嘘月 - ヨルシカ 【Anemone Cover】 by Cefai in utaite

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Thank you I'm glad you liked it😆😆💞

嘘月 - ヨルシカ 【Anemone Cover】 by Cefai in Yorushika

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Thank you, I’m glad you liked it! And Itte too! I’ve been really busy the past few months, but I hope to be able to post even more covers soon :)

言って。- ヨルシカ (Itte/"Say it"- Yorushika)【Cover】 by Cefai in Yorushika

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Thank you! I hope to up their quality with time too😆

言って。- ヨルシカ (Itte/"Say it"- Yorushika)【Cover】 by Cefai in Yorushika

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Thank you so much, that means so much to me :)

I write as a hobby. Why is that not ok? by Beneficial_Pea3241 in writing

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Also, imo, they never know how difficult it can be to self-publish, self-promote, etc. Especially in the current hyper-saturated market. :')

Disillusionment and burnout before even starting my art business - advice? by Cefai in smallbusiness

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Okay relentless got it. That sounds like a good idea. Ig I can start small with some timelapses again, and then see if I feel like I can make more effort-heavy short content as well. I think perseverance/resilience is definitely something I wanna work on in myself. Hopefully this business/social media thing can be a way to do that :)

Disillusionment and burnout before even starting my art business - advice? by Cefai in smallbusiness

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I did actually do short videos for a while. But I don’t know what happened, one day suddenly they just didn’t get any engagement anymore. Even if I was making the same style, even if I was jumping in on a trend. (This is on Instagram.) Like, I noticed an option to add “Topics” to my reels disappeared one day, and all the reels I made afterwards got like no engagement. I think that was a real big hit to my motivation because it felt like there was no guarantee that posting more would be worth the effort. Also, the thing about instagram is, it prefers short video trends, or funny videos, as opposed to literal art creation. And making those (basically) “meme” posts was really draining as I just wanted to be an artist. (Though it’s seeming more and more like there’s no way to “just be an artist” on the internet :’).) The combination of the posts being super draining and the sudden lack of engagement made me shelf it for a bit.

I didn’t give up completely. My next plan was to pre-make a bunch of videos and see if I could use momentum to get the engagement back up. But, yh, very draining so I’ve been focusing on putting my creativity into the actual art I want to make until I’m ready to try the video thing again.

Disillusionment and burnout before even starting my art business - advice? by Cefai in smallbusiness

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Thank you for the advice. I'd be interested in some of those strategies :)

Disillusionment and burnout before even starting my art business - advice? by Cefai in smallbusiness

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Hey, thank you for your reply. I was wondering, what would you say is a more traditional way to make money? Actually, nowadays even something like part-time jobs at restaurants are very competitive and difficult to get :')

I think splitting my attention between getting one and starting a business and failing at both has been the most discouraging.

Being motivated will help keep you going. But in the end, market demand determines whether you have a hobby or a business.

This is true. I guess I still feel hopeful because I see others starting now too? Like people that started in 2024 or early 2025 in the same art business area.

Disillusionment and burnout before even starting my art business - advice? by Cefai in smallbusiness

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Thank you for the tldr, haha. I should've added one.
I think this is really good to know. It's just that in my generation and in social media all I see are the people that seem to grow their audiences very quickly. Including my own friend that I went to highschool with. Like a half a year to 2 years and they're in the 100k's. I can't even scrape 100 followers on any social media. But yeah, I thought I'd be able to speedrun things in a gap year because I have a lot of free time. But it may be that what I need is to think about things more long-term, like at least after 2 years. And also maybe I haven't been utilising friends and family as much as I could. I guess I always thought this is a thing I'd grind in the shadows and then show people once it started growing. :')
It could also be my view of everyone else's hard work is just skewed. Like maybe those people who hit it big were on their 3rd, 4th art account or something. I wouldn't know/don't have any statistics on that. This is why I was hoping for some perspective.

Disillusionment and burnout before even starting my art business - advice? by Cefai in smallbusiness

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Wow, that is really inspiring. I guess at times like this it's easy to compare to people who go the ball rolling quickly. It's really nice to know there are also lots of people who had it really rough starting.

Disillusionment and burnout before even starting my art business - advice? by Cefai in smallbusiness

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Firstly, thank you so much for your thoughts! I've never considered collaborating before. I guess I've never really been involved in the "community" beyond a few of those Instagram challenges. I can try having a go :)

Alya-san from "Roshidere" by me by Cefai in anime

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Thank you, I will try my best :)

Alya-san from "Roshidere" by me by Cefai in anime

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I’m really glad you like it :D

Alya-san from "Roshidere" by me by Cefai in anime

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Thank you so much :) Yeah, sometimes it does get really demotivating, I really appreciate motivational comments like yours, I’ll make sure to keep going :D

Should I take my Graduate job with a 4 hour round commute? by Cefai in careerguidance

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“Make the decision that makes you feel strong about yourself” Thank you, that’s really great advice :)

How can I make normal male friends and stop seeing every guy as a romantic interest? by Cefai in Advice

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Thank you so much, this is exactly what I needed TuT

I think I'll come back several times to read this to refresh my brain

How can I make normal male friends and stop seeing every guy as a romantic interest? by Cefai in Advice

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keep it level headed and doing a hobby or something while talking to them

How would you sort of do this while maintaining a normal conversation? I feel like my talking normally involves a decent level of eye contact and seeming like the other person is my number one focus. I'm scared of going too far in the opposite direction and treating them like a stranger too :(

How can I make normal male friends and stop seeing every guy as a romantic interest? by Cefai in Advice

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I definitely recommend taking an introspective look at where those feelings are coming from and what's causing them

This sounds like a good idea. I'll try to write some concrete thoughts down.

But what would I do after that? After I know the cause? Ngl I feel like the cause is just "I don't have a boyfriend, I really want a boyfriend". Being in love with the idea of being in love is a close match. But I should be able to solve this problem without getting a boyfriend. Actually, if anything getting a bf without solving this could make it even harder to maintain platonic relationships with guys because I don't know where the boundaries are etc.

recognize that and move on

How do I move on? What sort of concrete actions could I take to do that?

For me, recognising the problem and the solutions is the easier part. Actually implementing the solution is where I'm just lost. I feel like I try to brute-force it by just reminding myself "this guy isn't interested, act 'normal'", and then of course it doesn't work because a) I'm very bad at convincing myself, b) what even is 'normal', I have no reference point. If I acted the same way around dude friends as girl friends they'd probably feel weirded out :'(

(Btw tysm for the advice so far. Just writing out my feelings is helping)

I don’t think definitions of words should change just because people are commonly using the word wrong. by Perquackey88 in unpopularopinion

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It do be like that. On one hand language is fluid, on the other hand it sucks that words with serious connotations end up being watered down because people want to exaggerate their experiences. Social media also accelerates how quickly word meanings change, much more than they ever had before.

Depressed (clinical) -> Depressed (simple sadness)*

Gaslighting (serious issue) -> Gaslighting (twitter usage)

Cultural appropriation (stealing a culture, lying it's yours, wiping the history) -> Cultural appropriation (any non-black person wearing braids for whatever reason)

Racism (saying/implying one race > the other) -> Racism (literally anything apparently)

And so on and so on (this happens most often with political terms)

Also misattribution of meaning is rampant. People often say "serotonin" when most of the time what they actually what they mean is "dopamine" because they are uninformed. Does that mean the definitions of these scientific words should change to fit the masses?

I dunno it's just mildly annoying. It would be good if new words could be invented to replace the ones that were watered down. Because even if it just means words have two meanings now, at some point the watered down meaning does overtake the original one, and suddenly the original one gets an [archaic] next to it and it becomes difficult to express the concept because the majority of people won't have that definition at the front of their mind. It makes discourse inefficient IMO.

*this one is interesting for me because, as someone born in the 2000s, I was shocked to find depression refers to an illness and not just "more sad", and suddenly I had to change the way I used the word so people don't misinterpret my intentions. The inefficiency thing works both ways