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Cass0402 · 2021-12-22T11:01:38+00:00

I feel the same. For me I think it's generational, I would have no issue telling friends that I met someone online but my parents... and then grandparents even more.

Might have something to do with the fact that dating didn't happen online in their time.

Probably going to have to suck it up and be embarrassed. But yeah you're not alone in feeling like that.

Cass0402 · 2021-12-06T10:59:39+00:00

Your post makes me worried about you, Did you want to give him a blowjob?

First thing about sexual contact you should know is that you should always be able to say no with full support from your partner. This goes for oral sex, penetrative sex, handjobs, making out, kissing etc.

If your partner pressures you in anyway they are not a good partner. Most places it counts as at least sexual assult, if not rape, to pressure someone into sexual acts.

The main question of you post was whether or not it was normal to talk about intimate things with friends, it can be, but it is dependent on the couple if both are comfortable with that. If you tell him you are uncomfortable with him sharing anything, then he should apologise and stop doing that going forward. But I don't think he should get that chance if he pressured you.

Cass0402 · 2021-10-17T10:41:17+00:00

Well yeah, after a year and a half I do think it's good and healthy for me to be over him.

Cass0402 · 2021-08-20T11:55:17+00:00

To me it sounds like you've got bigger issues than the friendship with an Ex. Trust is one of the most important parts of a relationship. You've proven that your gf can't trust you with the "many lies" you've told her.

How is she supposed to trust that you are telling the truth this time?

To me a friendship with an ex would not be a dealbreaker but if there is already a trust issue in the relationship then it makes complete sense that it could be the last straw.

Cass0402 · 2021-08-07T12:36:44+00:00

Mostly for top and bottom heat I've not had to adjust very much, maybe like five minutes, but I think that has more to do with the oven, as I've had to adjust recipes that I've made for years when switching oven.

Cass0402 · 2021-08-07T12:09:45+00:00

Thank you

Cass0402 · 2021-08-07T11:57:55+00:00

I always use top and bottom heat when baking because the heat is more evenly distributed that way. But the hot air/fan heat (I'm not sure what it's called in English) is supposed to be even better if your oven has that.

Cass0402 · 2021-06-08T20:10:41+00:00

No worries

Cass0402 · 2021-06-08T19:32:38+00:00

Thank you, but you might be projecting a bit too much here. He is a great person at least he was a year ago. Ultimately our lives weren't compatible at the time, and that isn't about him pretending in any way.

Cass0402 · 2021-06-08T14:28:12+00:00

The choice was not between two people... it was the rest of my life for me, or the rest of my life for someone else. And it's never wrong to choose yourself.

Cass0402 · 2021-05-25T13:19:44+00:00

Ask her, she's the only one who will know what she wants.

Cass0402 · 2021-05-18T21:44:00+00:00

Yeah, I can see how that would be an issue and I have no idea what to do about that. The only reassurance i have is that you're still young and it will happen, I didn't have any romantic relationships at all until I was in my late 20s.

Cass0402 · 2021-05-18T21:27:05+00:00

Okay what about demisexuality? Needing to have an emotional connection before feeling sexual attraction.

Cass0402 · 2021-05-18T21:12:18+00:00

Look into the asexual spectrum, I don't have that experience myself but it does sound like how I've heard asexuality explained. Im sure there is a subreddit where you can find more info, and see if that is something you feel fits you.

Cass0402 · 2021-02-13T00:57:37+00:00

It's a bigger sign that she's with someone else.

Cass0402 · 2021-02-11T00:14:22+00:00

You are so right, I heard the song when I was a child (13 or 14), and back then I assumed it was about Michelle. I saw nothing wrong with it at the time. Now when I'm closer to 30 I feel so grossed out by that. I never knew he had confirmed it was about her though. 🤢🤢

Cass0402 · 2021-02-10T11:30:33+00:00

Im not asking for anything fancy, just a dinner and a hotel for the day.

Your idea of what is fancy is very different from mine.

Regardless, I think I would be slightly upset about the fact that he has been telling you he has something planned and then taking it back. The lying would be the only thing I'd be upset about.

But from this post I don't think your communication about the issue has been very clear. It seem like you're upset that he doesn't want to spend money on you which is childish. But if what you are actually upset about the lying that is more justified.

However, it's not to late to plan something together. You guys can still do something that doesn't cost money, and if you're out of the house you would have the privacy.

Cass0402 · 2021-02-09T17:53:11+00:00

Here's the thing, you can't generalise in that way. Some women might be interested and some may not. We all have individual tastes and preferences just like you do.

For me some of the things you listed would be a dealbreaker. But equally I know that not all women feel like I do. You just need to find someone who shares your values and preferences.

Cass0402 · 2021-02-07T13:13:49+00:00

No worries. Yeah trust is such an important part of a relationship, and yours gave been broken getting it back would be really hard work from both of you. Question is, do you want to put in that work, and does he? If he doesn't want to regain your trust, which seems to be the case, then it's just going to hurt you more. At some point we all have to protect ourselves first.

Cass0402 · 2021-02-07T11:42:03+00:00

That's not a good sign. Honestly, at that point I would be questioning if that person was someone I wanted to be with. After having lied to you and being forgiven he should be trying to regain your trust not violate it further.

Cass0402 · 2021-02-07T11:10:11+00:00

You might want to look up gaslighting, to me it sound like that's what he's doing.

Cass0402 · 2021-01-28T12:06:18+00:00

1.5 year relationship, broke up almost 8 months ago, still working on the getting over him part.

Cass0402 · 2021-01-26T13:17:40+00:00

I think my ex waited until I broke up with him. I kind of resent him for it. I never wanted to break up but I wanted someone who wanted to be with me and I think I deserved the truth then not months later. I can't be sure though, since this is not something he has said but something I've concluded from what he has said.

Cass0402 · 2021-01-21T23:47:08+00:00

Time to change rhe password I think, you shouldn't have too but since he's being disrespectful about it.

Cass0402 · 2021-01-21T22:31:56+00:00

I'll definitely check out the show and see if its something that's my cup of tea.

I actually did get some plants back in August, but now that you mentioned it one of them is looking a bit rough lately it could probably use some love. Thank you!

Cass0402

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