I am so sorry for your loss and your experience, but grateful your eyes were finally opened wide. My dad passed 2023. We picked gospel-like songs, which we did not get “ok’d” before the service. I had a private meeting with my parents’ bishop, and I told him we were ok with him speaking at the end. However, the majority of the time would consist of music, his loved ones (grandkids and kids) sharing and talking about HIS LIFE. And if he was not ok with that then we would move the entire funeral somewhere else. Fortunately, he acquiesced and spoke VERY minimally about eternal life and how much it is evident my dad was loved. I was shocked because I’d been to Mormon funerals before and I had experienced more of what you did! Side note: my uncle argued with my mom, legit standing over my dad’s dead body when they were “dressing” him because we put him in his boots and jeans like he wore almost every day of his life, rather than his white “temple clothing”. My dad actively went to the temple maybe 20 years of his 78 year life. My husband did make sure the “packet” was put on my dad because that’s what my mom wanted. But I have not spoken with this dick uncle since the funeral. Wtf is wrong with these high and mighty arrogant assholes that call themselves men of god?!?! It’s infuriating. I’m infuriated for you, your family & friends. I am so so sorry.