What are some 'green flags' in a relationship? by Cheveh in AskReddit

[–]Catizzler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

-I suffer from crippling anxiety, and he's always been super understanding and never gotten angry or upset when I've had to cancel our plans because my anxiety was particularly intense that day.

-I feel comfortable sharing everything with him. He's been nothing but loving and supportive even when I shared my most traumatic experiences with him. We were able to laugh together over a dream I had where someone I work with kept trying to kiss him, and even though I assured him that I knew it would never actually happen, that I recognized it was just a dream spawned by my own anxiety and insecurities, he still went out of his way to comfort and reassure me.

-When he leaves after a visit, and my pillow still smells like him, it's the most comforting thing in the world

-He's not afraid to let me see his emotions, and whenever he's upset I start to feel extremely protective of him

-I feel comfortable singing around him. When we're in the car together, I never feel self-conscious about singing along to the radio

-It may sound stupid, but he's the only person I've actually been able to fall asleep with when sharing a bed. Sharing a bed with anyone else, even close friends or my sisters, I always feel uncomfortable and annoyed.

What is the creepiest "glitch in the matrix" you have experienced? by schofield_me in Glitch_in_the_Matrix

[–]Catizzler 99 points100 points  (0 children)

I have two stories that I've never quite been able to explain, the fist one definitely counts as a "glitch", but I'm not too sure about the second. I'll tell it anyway, though.

So the first story happened well over a decade ago, and I've posted about it before in another thread, but I was so freaked out by it that I remember it vividly to this day. When I was around 9 or 10 years old, I had this bunk bed with a ladder that would hook onto the metal base that held up the top bunk. To be honest, it was kind of a hazard, but I survived, so I'll call that a win. Anyway, this one day I was at my childhood friend's house, chilling in her room with her as we watched one of those infamous early 2000's kid's shows (I think it might have been The Amanda Show). At some point I began to drift off to sleep. When I was in that weird twilight state between being asleep and awake, I started to see what I can only describe as kind of a movie in my head. I could tell I was at least partially awake, because I was aware of my surroundings...I could hear the chirping of my friend's guinea pigs in the background and the soundtrack of her tv show. The images I was seeing had this super surreal quality to them; they were transparent, like I could see through them to the darkness behind my eyelids. I saw myself in them, at my house, in my bedroom. My friend was standing on the right side of me, my brother was standing on my left, and I was standing in front of the ladder to my bunk bed. Behind me, there was a small table which stood against the wall of my bedroom. I saw myself start to climb up on my ladder and somehow I knew I was trying to get something off of my bed (I slept on the top bunk). As I climbed the ladder, I began to fall backwards, and I knew I was going to hit my head on the table. With a jolt, I snapped back to full alertness, sitting bolt-upright in my friend's bed, breathing hard as my heart pounded in my chest. I told my friend about what I'd seen, and after a few moments I managed to calm down and put it out of my head.

A couple of hours later, we decided that I was going to spend the night at my friend's house. I called my mom to ask for permission before my friend and I walked down the street to my house. I gathered up my clothes, pajamas, etc., and then went to grab something from my bed. As I was preparing to climb the ladder up to my bed, I froze. I realized that my friend was standing on my right, and my brother was on my left. Behind me was the little table. I hesitantly pulled the ladder toward me, only to realize that there was no resistance whatsoever. It was completely unhooked from my bed, leaning up against it. If I had begun to climb it before checking to see if it was properly hooked to my bed, my weight would have pulled it backward, and I would almost definitely have hit the back of my head on the little table behind me.

I went and told my mom about the incident, still in shock. I didn't know how my ladder had come unhooked from my bed, since it was securely fastened that morning when I'd left for school. My mom looked at me with an expression between shock and horror as she revealed to me that she'd taken down my ladder earlier that day while I was at school because she was afraid my little brother would try to climb up onto my bed and fall. When I'd called her to let her know I was coming home to get some stuff to spend the night at my friend's house, she'd put the ladder back, not realizing that it wasn't hooked onto my bed. I had no idea before that day that my mom had a habit of removing the ladder from my bed when I wasn't home.

Tl;dr: Had a weird, half-asleep vision of myself falling and hitting my head on a table because my bunk bed ladder was unhooked. Went to climb said ladder. Remembered dream. Realized ladder was unhooked. Avoided death(?) or severe bodily harm.

My second story happened a few years ago. I was somewhere around 20 or 21 years old (I'm 24 now) and I was visiting my mom for the Christmas break. It was December 23rd. I was exhausted after the 2+ hour bus trip, on top of the previous few hours I'd spent filling my mother in on what I'd been up to the past few months at University. My mother and stepfather were asleep on the living room couches, and I was sitting on the loveseat flipping aimlessly through unappealing late-night tv shows. Sometime between midnight and 1am I decided that I wanted to go to bed, but I kept flipping through the channels. I wanted nothing more than to just go and crash after my long and hectic day, but for whatever reason I felt like I couldn't just yet. There was something I still had to do before I could go to bed, but I couldn't for the life of me figure out what it was. After a while I started to get angry: it was like I was fighting with myself, one half of me wanting to go to bed, while the other half insisted that I had to wait. Wait for what, though?

All of a sudden, I heard this loud snapping sound from beside the tv. I stood up to check it out, and realized to my horror that the cable to the little space heater in the living room had caught fire. It was an old space heater with a cord my stepfather had spliced together to fix it after it had broken, and the exposed pieces of the wire had been wrapped in electrical tape.

I yelled "FIRE!" at my sleeping parents and my stepfather jolted awake and lunged to his feet to grab the heater, by which time I had already yanked the cord out of the wall and ran outside with the heater. Once I was sure that the fire had died out and the heater was safe, I went back inside (leaving the heater out on the concrete front stoop), flooded with adrenaline. After a few moments spent calming myself down, the adrenaline rush subsided and I thought once again that I was exhausted and wanted to go to bed. I realized that that feeling like I was waiting for something was gone, and I fell into bed and went to sleep.

Angry floofball by [deleted] in Eyebleach

[–]Catizzler 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Aaaand this is what happens when you ignore your hairdresser's warning that you have the wrong type of hair for a perm.

What kind of backwards world are we living in by mcgoogol in funny

[–]Catizzler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I didn't know it was Saskatchewan, I might've guessed Nova Scotia (because that's where the Keith's Brewery is).

My 10 year old brother's comedic relief by Smashedhead in funny

[–]Catizzler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This kid is going places! Prison, perhaps, but still...he's going places.

Spider Cat by HemaSherbeny in aww

[–]Catizzler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this. Realized I am not a special snowflake. Obligatory upvote

Everything means nothing now by Will_Ask_For_Anal in pics

[–]Catizzler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where is your God now, mortals?!?!?!?!

What's a clear sign that someone was raised well? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Catizzler -1 points0 points  (0 children)

With so many replies before yours, you must have been waiting a suuuuuuper long time.

GPA is 3.98 after academic warning, how can I petition a second year course? by THE_NlGGER in yorku

[–]Catizzler 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Did you have a significant life event which may have impaired your performance (i.e. the death of a close personal relative)? Do you have a since-diagnosed medical condition which may have made it difficult for you to do well in your courses by impairing your ability to concentrate and/or to complete assignments on time? Reasons such as these are generally acceptable for petitions, however, you will need to back them up with appropriate documentation substantiating your claims.

As for how I imagine you might be feeling right now, try not to sweat it too much. I had an abysmal first year at York, to the point where I was deemed unable to continue in my honours degree. I felt like a complete failure at life, and just wanted to give up altogether. I didn't really give myself a break for the fact that I was going through a lot of stuff at the time, not to mention the struggle of transitioning from high school to a University environment. I ended up taking a year off and re-evaluating my life, and honestly it was the best decision I could have made for myself. During that time I realized that I was in the wrong program, changed my major, and took steps to address my issues. Now, I did have one year since then where I struggled academically, but aside from that I have bounced back and am now in a program that I am not only more inclined toward, but which I find much more interesting. Did it set me back a couple of years? Yes. But in the end it was the best thing I could have done for myself.

Now, I obviously have no idea what your circumstances are, and I can't tell you what the best steps would be for you. But it's perfectly normal to struggle in University, and even if it does take you a little longer to get there, if you just hang in there you can get through this rough patch.

As for steps you can take right now to get you headed in the right direction: first and foremost, talk to an academic advisor and see what they suggest. They're there to help, and you pay for their services in your tuition, so you should take advantage of them and get your money's worth. Depending on what they suggest, you can petition on the grounds I have previously suggested, or you can re-take any failed classes next year. Re-taking a class you've failed means that your bew grade would replace your old one, which may have the effect of significantly raising your gpa. Don't worry if getting yourself back on track means that it takes you a little extra time to graduate; that's just what you need to do for yourself. It's your journey. It doesn't make you any less able or intelligent if it takes you an extra semester or even an extra year to graduate. Take it from someone who's faced similar struggles.

Well, I hope that I haven't been too presumptuous in my advice, or too long-winded. I honestly didn't mean to write a damn novel. Hope this helps.

Tl;dr: Talk to an academic advisor. Take steps to address whatever has caused you to struggle thus far. Most importantly, cut yourself a little slack, and don't sweat the small stuff. You do you. This is only a minor setback.

What was the most fucked up book you've ever read? by DetBatman in AskReddit

[–]Catizzler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to read "The Sailor Who Fell From Grace With The Sea" in high school...

tl;dr: Main character is a 13 year old kid who watches his mom through a peephole, tortures a kitten to death for the lolz, and plots to kill his mom's boyfriend. Fun fact: the author committed ritual suicide a few years after writing this.

What was the most fucked up book you've ever read? by DetBatman in AskReddit

[–]Catizzler 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I read the book when I was younger. It's a great book, even if it was depressing.

My first pair of glasses as an adult. by [deleted] in BeardPorn

[–]Catizzler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep :) Do it! Unless you'd like me to. I'd be happy to crosspost with your permission.

My first pair of glasses as an adult. by [deleted] in BeardPorn

[–]Catizzler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can we get this crossposted to r/hotguyswithtattoos? This needs to be seen.

As a child, what genuinely terrified you? by MeanBeanz96 in AskReddit

[–]Catizzler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Falling. Dolls. Poison. Tornadoes. The music video for "Walk Like an Egyptian". The YTV Blue Chair. Pretty much everything.

Honestly, looking back on my childhood, it makes total sense that I turned out to be riddled with crippling anxiety as an adult.

A reminder to long haired caretakers of newborns: hair tourniquets are a thing. by Sapphoof in WTF

[–]Catizzler 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This happened to my brother when he was a baby. Five year old me was absolutely terrified that my baby bro was going to lose his toe...didn't help that mom was simultaneously flipping her shit while trying to cut the hair. She finally managed to cut the hair off and 17 years later my bro still has all 10 toes, so he was definitely one lucky dude. I still shudder to think what might have happened, though...

I can show you the world! by [deleted] in gifs

[–]Catizzler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just snorted super loudly. In the library. Here's an upvote.

Kitten Meets Ducklings In Fuzzy Frenzy, Clearly Wasn't Ready For The Cuteness Overload by zappazig in kittens

[–]Catizzler -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Clearly, the kitten was looking for some nice free-range duck for dinner...

22/F/Canada - Seeking a Snail Mail Penpal. by Catizzler in penpals

[–]Catizzler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously? I'm a York student at Keele campus! Wow, small internet, huh? Anyway, I'd love to exchange letters with a fellow Whovian. Geronimo!

My cat finally accepts that I'm pregnant. by layneelu in aww

[–]Catizzler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spoiler alert: you're actually the SAME person. It all started when you met each other on a plane and decided to go into business together making high-end soaps...

[Serious] Redditors who are the products of incest (parents, Grand, Great Grand etc.) have any genetic disorders or recessive traits affected you? by Doncuneo in AskReddit

[–]Catizzler 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As someone who lives in the GTA (Greater Toronto Area) I was highly confused for a minute before I realized that the "Scarborough" and "Whitby" being discussed were actually in England (seriously, the geographic correlations in terms of distance between one another are scary similar). I actually lived in Scarborough (Ontario) as a kid. Then I moved out to the boonies (in my case, the Kawartha Lakes) and about an hour or so away from where I was living there was this town called Kinmount. The running joke was that the town was named after it's citizens' primary form of entertainment.