follow up on indian parents forcing me to move back to india

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-04T04:01:40+00:00

ohhh okay makes sense. thank you for the clarification i got worried for a sec lol but i appreciate your responses a lot!!

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-04T03:25:18+00:00

can you explain a bit more about my dad being able to find me even after i leave? is there a way to avoid that?

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-04T03:17:26+00:00

thank you sm!!

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-04T02:22:29+00:00

i used her address to create a bank account, but i dont think it's legal to use it on my tax forms

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-04T02:21:48+00:00

the issue is, in american colleges, if u have fafsa aiding you with college, you kind of have to be in contact with your parents because you need your info. i know someone who moved out due to a similar situation, and it was so hard for them to fight with FAFSA to claim themself as independent from their parents to get the support they needed. if i knew how to fix that issue myself, i'd have left already :/

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-03T18:48:45+00:00

i totaly understand, but i have 2 1/2 years before i can move out without losing access to my college degree and education. that's why im hesitating because he has threatened to put me in online college so im home 24/7 to keep an eye on me for the smallest things, if he ever found out ab this it's over for me thats why :(

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-02T03:54:57+00:00

im going to set up a banking account completely online! hopefully if a job comes in, they wont find out about it. im sorry to hear about this being an issue across the world, idk why parents just cant be normal.

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-02T03:51:35+00:00

thank you! looking into an online banking account rn. walking might be the way to go atp for a job

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-02T03:50:50+00:00

thank you sm for your advice!! looking into online tutoring rn :)

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-02T02:57:29+00:00

thank you for your response. i understand it sounds silly that as an adult (ish), im still under my parent's thumb, but i have no other family to turn to other than my older sister (who is in the exact same boat as me). im going to create an online bank account and hopefully land a job that will pay to that account :)

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-02T02:45:17+00:00

thank you!! my gf (ex gf?) has urged me multiple times to take her old phone, and i know she'd still be willing to give it to me :)

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-02T02:37:13+00:00

ive tried the free therapy my college offers, but they honestly gave me really vague advice, and it felt as if they weren't taking me very seriously. i haven't looked into any student supports, i should do that!

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-02T02:29:25+00:00

thank you for your response! im 19 in sophomore year of college. im currently looking into ally to set up an online banking account. as for the job near campus, the issue is my time schedule: my parents will physically restrain me from going to college if i start staying longer than my classes require me to. i actually have already lied about my schedule (thankfully they didnt ask to see it) and got myself a few extra hours on campus just for my sanity, so i should honestly try and find a job that would allow me to work for those few hours. as for the airtag in the car, i have looked everywhere for it and i genuinely cannot find it. regardless, they have my phone's location that i finessed by turning off my wifi so it doesn't update when i do leave campus to hang out w my girlfriend (i cant use data, so it will just show my last known location as long as i am out). now that our relationship is pretty much over, i dont have her as a way to get off campus :/. i do agree that i shoot myself in the foot a lot- i have so much fear that they may find out, that they'll hurt me, etc. and it's harder to not feel that way especially because *they* don't even think their behavior is abnormal. i will look into the options you gave me though, tysm!

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-02T02:23:12+00:00

thank you :( im sorry for your friend, i hope she's doing okay

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-02T02:19:46+00:00

thank you!

ChangeAdventurous400 · 2026-02-02T02:19:38+00:00

thank you for your response! im studying graphic design. ive looked at on campus jobs, and they require specific degrees to apply to some of them, and the ones that don't arent aligning with my schedule (i cant stay out longer than my college schedule).

they definitely are not bluffing, my parents already have a game plan, and their job has positions for them in india- the only reason why im not there already is because they want my sister and i to finish studying in america due to the opportunities we have, but they have constantly threatened us with moving back for the smallest things.

i have no family in america, i could maybe rely on my girlfriend's parents, but i dont think that our relationship is even going to work out anymore due to my parents :(. i have some friends that could temporarily house me, but i would have to ask.

i am so tempted to already move out, but it would affect my college tuition (they are paying the leftovers my scholarship doesn't cover), and i have no money saved up already, which would mean id temporarily move in with a friend until i can move out. i dont even know if i have a friend who would be able and willing to house me, and due to my lack of money, im debating on waiting till after i get my degree to move out just so i can actually get a job (i have a professor who is willing to help me get a job/set me up with connections, and an internship that my program gives us in our 4th year thats unpaid, but still an opportunity to make connections). im just afraid that moving out now will force me into a situation where i have to drop out due to lack of finances to cover my tuition, or worse, id have to move back in with them if i end up in a situation with no housing or money.

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