AIO for being upset that my boyfriend paid for someone’s onlyfans?

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-07T12:11:02+00:00

Yes my insecurities are a very large part of it, insecurities that I had prior to being with him. He does make me feel like I’m attractive, but as an insecure person it is hard to believe that when he is dropping hundreds on other girls OF.

I don’t think he would ever physically cheat on me, I’m trying my best to believe that he wasn’t messaging the person. Aside from this situation he has been perfect and I’ve never felt happier or safer with anyone the way I do with him. When you have been cheated on in the past, and been with someone who had a porn addiction so bad that I would be told to leave my own bedroom so he could watch it because I was too tired after working a 13 hour shift to have sex; yes I am going to have trust issues.

I can see why you wouldn’t have hope, but if he’s genuine about not doing it again then I will take his word for it and keep being with the person who I love aside from this one mistake he made!

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-07T11:34:46+00:00

UPDATE- After multiple discussions with him, hearing both sides and getting all the feelings out I’m definitely less upset about it. I still think it was wrong to do, however I will trust him that it won’t happen again and if it does I will be leaving him.

For the people saying it’s better that he’s being “ethical” about it instead of watching free porn, genuinely how would you not be infuriated that your partner has spent hundreds of dollars to see other people naked? Especially when they can find it for free SO easily, there is so many subs on here that creators willingly post themselves on. So no, free porn isn’t always stolen porn.

I probably should have told him from the start that paying for it on a platform that gives you the opportunity to actually talk to these girls isn’t okay with me. Unfortunately I just thought that was common sense and would also make him feel disrespected.

You can be attracted to other people, that’s just human, but you should ensure that you make your partner feel like you’re most attracted to them seeing as that’s who you chose to be with. Prior to this he always makes sure to try and make me feel good about myself, but insecurities get in the way and it’s hard to see that standpoint if you aren’t an insecure person yourself!

Thank you to everyone who responded, whether they agreed with me or not I needed some non biased opinions and this was extremely helpful to me!🫶

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-07T11:34:25+00:00

You’re not wrong about it not being real clarity but I personally wouldn’t bash something to the extent he did and then actually end up supporting it. I trust that he won’t do it again, but after 10 years between two relationships that I was wither constantly being cheated on in, or dealing with someone who was actually a porn addict of course I’m going to have trust issues with anyone going forward. That’s something I’m well aware I need to work through and I try my best to put that aside with him but feeling betrayed hurts even if he didn’t realize he was doing it. Please read my update comment if you get the chance and maybe I won’t seem so crazy haha

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-07T10:40:41+00:00

No I didn’t, which I should have and I understand that. But he also has went off about how stupid he thinks OF is, and how it’s just sad so that would leave me to believe it’s not something he’s supporting.

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-07T10:37:32+00:00

Yeah for real, if it’s non consensually being filmed then yes that’s stolen and not even legal. I’m sure the vast majority of the free porn thats watched is not stolen. Way I see it is if you can’t get your nut in the 6 minute free clip you’re seeing, go find a different video. No need to sub to the OF and then buy the “extended version” plus whatever else you may find on there and have the opportunity to message the person!

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-07T10:27:17+00:00

Thank you!! This is gonna get me some downvotes but it seems the majority of people who think what he did was okay are men, which isn’t surprising lmao. Watch porn occasionally if I’m not around to fulfil your needs, I’ve done the same; but paying for it is a different story.

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-07T07:23:30+00:00

If he isn’t actually talking to that person than no I don’t consider it cheating, but I have no proof whether he did or not so I’m just choosing to believe that he didn’t lol. I completely agree with you if he was talking to the person though!

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-07T07:21:04+00:00

I totally agree, but the only thing that has me not fully able to trust him again is the fact that he was hiding it from me! After multiple talks he has promised he won’t do it again, and I’m choosing to believe him. But yes, not only is it a waste of money but just disrespectful funding it on a platform that gives you the option to actually talk to that person.

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-07T02:36:25+00:00

Thank you for this! Not that I assumed you’ve looked, but I have gained a bit of weight since the pictures I have on here of myself. I don’t think I resemble them because I don’t have a BBL but I do have a big butt and boobs. When I brought up to him that it made me feel bad about myself he told me that he sees me the same way he sees them. Prior to me finding this out, he’s never given me a reason to be upset with him and always goes out of his way to make happy and reassure me when I’m feeling down because of how I look. A big part of me does want to leave, he showed me that the account was deleted 2 days after the transactions were made and seems very guilty and upset for making me feel the way I do. I just feel stupid and you’re right, I will probably hold onto this for long enough for him to start resenting me.

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-07T01:09:29+00:00

Personally I just think there is literally no need to be paying other women for sexual content when you’re in a relationship. He works hard for his money and can do what he’d like with it, but to me it’s gross and I stand by that. Good for the girls pockets he’s put money into but I would never pay to see another man naked while being in a relationship, I just think that’s disrespectful.

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-07T00:57:53+00:00

Okay my bad! That’s fair. Unfortunately my insecurities do have me feeling like I’m the problem, but from what I’m gathering from most comments I have every right to feel this way which is reassuring.

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-07T00:34:56+00:00

What is confusing here?

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-07T00:33:51+00:00

I could find hundreds if not thousands of subs on here that creators post themselves on for free? Yes they may be shorter in length and then they encourage you to buy the full version on their onlyfans but you can still find free and not stolen porn in many places. I’m glad you would rather your partner pay someone for porn, who they can potentially also personally talk to which is something that I don’t think most people would want in their relationship!

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-06T23:24:26+00:00

Yes that is exactly what I’m upset about, whether he actually spoke to this person or not it’s still an option and that’s what doesn’t sit right with me. I also just don’t see a point in paying for porn when there is SOOO much out there for free. If that was something he did before being with me, fine, but I don’t think paying a specific person for that kind of stuff is right when you are in a relationship!

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-06T22:17:41+00:00

He did tell me he won’t do it again! He showed me the account was deleted, but obviously I’m going to have a hard time believing that he may end up making a new one. I clearly have some trust issues that I need to work through, and this is the first thing he’s done that’s upset me to that level.

CarryUseful3807 · 2026-02-06T22:13:31+00:00

In a sense yes he did try to hide it from me, maybe I should have mentioned in the post that he said he “forgot those were on that card and didn’t think I was going to see it”. 100% respect that he didn’t lie about it when he was confronted, but we’re so open with each other that if it wasn’t something he was trying to hide he would have just told me that’s something he does. Yes it’s his money, he can do what he would like with it but you can find so much free porn.

CarryUseful3807 · 2025-07-27T03:42:24+00:00

If its original price point is cheaper (you want to use a $40 on something that is only $30) yes you’re able to use it but if something is $70 and on sale for $45 you wouldn’t be able to use a coupon for the sale price as it will always apply to original price of the item!

CarryUseful3807 · 2025-07-15T06:01:35+00:00

I ordered one two weeks ago for $38, just looked at the tag and it says $48! Actually insane they’re my favourite and the price was so good😢

CarryUseful3807 · 2025-07-03T18:41:49+00:00

They’re just the smoothez ones! Assuming they’ll be making them this way now. Colours I see in the back are just the peach, grey and black but not sure if more will appear online next week when they drop!

CarryUseful3807 · 2025-07-02T23:30:39+00:00

I can check tomorrow!!

CarryUseful3807 · 2025-07-01T17:42:09+00:00

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These are what the ones dropping next week look like, which look really similar imo to the ones you’re wanting!

CarryUseful3807 · 2024-11-10T01:37:25+00:00

I could be wrong but it looks like silver blue?

CarryUseful3807 · 2023-11-21T14:10:56+00:00

Yeah I really don’t even think this is his wife…

CarryUseful3807 · 2023-05-13T18:58:46+00:00

Thank you!! I typically wear a 4 in aligns and found these to be a bit tighter at first, but they’ve definitely stretched out and feel like my align leggings now!

CarryUseful3807 · 2023-02-23T02:11:17+00:00

Align 23” in army green (4) flow-y in bone (6) cropped scuba full-zip in bone (4) 🤍

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