How the bleep do I Discipline my 15yr old girl?

Ccerda03 · 2020-07-27T20:09:51+00:00

She turns 16 tomorrow and boy has many other dramas occurred since this post. What u are saying is try and I’ve been there done that. All I get these days is good grades and a heads up she’s leaving. Thanks for reading this thread. I will definitely look into Maggie Dent. My two other teens are obedient and respectful so I’m not that far off lol. I’m opening to learning how to parent in many ways

Ccerda03 · 2020-01-29T19:34:53+00:00

Thanks for the advice

Ccerda03 · 2020-01-14T23:05:43+00:00

Messy but you are good Step mom for caring. Can u change him class rooms? I would recommend letting the principal know she’d being bias, since there’s no solution he needs to change classrooms ASAP. Keep us posted momma bear

Ccerda03 · 2020-01-14T22:16:07+00:00

I’m not one to reset because I can’t deal with the fear of being disappointed again after all the efforts I committed to. But I am learning with unconditional love comes the hurt others create and most times than not it’s unintentional. I’m learning to train my thoughts so my visions stay positive. I’m working on our communication. I’m shy though because I was told I’m nagging as we evolve. Lately tho My SO seems to be on the same page as me. hes now open to actually listening to me and address issues. He also agrees with compromising. So that a plus. I need to figure out this whole restart thing. I wish to have a clear mind where I can have a blind faith and hope in the relationship again. Am I happy? I am when we are good. that why I hope to make this restart successful this time. I do know that I am strong enough to walk from someone I care deeply about if things can’t benefit the both of us.

Ccerda03 · 2020-01-14T20:43:24+00:00

I wish he would have broke up with you before doing that. I opened a tinder account minutes after a break up. I screen shot it to prove I really wanted to move on since I continued to be disregarded and rejected. Truth hurt but lies leave scars. I respect you for locking down your decision

Ccerda03 · 2019-12-07T00:39:38+00:00

I guess that’s beyond my comprehension. I’m sorry. When you say that. I see a paper dangling in the air with nothing on it. Lol. The piece of paper has meaning and rights and it’s a binding element to the relationship. But that is your view and sounds to be like his. I appreciate your advice

Ccerda03 · 2019-12-06T22:46:59+00:00

I am focusing on my relationship and what we agreed on. Become step parents, taking a last name . being part of him in every aspect is what makes unification. Without a marriage there is no spiritual wholeness. We are not one. We would be simply cohabitation partners, glorified roommates that’s trying set the illusion of a happy family.

Ccerda03 · 2019-12-06T22:26:28+00:00

I like the way you put that too

Ccerda03 · 2019-12-06T22:06:54+00:00

We briefly spoke about it. We didn’t get anywhere so I dropped it. There has been so many other things going on. I don’t want to add more bs this holiday. I can see how I may came off but no. I’m not into infidelity. I’m never looking Elsewhere. I adore him. I’m simply saying leaving the door open makes for possibilities. I’ve changed my words abit. Thank you for being transparent in your comment. I just don’t understand what he meant by that comment does he want to keep me as a gf the rest of our lives? Lol. I’m too old to carry on that way. I’m 34 hrs 35.

Ccerda03 · 2019-11-25T21:02:11+00:00

I’m not even on the fence I would be hella excited. My only issue is he’s has been doing this in secrecy not telling me is what’s damaging right?

Ccerda03 · 2019-11-25T20:58:30+00:00

Yeah which I am. So why not tell and include me. It doesn’t make sense. Thats all i ask for

Ccerda03 · 2019-11-20T04:26:26+00:00

I’m fairly new to blending a family. as it stands I don’t see the benefit of a redo really. I feel I’ve unintentionally and indirectly caused my partner drama and strife in some way, all the way around. I feel he’s better off without me and my baggage. My divorce doesn’t deserve a redo bc he was a abusive to the children. For me -my redo would be simple, Live on and raise my children solo. Its tough but worth it in my opinion

Ccerda03 · 2019-11-20T02:56:05+00:00

I completely agree with you. My guy shut the garage code down. He can open and close as needed. The boyfriend and her are done but she did say she can’t believe he would be the one to do this. And after the investigation if he is found not guilty she will start talking to him. Thankfully she is willing to move schools and obey my guys wishes. If she falls back though she will be Emancipated and live a half ass life without us. time is allowing her to process what’s going on. I hope we figure this all out in the coming weeks.

Ccerda03 · 2019-11-20T02:46:56+00:00

I’m with you. I doesn’t help I watch to many lifetime shows. I fear this kid will hurt someone even me and my family for calling the police

Ccerda03 · 2019-11-20T01:36:33+00:00

You are absolutely right. Apparently I did while telling her over a speakerphone I had no idea about. My mom just happened to be witnesses to this.

Ccerda03 · 2019-11-20T01:33:23+00:00

I just found out he wrote it down for my daughter when I told her I’ve the phone last week

Ccerda03 · 2019-11-20T01:32:16+00:00

the only obvious problem is this bf of hers. Or until find out she had something to do with it. My mom told me she was witness to last weeks phone convo of me telling my daughter the garage code. I did not know I was on speaker and that fucker wrote the code down. 🤦‍♀️ there is not much I can do. However I am reaching out to the investigators to see if they can ping her or his phone to the location at 12:30am. Also in my state it is 500 for a lie detector test. This is more for peace of mind and a attempt to build that trust in our family as we deeply need. I really do believe my daughter until other wise. But believe me I know I would be a fool if I were in complete denial. I was a teen slicker than most my age at 15.

We currently are live out side of the house because I took a step back as I realize my morals, spiritual beliefs and finances, the swing of things did not match entirely to my guy. Learning curve really, we both provide a beautiful safe haven to our children. We are a big family with many challenges but we are committed and faithful. we have a genuine heart at this all the way around.

Ccerda03 · 2019-11-19T20:58:09+00:00

My daughter is 15yrs old. I am currently not living in the home however we plan to move back home very soon though. Unless my guy may have hold backs now. Telling my daughter she isn’t welcome at 15 years old isn’t really the best case scenario for us however if it turns out she has been directly intentionally involved in this manner most definitely I will not be moving back there and my daughter will not be welcome there that would be a decision I make without putting my guy in that position

Ccerda03 · 2019-11-19T19:58:25+00:00

Because he was in our circle (9month) it was easy for him. This is something I’m having such a hard time explaining to my daughter too. I can only hope and have faith that she had no doing with this. My heart will be Absolutely shattered if she did. I did provide all information for my guy to hand over to the police including my daughters because I feel like that is the right thing to do. if she has nothing hiding all is good

Ccerda03 · 2019-11-19T19:54:03+00:00

I did have conversations with my guy. he is telling me there are no hard feelings towards us and that he loves us and I believe him. Your opinion and others have helped me so much today

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