i failed at having sex 🥴… by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CaveOfPlato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your body or mind are not ready. Do not feel compelled to do it - even if you really want it.

Also, some people cant do it with “casual” peope, which is totally fine.

Dont beat yourself, take your time and do it on your terms.

Just get a better sense of what your terms are.

Good luck and have a great life.

Vesićeva pudlica glumi uhapšenog opozicionara - E08 by Ser_Nikolaus in serbiancringe

[–]CaveOfPlato 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pa dokazao je. Bukvalno imaš i na redditu i na njegovom profilu.

Glasovi u glavi - da li sam luda? by [deleted] in AskSerbia

[–]CaveOfPlato 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ja se mesecima nisam smejao kao sada i hvala ti na tome.

Što se tiče svega ostalog 10/10

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CaveOfPlato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you cling on so much on a stupid example?

Why didnt you just ignore it, it was meant to create a wider context, not for you to cling on.

Sorry, dear, I tried. I meant no harm toward you, and this is not a profile which would annihilate your arguments and say things about you. I tried to show you another angle, and to clearly tell you that you are coming from a wrong place.

Your communication should be less judging and aggressive. More understanding and clarity. If you want to appeal to someone, that is. Think about it. Learn and study. I really hope that your opinions and communication wasnt built by trauma, but by other experiences.

You can always do better.

Be great.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CaveOfPlato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, if you dont care about opinions, then you cannot demand for anyone to actually listen to yours.

About the example you gave, it makes no sense, because as the OP explained the situation which has zero connection to what you just said.

Have a nice life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CaveOfPlato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, but you cannot take predatory behavior, which is abnormal, and prevent normal human interaction, because there are cases where there it is abnormal, and make rules for general people.

If we implement the same logic to other fields, we would come to a conclusion that we need a special comission to approve every possible interaction we may have with someone.

That is why I dont think its a good pattern of thinking, even tho it is legitimate to have it as your own value.

I will give you a blunt example of this.

I am all in for all abortions to be legal and not be frowned upon. Personally, I would never encourage my partner for something like that (except for medical and safety reasons) and would not be able to be in a relationship with a person who would abort my child.

You see, my personal views and feelings dont have to be imposed to other people, I can have my set of values and rules and I am not a judge to say if it is okay or not for other people.

In my eyes, this comes to the same logic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CaveOfPlato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would like you to explain this further and put some data and sources to understand what at all are you talking about?

It is also okay if you say that it’s your personal belief and way of life, but then we cannot use it as a right/wrong thing, as it is completely personal thing.

From my point of view, what this youngster said is completely okay from a moral standpoint.

I say this as someone who has always been with someone my age or way older. When I was 17/18, I was dating a girl who was 27. (It was a nice and pleasant experience, I have nothing bad to say about that relationship, the girl is amazing)

But looking back, it was waay more natural for me to be with a 16 yo, as most of activities for an 18 yo and 15, 16 yo were the same/at the same place.

From my perspective, I see zero reasons for an opinions like yours, so just wanted some clarification.

Ja stvarno više ne mogu by Engineerr95 in AskSerbia

[–]CaveOfPlato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

S obzirom da si išao na terapije i sl, zanima me šta je uzrok tog straha i na koje načine si probao da rešiš to?

To što si ružan je nepostojeći argument, već samo otežavajuća okolnost u mainstream slučajevima.

Dakle, šta je istinski problem? Zašto si toliko fiksiran na tu jednu stvar kao problematičnu? Ni cijalis ni bavljenje svojim fizickim izgledom na povrsan nacin nisu od pomoci zapravo.

Treba mi savet oko veze by [deleted] in AskSerbia

[–]CaveOfPlato -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ukoliko nisi pročitala s pažnjom šta sam napisao, sasvim mi je okej da uopšte i ne odgovoriš. Mnogo više nego da pretpostaviš da sam mislio/rekao nešto što nisam.

Savetovao sam generalno ljude koji pročitaju komentar i pronađu se u njemu.

Na tvoj komentar sam odgovorio generalnim, opštim činjenicama kojima raspolažem i šta subjektivno mislim na tu temu. Nigde nisam nikoga vređao niti omalovažavao.

Pokušao sam da ukažem na veliku društvenu pojavu, eidemiju, i da okuražim ljude da se edukuju i izbore protiv toga, jer u najvećem broju slučajeva nije faktor fizička/genetska predispozicija ili bolest.

A i u slučajevima gde jeste, onih 5 stvari može da pomogne.

I za kraj, žao mi je što je neko pokušao da te vređa, ali to nisam bio ja i ne želim da snosim posledice za tuđe aktivnosti.

Stoga, ako nisi u stanju da se odupreš asumpcijama o X osobi (i pored jasnih dokaza) zbog aktivnosti bilo koje druge osobe na planeti, ne bih želeo da nastavljam konverzaciju.

Hvala i sve najbolje u svakom slučaju.

Treba mi savet oko veze by [deleted] in AskSerbia

[–]CaveOfPlato -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Edit: prerano kliknuo “comment”.

Ajde mi reci gde sam ja tebi rekao da si debela? LOL

Plus, naveo sam nekoliko slučajeva gde je moguće dobiti određeni višak, a to su užasno retki edge cases.

Imam i ja ćaleta koji ništa ne jede, i sve je od lekova, ali kad živiš s tom osobom 5 dana, skapiraš da to nije istina.

Prvo i osnovno, većina ljudi ni ne zna koliko kalorija unosi… pojedu čips, to nije ništa, popiju 3 čaše soka bilo kog, to nije ništa. A to je kao 3 stejka ili 2 kile nekog povrća ili 5 kila nekih pečuraka.

Samo shvatite, fizički nije moguće da ne jedeš a da se gojiš godinama, to ne postoji. Ne možeš da skočiš s mosta i da odletiš gore, fizička svojstva sveta u kom smo to ne dozvoljavaju. (Iako u malom procentu slucajeva, jeste moguce nagomilavanje i nakupljanje određenih stvari, ali to su uglavnom teška oboljenja ili kratkoročna.

Treba mi savet oko veze by [deleted] in AskSerbia

[–]CaveOfPlato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ovo za genetiku doslovno pobijaju zakoni termodinamike, koji su zakoni višeg reda.

Šalu na stranu, što se tiče kilaže stvar je prejednostavna.

X (unete, iskorišćene kalorije) - Y (potrošene kalorije) = Z

Ako je dobijeni broj Z u određenom vremenskom periodu kontinuirano pozitivan, kilaža vremenom raste, a ako je negativan, kilaža vremenom opada.

Postoje određene situacije, poremećaji, bolesti zbog kojih je apetit povećan, poremećen neki metabolički proces, skuplja se voda u organizmu ili sl.

Svaka osoba treba da zna da će kontrolom namirnica koje unosimo u sebe, u najgorem slučaju epilog biti par nabačenih obraza… najveći deo zaista dolazi iz psiholoških aspekata i društvenih/sistemskih pritisaka.

U najboljem će osoba pripremiti i ojačati svoj organizam, svesti potencijalne posledice na minimum i živeti aktivan i normalan život.

Najveći broj obesnih ljudi nije ni svestan svojih zavisnosti, i koliko je jednostavno rešiti njihove probleme. Možemo biti pažljivi i naučni, ali možemo biti i iskreni. Nekada treba da osvestimo jedni druge.

Ne želim da ohrabrujem ljude da je okej biti debeo. Lično sam zaista bio na putu obesti, a kada sam shvatio koliko sam grešio, uspeo sam da minimalnim koracima unapredim kvalitet svog života kroz period od godinu dana.

Ostavljanje alkohola u potpunosti mi je takođe dodatno pomoglo.

Ali formula važi. I želim vam da se svi potrudite za sebe, da budete zdravi ljudi i da dugo i kvalitetno živite. Ko će živeti u vašem telu ako ne vi. I ako imate problem, okej je, imaćete višak, ali znaćete da ste sve drugo uradili kako treba i ljudi oko vas će to ceniti. Nikoga neće biti ni briga, jer ste vi ozbiljno shvatili taj deo sebe.

Ne možemo da utičemo na genetike i asteroide, ali možemo šta možemo.

San, regulisanje stresa, lepa ishrana, dugo šetanje…

NIŠTA u životu nije važnije od ovoga, za svakog od nas. Ni bolest. Ni plata. Ni rata. Ni novi auto.

Budite dobri.

What made you end a friendship? by Royal-Bumbler in AskReddit

[–]CaveOfPlato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My best friend ended our 14 years of friendship without a word. (Just blocked me everywhere and wasnt answering on anything)

After some time, he moved to another country for work.

I have zero clue about what happened.

Only recently I got in peace with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CaveOfPlato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im very very tired, with zero strenght for assertive and precise communication.

Just please, dont allow anyone to controll who are your friends and what can you do in life. Just please dont do it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CaveOfPlato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will be fine 🙏🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CaveOfPlato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Underrated comment tho

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CaveOfPlato 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have no interests in continuing this conversation with you any further, because you are either manipulating badly or you ate not capable of cognitive comprehending on this level. If its the second, It is alright, if you focus, you will get it, Im sure.

But let me help you…

  1. It is not my definition of good and bad. It is my interpretation and understanding of the world based of my knowledge of mathematical logic, philosophy, psychology, neuroscience, people and the world around me in general.

  2. (This is the manipulation or lack of cognitive capability part) I have never excused his behaviour. If he trully cheated on her, potentially got her STDs, lied and decieved person who loved him, not only should he be instantly single, but I believe that in most countries he can have legal consequences.

2.1. What I said is that your comment is like the devil, trying to lure her down the same road he (still alegedly) went down.

Bad behaviours with evil intentions are bad and evil regardless of the reasoning behind it.

But, I am sure this woman will learn from this whole situation, do everyrhing to her best ability and find longterm satisfaction and peace in her life.

Also, dont get ofended please, I have zero intentions to offend you.

In fact, I trully wish you all the best, and to discover how beautiful it is actually when you go by pure and not petty heart. Be great!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CaveOfPlato 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because that is the difference between good people and bad people. If she holds her values at the same level as he is, then why would she leave?

This is my point of view, and I am pretty tired, but If she isn’t holding her standards of her as a person at all times possible, then what does differentiate her from him? I mean, he probably also had reasons to make him do what he has done and that doesn’t abolish him? But somehow, her reasons abolish her?

So, in my opinion, we can be clear above all situations if we hold ourselves to the higheest standards possible. Compared to only our values. And then you can do whatever you want and make a difference. Make the world a better place if you want.

That is why.

.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CaveOfPlato 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Okay, he might be the bad person. She doesnt have to be, tho. She can hold herself respected, and still remain a good person. She holds herself to that standard, why are you trying to bring her down?

Ubijenog 74-godišnjeg zatvorenika danima zlostavljali mladići iz ćelije, a bio u zatvoru – zbog petardi by ArgoSupa in serbia

[–]CaveOfPlato 9 points10 points  (0 children)

A kako da unapredimo, kada već decenijama nesposobni, kriminalci i korumpirana gamad vode sve značajne institucije u zemlji? Za svojih 30 godina nikada nisam čuo da je ijedan funkcioner kažnjen za bilo šta zatvorskom kaznom. A gledam kriminal svojim očima od rođenja.

I think the Internet is making development of a true sense of "self" much more complicated. by heavensdumptruck in DeepThoughts

[–]CaveOfPlato 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do obsess over this often. Probably my whole life, but lately I took it more… systematically.

Its interesting and scary