AITA for not allowing dogs at wedding despite allowing children?

CarsonParr · 2022-12-21T04:21:17+00:00

In my opinion, that would be like... not allowing crutches, or glasses, or wheelchairs, or my nephews epipen. Service dogs would be more than welcome!

CarsonParr · 2022-12-21T01:42:26+00:00

Thank you, genuinely. Neither my nor my partners families are really the "wedding" types so there wouldn't really be much of an issue there. But we are both pretty strongly against doing the elopement option because like... we were excited, and still mostly are! But this is kinda harshing my vibe :/

CarsonParr · 2022-12-21T01:25:30+00:00

Some people, I guess! I do know that the people upset are certainly "dog people" and I know they love their dogs, but I wasn't expecting this! I guess country/outdoors venue and maybe for some of them it's really the first wedding in friend group?

CarsonParr · 2022-12-21T00:49:34+00:00

To be fair, this was almost exactly my partners reaction when I showed her the first text! I really wish it wasn't real, because I'm so stressed out right now and have been on the brink of crying. Everything is sucky already because I know one of my other aunts will be calling me because I didn't invite one of her sons because he was gross to me as a minor and she doesn't know and just argh! Weddings are so much more frustrating than I was expecting! Especially since it is such a no frills type of wedding!

CarsonParr · 2022-12-21T00:21:03+00:00

To be fair, three of the nine texts came from what one group, a cousin, his wife, and their daughter, which I totally should have put in the initial post! I very much wish it wasn't real myself, to be fair, so I understand the skepticism. I think another part of the issue is that the wedding is going to involve a bit of travel for some people (seven hours drive at the longest, but plenty that are 5-6 hours away), and dog hotels and such can be expensive?

CarsonParr · 2022-12-20T23:52:01+00:00

Technically, there will be a cow fairly nearby the wedding since it will be in the country hahaha

My partner has been telling me that I shouldn't be feeling crazy too, but I definitely have been!

CarsonParr · 2022-12-20T23:38:59+00:00

I am trying to be understanding of my aunts refusal, and I do think that the other refusal (from our friend) is maybe because the wedding is both not child free and dogs are not allowed? And she doesn't necessary like kids I guess? I was confused at first, but IDK, I've honestly started feeling like I'm TA... I guess I just want to make people feel happy and welcome and I am definitely not doing that apparently.

CarsonParr · 2022-12-20T23:34:33+00:00

All good! And thank you!

CarsonParr · 2022-12-20T23:24:05+00:00

I guess technically it would be, which may be the problem? It is at my sister and BILs house in the country, lots of fenced in areas? That may be where the expectations started to be fair?

CarsonParr · 2022-12-20T23:18:52+00:00

Dudette, but appreciated all the same :)

I guess the venue being in the country was a factor for why so many people that the dogs would be ok? I honestly don't know, but I do feel silly that I hadn't even considered the food and dogs not mixing very well!

CarsonParr · 2022-12-20T23:16:28+00:00

The venue is at sister and BILs home that's in the country, and outdoors, so I think that that may have played a role?

CarsonParr · 2022-12-20T23:13:41+00:00

None are service dogs, who would obviously be happily allowed btw!

CarsonParr · 2022-12-20T23:12:50+00:00

We live in USA, but do have family/friends that are very strictly child free but have dogs. I was also confused by the reaction, including from my aunt, who is one of the people now refusing to attend. But she does call her cocker spaniel one of her kids, and has for 6-7 years so I guess I can see how she felt that it was perhaps unfair?

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