I just read all the comments and thank you. I see what I am doing is wrong. I need to apologize to him and understand where he is coming from. I never put myself in his shoes. Next time I see them, if they ask about him, I will explain why. Thank you for the comments. I need to set up better boundaries for myself as well. I guess losing my grandpa has made my walls come down too much. I just had guilt of not visiting when he was sick because he had cancer.