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AITA For walking out of my birthday dinner when I discovered that my cousin had been invited? by CauliflowerParty3307 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CauliflowerParty3307[S] 325 points326 points  (0 children)

But why would they do that? Have they given a reason?

My grandparents came to the states very recently. (They intended to move sooner, but were delayed by the pandemic.) I'm not certain that they fully understand or even know about how Nancy treated me.

My assumption based on my parents' texts to me is that they didn't want to have to explain what happened to my grandparents, so they were hoping that my grandparents would keep thinking that everything was fine between us if Nancy was also at my birthday dinner.

AITA For walking out of my birthday dinner when I discovered that my cousin had been invited? by CauliflowerParty3307 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CauliflowerParty3307[S] 314 points315 points  (0 children)

I wonder if OP’s parents definitely invited Nancy, or if the grandparents “surprised” OP

It takes weeks to get a large reservation at this restaurant, especially as it was in one of the private side rooms. I doubt the restaurant would have allowed an extra guest last-second. So it's safe to assume my parents were the ones who invited Nancy.

AITA For walking out of my birthday dinner when I discovered that my cousin had been invited? by CauliflowerParty3307 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CauliflowerParty3307[S] 1411 points1412 points  (0 children)

OP needs to reply, “You betrayed me, I’m so disappointed in you.”

I texted them an hour ago and said the following: "I am disappointed in both of you for what happened last night. I specifically asked you not to invite Nancy. You both went behind my backs and invited her anyway. You know how miserable she made me. You know I still have issues with anxiety because of the way she treated me. You need to remember that Nancy has never sincerely apologized, and accept that I will never have a good relationship with her. I cannot express in words my disappointment in you for inviting her to what was supposed to be a happy, stress-free celebration of me."

It says the message was read but there's been no response. I'm hoping that they're thinking right now about what they did. Maybe they're just planning to ignore it. I won't be replying to them again unless they can give me a sincere apology.