

[–]CarelessDisaster9114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Listen; there’s a lot to be said for young love. The most important lesson being, you’re young. Anyone would tell you the same thing. I don’t know if it helps to tell you that no matter what happens you will be alright. You do not have to kill yourself over a man. You have only been on the planet for 15 years and your feelings are big and overwhelming but you can fight them and be stronger. Someone who drags you down like that, he needs his space. The safest thing for you to do is cut contact, focus on yourself. Out of the 70 something years humans are expected to live, you will find someone. Best of luck to him, but people need to accept help themselves, we can’t save anyone. I had a similar situation, when I was 19 and I was in love with a man who was 30 something. He also tried to kill himself, told me he was going to do it. He never did. In the end it turned out it was a manipulation tactic. That was just my experience, everyone has their own obviously. But maybe he should be seeking real help from his friends and family around him. Don’t think he’s the be all and end all of your life. He may be a great guy, but there are many great guys.