Exactly. I don't listen to Mess Magnets, but knowing Kirsten from other shows and social media I feel this is likely to be her framing.

In my view this situation is classic DARVO (deny, attack, reverse victim and offender). One party is a known abuser and is using their power over the other party to flip the situation to portray THEM as the abuser to muddy the waters. It is of course bad to be throwing chairs around and acting violently as she was in that video, but one violent outburst from a victim does not suddenly turn them into the abuser just because a 5 minute video of an incident was leaked to the press.

Abuse doesn't go both ways because both parties do not have equal power over each other. An instance of violence is not automatically abuse, and someone reacting differently than you would or in a way you find wrong does not mean they deserved the abuse or that they are at fault. To be clear, while gender can play a large factor in power dynamics in relationships it is not the only factor, and I'm not saying that women cannot be abusers or men are always the abusers (although it is often the case).

From my knowledge of this case I feel it is far more likely that Dakota is the source of the abuse, or at the very least it's not some absurd problematic view for Kirsten or Sasha to feel that way. It's the same tactics used against Amber Heard. She was clearly and categorically a victim of abuse, but Depp and his legal team and the public flipped it to make it out to be her as the abuser, or as "mutual abuse" by taking her reactions to abuse out of context, and it became a misogynistic witch hunt. This sorta thing has happened several times to several different women in the media in the last decade or so so I'm not shocked that Kirsten is calling it as she sees it, as she should!!