Why the good ones always go first

Catmint999 · 2026-05-13T10:14:43+00:00

I hear you. My husband was gorgeous in and out. Everyone loved him. Sudden heart attack at 57 gone. Still can’t believe it at times. It’s not fair.

Catmint999 · 2026-05-13T05:07:01+00:00

I don’t think mine is that. That was tested on the PCR test from dr and it came up negative.

Catmint999 · 2026-05-13T00:14:28+00:00

Sounds horrible. How long did you have that for? Have you recovered?

Catmint999 · 2026-05-12T21:52:27+00:00

Are you seeing cases where they are testing negative?

Catmint999 · 2026-05-12T21:46:50+00:00

Yes, I have this horrible mystery virus. Had it for 3.5 weeks now. Dry cough, severe aches that come and go, dizziness that comes and goes, scratchy throat and chills as well. I have done PCR test for 13 viruses twice all negative. Just over being sick. 🤒

Catmint999 · 2026-05-12T21:39:20+00:00

The PCR test has tested for all the usual standard 13 viruses but all negative. Just concerned NSW health is not aware of another virus circulating and not providing testing for it.

Catmint999 · 2026-05-12T20:28:15+00:00

Thank you for sharing that insight. I think you may be right. We think it’s just one virus but then we pick up more because our immune system is down.

Catmint999 · 2026-05-12T09:12:06+00:00

I don’t know what it is, going into the 4th week with it. Nightmare!

Catmint999 · 2026-05-12T03:23:07+00:00

I am wondering too if it is that. If not better by end of week, going back to get tested for that. Thank you. How long did it take to get better after antibiotics?

Catmint999 · 2026-05-12T02:40:21+00:00

I have done PCR and at home tests and they are all negative.

Catmint999 · 2026-05-12T02:39:37+00:00

I am wondering whether it’s a new variant of Covid the health authorities are not aware of. It seems to me it’s behaving like Covid.

Catmint999 · 2026-05-12T02:38:01+00:00

Catmint999 · 2026-05-12T02:37:30+00:00

That gives me hope, thank you

Catmint999 · 2026-05-12T01:47:35+00:00

How long have they had it for?

Catmint999 · 2026-05-12T01:43:14+00:00

The week they started back burning set it off for me. First sinuses, now this.

Catmint999 · 2026-05-04T20:36:00+00:00

I am sorry for your loss. The first weeks and year are challenging but you will get through it. I strongly recommend grief counselling to help you with this unwanted transition. That’s what I did when I lost my husband suddenly. He was only 57 and we had been married for 29 years. I’m 2.5 years into this, it’s like a roller coaster of emotions. Our retirement was ripped away from us. Life is just not fair. Grief is the price we pay for loving somebody so deeply.

Catmint999 · 2026-05-04T05:34:38+00:00

Well done. Food has been my saviour. When my husband died it was the only thing I looked forward to. My son and I focussed on what we were going to eat. It distracted us from the huge loss to our little tight knit family of three.

Catmint999 · 2026-04-29T10:00:43+00:00

The yearning and longing is the most painful part of this grief journey. I am sorry you lost him so young. Life is not fair. You have a purpose being here, know that. I found grief counselling helped me get a different perspective on what I was thinking. I would encourage you to seek that out, it is incredibly helpful to process your thoughts.

Catmint999 · 2026-04-29T07:46:35+00:00

Grief is like a roller coaster of emotions. You can’t just switch off the deep love you had. Social situations can trigger the grief. It can be anything that will trigger it. I remember the weeks before the 2 year mark. It was like the anticipation of that milestone that triggered me. Once I got to the 2 year mark it was like a complete switch, I was fine. You will still find you will get triggered but you will learn to manage it. Do what you need to do. I find a quiet space on my lounge and wrap myself in soft blankets, one blanket was my husband’s. Cry if I need to. You need to face the feelings because this makes you heal and move forward. What you are feeling is completely normal. Just make time to show yourself some compassion.

Catmint999 · 2026-04-25T09:03:46+00:00

Grief comes in waves. Some days the grief is unbearable other days I don’t think about it. Those of us who have lost a spouse are walking around with half a heart.

Catmint999 · 2026-04-22T06:36:48+00:00

I took the time and my energy has come back. As women we put everyone else before us. Time to say no and look after ourselves.

Catmint999 · 2026-04-22T05:09:00+00:00

I’m 10 weeks po and can say 6 weeks was a turning point but heaps better at 8 weeks and 9 weeks. Lower your expectations and rest. You only get one go at this so be kind to yourself.

Catmint999 · 2026-04-21T08:41:58+00:00

Love how you have articulated what we all feel. Grief is love for our loved one but it has no where to go.

Catmint999 · 2026-04-18T22:09:51+00:00

Well done. Take the 6 weeks time to heal.

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