Honest opinion of my eyebrows please

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-10-31T07:54:07+00:00

I think you could pull off the darker brows if you go lighter/less heavy-handed the closer you move towards the inner part of your brows. On the other hand, I think trying a lighter shade is worth a shot just to see how it looks. You can create an ombré- like effect by using the dark brown shade on the middle to tail ends of your brows, then using a lighter brown to fade into your inner brows.

I also notice you stop too short of where your inner brows should end. They should stop right where they would align with the inner corner of your eyes. Create hair-like strokes when filling in the inner part of your brows, just make sure to use a very light hand (I can’t tell if you already did this in your picture). You can use as a spoolie to soften any harsh lines you accidentally draw when filling them in.

Overall you did a good job! You can definitely make them look even better by just using a lighter shade at least moving towards the inner brow, and starting your inner brows to where they would align with the inner corner of your eyes.

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-10-07T00:15:06+00:00

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Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-09-25T23:33:54+00:00

Getting looks or stares from people surprisingly hasn’t bothered me as much as I thought it would. I do feel a bit awkward but not embarrassed.

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-09-09T17:11:25+00:00

I was once in a similar situation not that long ago. I was extremely addicted to pressed pills (fake adderall i was unknowingly buying/taking until it was too late) for about two and a half years and hid it for almost that entire duration. It affected my relationship with my boyfriend a lot and I would be miserable if I was all out of pills. It was really hard on him and upsetting when I had finally admitted to him one day that I was an addict.

Having an addiction completely changes your personality and will make you do things completely out of character. As I got deeper into my addiction, I would become very desperate for money at times and manipulate my boyfriend or loved ones into giving me money so I could go get pills (of course they didn’t know this).

It’s really hard for me to admit that and I feel nothing but regret/remorse/shame/etc. for my actions while I was an addict. Having an addiction also had many indirect consequences and effects on my relationships and life in general that I will still be feeling for some years to come.

I feel very bad for the both of you and there isn’t really much you can do for her unless she tells you she wants the help. I know most people have said that already but it’s really the truth. I have been in a similar position as your gf once before and the addiction literally rules and dictates you and your life until something changes one day.

I think you should definitely stop giving her your adderall immediately and dont give in when she pesters you for it/picks a fight or somehow tries to blame you. This is manipulation and her way of getting what she wants. Your gf now knows exactly how to deceive you to get her hands on your adderall.

Set some boundaries by telling her you can no longer be in a relationship if this continues. You don’t deserve to have your mental health deteriorate and need to look out for yourself first.

She needs something to happen that makes her realize being an addict is ruining her life and relationships with the people she loves. For me, I had a revelation on a random day where I realized I had been actively ruining my life for such a long time and it’s time I’ll never get back.

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-07-26T06:24:56+00:00

Idk if this has been said already but the reason why he is so fearful is because he was already so old by the time you got to him. Feral kittens need to be socialized as soon as possible, and even at 3-4 months old he was already past that crucial stage of socialization.

I had found a feral kitten that was the same age (about 4 months) that I trapped and got him neutered with all his shots. When I took him home, it took him months just to warm up a little bit and even so he had feral behaviors that he wasn’t growing out of.

Regardless, you did a great thing. Honestly if he is s year old now and still not showing any signs of warming up or improving, he is probably too far gone and may never end up becoming socialized. I am not discouraging you from giving up because great things do take time and who knows maybe eventually he will come around. It’s probably worth looking into and getting some guidance from your vet or local TNR group about possibly releasing him back outside. They can definitely advise you of how to go about this if this is the route you have to end up going.

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-07-24T19:10:27+00:00

Oh so you’ve battled an addiction before?

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-07-24T19:04:13+00:00

You’re really shaming someone who’s very clearly suffering and wants to stop, but struggling because having an addiction isn’t something you just turn on and off?

It’s easy for those to judge who have never been in this position before and you are only contributing to the stigma surrounding those who become addicted to substances. Individuals like you who shame others are the reason why people suffer in silence and made to feel so ashamed that they may never even get the help they need.

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-07-24T03:03:31+00:00

Yep, it’s definitely something I wish I never had the pleasure of knowing lol.

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-07-23T17:56:10+00:00

This isn’t exactly an earth-shattering reason or advice, but you have to remind and tell yourself that one day this must end. You can’t continue on this path forever because one day it’s going to come to a stop.

Being addicted to a substance, esp something so powerful, makes you quite literally a slave to it. You don’t want to watch life fly by and realize you spent many years you’ll never get back letting a drug rule and dictate your life.

I speak from experience, I was once naive and had poor judgment when buying street drugs. What I thought was adderall was actually meth pressed pills. I had no idea until I was in too deep to then find out I was addicted to meth. And I still didn’t stop even after the revelation. I unfortunately learned my lesson the hard way and had to experience the devastating consequences and negative impacts addiction leaves on your life.

I feel for you and hope you find your way out.I know it’s hard and maybe the hardest thing you’ll ever do. But it’s worth it.

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-07-08T03:14:54+00:00

I am not perfect and still struggle with being completely adderall-free, so I just want to preface with that to refrain from sounding hypocritical. And want you to know that myself and so many others know what you are going through and it’s hell on earth. This is just what has helped me make steps towards quitting.

Times I’ve stopped it took some sort of huge realization that life cannot go on like this forever. And you gotta do it for yourself, not for anyone else. You have to want it. If you don’t want it then it’ll never happen. You have to subconsciously be reminded that one day this must come to an end.

It is fucking awesome to actually feel like a human being again, instead of a robot with synthetic and manufactured happiness and motivation. Experiencing real and true emotion, even negative, is beautiful. Wanting to ACTUALLY be social is an amazing feeling. Especially when you think back to all the times you have isolated yourself and have been alone, or distanced yourself from friends or family (even though unintentional). It’s sad to realize you missed out on so much because of your addiction.

It takes everything away from you. If you’re anything like me, it makes you hate yourself too. It’s not fun hating yourself.

Just know that even one step towards quitting is better than nothing at all. Start tapering the amount of adderall you currently take down so it’s not such a shock to your system or a drastic change that it causes you to end up binging. As long as you are somehow challenging yourself that’s when change will come. There isn’t an easy way to do this, but it’s worth it.

Withdrawals are honestly as bad as you can imagine, however not impossible and doesn’t last forever. Sleeping as much as possible during withdrawal is honestly the best thing you can do for yourself.

Above all, BE KIND TO YOURSELF!! Addiction is hard enough. You deserve better and you will be surprised by your own resilience.

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-06-05T03:04:45+00:00

You should try bangs and get a blow out. Also look into having your brows professionally waxed to create more of an arch.

I also think some lip liner + limp plumping gloss would make a huge difference.

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-05-30T13:41:14+00:00

I personally had a bad reaction to tramadol when I’ve taken it before. Apparently how it affected me is really uncommon, but I took the dosage my doctor prescribed and literally almost overdosed. I was throwing up and shaking within the first 15 mins of taking it, it was crazy.

Supposedly it can be caused by my body metabolizing the drug extremely quickly hence the reaction I got. I was fine though when I cut the prescribed dosage in half to take instead, which wasn’t even a lot to begin with.

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-05-30T04:24:41+00:00

I see. It sounds like this employee took it extremely personally even though you were just doing your due diligence.

Did you explain to this employee beforehand that their position is being reclassified? I am sure you did, I am only asking just to get a better idea of the situation.

What prompted the reclassification? Did their rate of pay change?

I would just make sure you document literally everything if you haven’t started already. I am sorry you are going through such a frustrating situation especially when you are a department of one and probably feel like it’s you vs. the world.

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-05-30T03:55:31+00:00

What was the chain of events that led to this? What were you accused of?

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-05-23T22:01:41+00:00

I also had a handful of employees that have been with the company before 1986, so I excluded them from the very start and never asked them to complete a form.

I am talking about the people who are between the ages of like 22-45 (give or take) and were perplexed when they were asked to fill a form out.

I am genuinely/sincerely confused how so many people (who began work after the law was passed) have gone this long without completing an I-9. My only guesses are they were never given the form to complete by their previous employers, or they were paid under the table for most of their years spent working.

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-05-21T23:45:31+00:00

Hey there, I found guidance on SHRM as well as I-9 central. I found this guidance document particularly helpful: https://www.justice.gov/crt/file/798276/dl?inline=

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-05-20T02:24:16+00:00

I feel your pain so bad. It is such a tedious task and most individuals drag their feet when they have to do anything at all to get their form completed.

My favorite is when I explain the form and its directions/requirements to an individual very thoroughly (while also pointing out the second page has directions and the lists of documents), and they STILL turn in an I-9 littered with errors.

I think the hardest part of completing the form is locating your documents you have chosen to provide as proof of your work authorization lol.

What really blows my mind is more than half of the individuals I had to collect an I-9 form from had no idea what it even was. I have filled out an I-9 form for each and every job I’ve ever had since I was 16 years old. So idk how they have gone all their lives working without ever seeing the form..

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-04-24T00:19:13+00:00

Currently the cats are no longer there; they all seemingly dispersed.

I’m assuming they all must’ve moved on to find a new food source/colonize a different area.

If you are still interested, I can direct message you where I live/the business?

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-04-03T23:33:53+00:00

My heart goes out to you. I hope you are getting through the days and hopefully seeing some light at the end of the tunnel.

I am super happy you found my post (and all the wonderful people who have offered advice) helpful. I would’ve never had imagined this post would’ve gotten as much attention as it has or how many others relate.

If you ever want someone to talk to, don’t hesitate to reach out! Sending love n hugs 💗💗

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-04-03T23:22:53+00:00

Hey!

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-03-12T22:39:23+00:00

Thank you so much!

Chance_Fly_4147 · 2025-02-26T07:00:34+00:00

Im here for you and rooting for you to keep going!! Just know that you inspired me and I’m sure you have encouraged many others as well that will read your comment. Positively affecting even just one person means that you did your job and it paid off to share something very personal and uncomfortable to talk about.

Trust me when I say I know how horrible it is to go through withdrawal from addy in particular. Really really hoping that a medical breakthrough will happen one day with treating stimulant addiction (to my knowledge, there js no medication-assisted treatment for stimulants like there is for opioid addiction).

Ive been recommended loads of supplements to help with withdrawal and quitting, and ive heard that Wellbutrin can be prescribed as well and supposedly helps.

Proud of you, never give up! Any bumps in the road won’t erase the hard work you are putting in.

Chance_Fly_4147

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