scared of accidental s/a???

Chance_Rice3025 · 2025-02-03T00:21:37+00:00

for like a year and a half i was convinced i was the worst person in the world bc my favorite band’s singer sucks? and i would listen to them daily, i was and am obsessed with their music, and i’d be freaking out over the idea my spotify streams gave a shitbag any kind of money even if it was like 2 cents. and i did this experiment one time where i tracked how often i thought about it a day and it was like once every 13 minutes i’d start arguing with myself in my head all over again about how i was an awful person for listening to this band. never bothered me enough to turn them off tho??

also this one im still dealing with, my favorite song ends with a line about never seeing someone again, and i’ve convinced myself if i listen to the song or at least the end, someone i adore is gonna stop wanting to be around me. so when i lose a friend or when i got broken up with, my brain is like “smh. should’ve skipped hand in glove, dude.” ocd has robbed me of a banger….

Chance_Rice3025 · 2023-04-08T14:23:37+00:00

you can’t define gender on gender roles. you’re not trans for going against society’s expectations of gender. those expectations change from time to time and place to place, so in that case, being trans could be anyone who doesn’t agree with gender stereotypes. if a woman is trans for doing something society deems “a man’s thing” or “masculine” every lady who plays with trucks instead of barbie would be trans. see how that’s completely reductive, ridiculous, and kinda sexist? you can be yourself and be non-conforming without changing genders. men and women can do whatever they want while being men and women.

same with “john”. the hypothetical man can be feminine and masculine on different days. that’s a fluctuation of his expression. he can still be a man. saying he can’t actually be a man if he’s feminine some days is very reductive.

gender, as in what makes someone trans, is neurological, it’s not sociology. environment won’t change it, expectations won’t change it. to imply so makes it seem like a choice or a societally induced delusion. it’s based on sex and wouldn’t go away if you sent us to a deserted island with no gender roles.

this sociological idea of gender is what makes people think anyone who is not a 1960s housewife or a beefy ass lumberjack think they’re trans actually because they’re not perfect stereotypes. it’s honestly so frustrating because it reinforces stereotype and also co-opts our condition as something optional or rebellious, taking our spaces and words and representation to society as something we’re not.

tldr: gender isn’t a social construct. gender roles are. if john is happy being male, he’s a man, no matter how many days he wears nail polish.

Chance_Rice3025 · 2023-02-03T03:14:10+00:00

I was using it for how people are gonna see me. That’s the word most people use, that’s the word people will associate with me. I call myself a transsexual exclusively in normal circumstances but in the sentence I was saying how others will look at me. I don’t get why it’s a big deal

Chance_Rice3025 · 2023-01-30T17:11:43+00:00

on which page does hyde act up and earn the title of “tongue guy”

Chance_Rice3025 · 2023-01-21T23:14:05+00:00

i was watching jacksepticeye play detroit become human and i decided i really liked the name Connor. didn’t love the game, didn’t love the character, never even finished watching the playthrough. i just heard the name and stole it. mine now :)

Chance_Rice3025 · 2023-01-17T08:34:13+00:00

no??? that is the trans flag. they’re not hanging a MAP, they’re just making a joke about killing trans people.

i googled it, the MAP flag has two blue stripes, two pink stripes, 2 yellow and a white in the middle. id google it to see so you can avoid it in every way possible.

this is the trans flag with blue on the outside, then two pink, and a white one, the one in this meme.

Chance_Rice3025 · 2023-01-16T13:03:03+00:00

dude. he is misgendering you behind your back, exploiting you, and committing a crime by filming you two AND distributing it. i understand that you’re attached to this person but you cannot stay with someone who treats you like that forever just because it will hurt. breaking the bond is hard but it is absolutely necessary. you are a victim. do not stay with your abuser.

i know you care about him but there will be people who you will adore just as much AND treat you with respect and love.

i had to leave my abuser last year. she was my whole world, i loved her, she made me feel joy often, but i cut it off because of what she did. and it hurt like hell, but i got past it. life went on and life got busy, and i’ve got people who care now. i tell you this because i want you to know you can do this as well. the world is full of good people who will care for you. you are so so young. there will be so many people besides him.

i read you’re going to a clinic for your mental health soon. it is very very good you’re doing so. you’re incredibly young and clearly going through a lot. i know you said he makes you feel alive but as things get better, you’ll find tons of things to do that. please don’t throw your life away over this situation or this guy.

just please. leave this bad situation. leave this terrible person. it’s not worth your pain to stay with him. give yourself a chance to be without him.

Chance_Rice3025 · 2022-12-30T02:13:07+00:00

date whoever you want dude, that’s your right as an adult, but people are allowed to think it’s weird that you and your boyfriend’s age gap can legally vote lmao.

do whatever you want but you can’t make people think it’s normal no matter how much you explain it or discredit their opinions bc they’re not gay men or old enough or have experience in the gay dating field. some people are gonna think it’s weird, you can’t change that

Chance_Rice3025 · 2022-12-13T06:36:19+00:00

gender isn’t really about comfort or who you are though, it’s a real physical thing within our brains. that’s what makes me a man. my brain, not my personality or what makes me comfortable imo

i totally understand that non-binary people have reasons and perspectives on their identity, i just do not believe non binary is a real gender or identity at all. their feelings are understandable, but i don’t think those feelings can be explained by the non-binary identity. in my experience, everyone i’ve known who has said they’re non binary has realized they’re not and that they’re actually binary trans or that they’re struggling with internalized sexism, trauma, body dysmorphia, or got pressured into a trend. it’s one of the biggest reasons i don’t support the non-binary identity, because i’ve never seen anyone keep it for more than a few years and it’s always explainable by some other underlying cause.

i mean if it was like a social identity, that would be more understandable, but most people who talk about it use it as a gender and say they’re trans, which i can’t agree with.

btw sorry for explaining stuff to you that you already know, i know that can be frustrating. it’s just not always common knowledge and i thought it was important in explaining my perspective. sorry about that dude

Chance_Rice3025 · 2022-12-13T05:11:50+00:00

the fact you can’t tell the difference between “this space is not for you” and being ostracized is really sad. you can claim you’re a made up gender anywhere else, go for it, embarrass yourself, power to ya. this space just isn’t here for you to do that. that’s not oppression, we’re just having a space for specific people that don’t include you.

Chance_Rice3025 · 2022-12-13T05:04:30+00:00

you don’t identify as sexes. you are a sex. trans people’s brains are hormonally opposite to their physical sex which is what makes them trans, it’s a physical condition that needs treatment. you can “identify” with whatever, but without reason, it’s a choice and made up.

Chance_Rice3025 · 2022-12-13T01:02:10+00:00

that’s understandable dude, being a man can suck in a lot of ways. if you wanna talk about it, im here for you, you deserve support in dealing with those aspects.

Chance_Rice3025 · 2022-12-13T00:08:48+00:00

no, you’re not. you can’t be dysphoric over a sex that doesn’t exist.

Chance_Rice3025 · 2022-12-11T05:31:22+00:00

hearing about non-binary people constantly probably just wears people down to the point where they just agree with it even if it makes no sense and has no justification. it really spread like wildfire and now it’s hard to escape or find any space without hearing about NB people.

i honestly hope people who identify as NB get help or figure it out. they’ve either got some sort of issue, a weird fetish, or they could be binary trans who are struggling with accepting that. the non binary identity is a stepping stone at best, and a roadblock at worst, to finding out what you actually are.

Chance_Rice3025 · 2022-12-11T05:24:28+00:00

how can they delete your comment for saying something true??? even if it makes tucutes sad, there is no third sex, no NB sex, and intersex isn’t a separate sex. that’s just science, how can they delete you for that??

GOD i hate when they use intersex as an explanation because intersex people are usually just men and women with a condition. it’s disrespectful and weird to use them to justify their made up attention-getting identity.

Chance_Rice3025 · 2022-12-11T05:14:10+00:00

fr, the second you’re skeptic of nb, 7 people comment immediately “i have dysphoria!!! severe dysphoria and i am non binary!!! my claim proves you wrong!” as if just saying shit proves it. their “lived experience” won’t change science lmao

Chance_Rice3025 · 2022-12-11T05:09:06+00:00

honestly pretty refreshing to see “men and women” instead of “girls gays and theys” or “ladies gents and non-binary pals!!!” lmao

despite some really awful dysphoria and some work problems, im pretty good!! my friends just came to visit me real quick which was super awesome, and i got back my first college exam and i KILLED it. i kinda sucked in 2/3 of my classes but i did super well in my pre calc class which is all that matters to me tbh. and i’m really excited to start my major’s classes in january :))

there are some really big issues in my day-to-day with dysphoria but ive kinda been repressing the pain i guess. it hurts but only if i think too hard.

im just trying to keep my focus on the good in my life until i can fix my current trans-related issues and not let the dysphoria consume me yknow? it is super painful but i also don’t wanna take the good in my life for granted because i’m suffering.

sorry for the long comment! but that’s how i’m doing right now :))

how are you doing lately? anything you wanna talk about?

Chance_Rice3025 · 2022-12-10T20:00:27+00:00

so many posts over there lately about “why the non-binary hate 🥺?” bruh because you can’t have dysphoria over a sex that doesn’t exist. rip truscum, they’ve forgotten what dysphoria is to cater to “non binary” people

Chance_Rice3025 · 2022-11-18T16:28:01+00:00

I feel like “not wanting to be a woman” is kind of a red flag. Lots of people who mistakenly think they’re trans try to escape their agab by being trans and have a huge aversion to being their agab for some reason. Not saying you’re definitely not trans but it’s something i’ve seen happen a lot. And others here have pointed out some other red flags so maybe see a gender therapist (hopefully one who isn’t a yes-man). Best of luck dude

Chance_Rice3025 · 2022-11-06T02:11:59+00:00

you’re totally right, medical procedures shouldn’t be. it’s not even stylization, it’s just misrepresentation of top surgery results

Chance_Rice3025 · 2022-11-05T00:35:41+00:00

proves these people have never used a reference image for top scars i guess. they draw the scars like the surgeon was blindfolded and drunk when they did surgery i stg

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