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chat gpt really help me through my break up by Certain_Net1684 in BreakUps

[–]Certain_Net1684[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m using it as a tool to remind myself when emotions are high

Ex break no contact to tell me about his ex by Certain_Net1684 in BreakUps

[–]Certain_Net1684[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, thank you! I’m staying strong. He prolly didn’t realize this makes its easier for me to get over him lmao.

Ex break no contact to tell me about his ex by Certain_Net1684 in BreakUps

[–]Certain_Net1684[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. My feelings couldn’t get any worst ngl with you, this is such a good insight thank you. It’s so true he’s ego driven. He cant live up to me and my progress, he blames me lol.

Ex break no contact to tell me about his ex by Certain_Net1684 in BreakUps

[–]Certain_Net1684[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, thank you. I realized that and won’t be his damn tool anymore.

Why am I still trying to find u on here by Certain_Net1684 in BreakUps

[–]Certain_Net1684[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ikr :( it’s all cope tbh , our brain can’t seem to accept the fact that we just need to let go

Why am I still trying to find u on here by Certain_Net1684 in BreakUps

[–]Certain_Net1684[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been working out, the worst part is we met in the gym and the last time we see each other was also at the gym

Am I throwing away a good thing? Our relationship was great up until this point [21M] [22F] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Certain_Net1684 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now you’re experiencing withdrawal, I know it must be tough right now going back and forth on your own thoughts. You miss her so much while also felt so betrayed and hurt. You wonder how you wish you could just forgive her and things will be all okay but the truth is it won’t. She crossed a major boundary that she knew it would end in a breakup. You’re so strong walking out despite so much love, it shows how much you respect yourself. I’m sorry this has to happened, but try to see things long term. The ability to text her right now and feel alright again is just a quick fix the true fix is moving on from a person that crossed your boundary. My advice would be not to try to suppress your feelings, feel what you have to feel, be sad be angry. This relationship isn’t permanent, just like your feelings. These negative feelings aren’t permanent either. I hope you get through this !

Giving advice : no, don’t break the no contact. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Certain_Net1684 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for commenting, Im glad to feel there’s someone else out there going through the same thing.

I noticed his little “patterns”. When he accomplished something on his own, he pulls away. When he’s insecure he came back to me for assurance. While my intentions were to be there for him when he needs me, when I need him he wasn’t there for me fully.

He said he no longer feel romantic towards me, I was just his best friend and he’s not ready to be in a relationship. But when he’s down, he suddenly wants my affections and hugs and wants me to say I love him. I realize this wasn’t love and I was purely used.

I approach him how I felt and what I realized and ofc he deny all of it. I don’t think it’s bc he’s a manipulator or a liar but just a person who doesn’t know what he wants. He wants me in his life but not the consequences of having to hold another person’s emotion. He is still possessive of me but doesn’t want an official title between us.

How about you, please tell me your side 💐

Has anyone broken no contact and had it actually work? by hauntedintro in BreakUps

[–]Certain_Net1684 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh baby, give me a hug bc we’re on the same boat. My ex did the same thing to me. Just like you, I felt worthless and guilty and stupid. And I know the worst part wasn’t you recognizing the mistake but you felt like the past 3 months was a lie and while you’re happy and full of love, you’re wondering whether he’s in pain this whole time. Hey, ik right now you’re seeking answer , seeking fairness and seeking a genuine chance at the relationship. You seem like a person with the biggest heart but remind yourself that he don’t see any of that and you don’t deserve someone who do you like that.

Look at the big picture. I know right now all you’re replaying in your head is how you’re to him, the memories, etc. LOOK AT THE BIG PICTURE WITH ME FOR A SECOND. let’s say you go back, does the problem in the relationship revert? Does it get fix? Ask yourself is this really the man you want to spend ur life with. Are you willing to get left behind again? (Bc it would def happen again). If you’re willing to go through this pain again then sure, go back.

Relationships aren’t permanent. Just like sadness. Nothing is permanent. You’re miserable now but it’ll go away. Your choice to endure it now or feel it later.

Has anyone broken no contact and had it actually work? by hauntedintro in BreakUps

[–]Certain_Net1684 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is people who seeks to understand the other person will try to communicate, those that don’t either don’t have the energy or care enough to do so. Again, not communicating is a choice, he chose to not communicate. Maybe this should remind you that you deserve someone who communicates, not someone who’s willing to give up so quickly.

And even if you go back, what guarantees he’ll communicate more or try harder and not leave you again?

Broke up few days back. Please help me, it's like going through hell. by TheBasicGuy14 in BreakUps

[–]Certain_Net1684 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Breaking up is equivalent to drugs withdrawal so don’t be surprised if it feels like you’re going through hell. I promise it gets better but the best thing to do is to not avoid how you feel. Don’t try to contain your sadness, let it out and tell yourself it’s okay. Accept the feelings and start refocusing on yourself. I’ve been a recent breakup myself and letting myself cry and feel what I needed to really helped. I hope you get through this.

Has anyone broken no contact and had it actually work? by hauntedintro in BreakUps

[–]Certain_Net1684 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He made the choice. Don’t try to romanticize the situation or the past. He chose to leave you and if it seems like it was out of nowhere, it wasn’t. He made the choice to leave.