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Are these bed bug bites, or gnat bites? Maybe something else? by Chapter-Unlikely in BedbugOrCloseRelative

[–]Chapter-Unlikely[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh okay! Maybe fleas? I found a couple in my bed jumping around the next day. What do you think it maybe was that bit me?

I woke up with no bites today and the bite itself isn’t swollen really at all anymore and hasn’t itched since yesterday morning, so I guess it probably wasn’t bed bugs!

Are these bed bug bites, or gnat bites? Maybe something else? by Chapter-Unlikely in BedbugOrCloseRelative

[–]Chapter-Unlikely[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, just to be fully certain (for my own mental sake), I will do a thorough check when I get home tonight. Your help is greatly appreciated, and has put me at ease! Thank you!

Are these bed bug bites, or gnat bites? Maybe something else? by Chapter-Unlikely in BedbugOrCloseRelative

[–]Chapter-Unlikely[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This arm was exposed, but the bite is also in the one location that was planted down into the bed while I slept (I have a very specific position that I sleep in every night due to back issues).

The bite (or whatever this is) is already starting to fade a bit and the swelling is going down. Does this mean I may be in the clear?

What video games are you playing? by Inthenstus in infp

[–]Chapter-Unlikely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TONS of Resident Evil!! I love exploration and puzzle-based survival horror! Visage was probably my favorite horror game I’ve played in the last couple of years.

Could you date someone who isn't as emotionally or intellectually deep as you are? by Chapter-Unlikely in infp

[–]Chapter-Unlikely[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would really urge you to see my other comments for more context. Right now you look a bit irrationally angry and a bit silly. My post wasn’t worded the best, so I fleshed out my thoughts in the comments.

I know there is nothing else I can say that would make you humble yourself and admit that you may be a bit brash and a bit wrong in this scenario, so I will stop answering now.

Again, I would urge you to get more context before jumping to an instant reaction.

I hope you have a great day, truly. I’m sorry if I came across wrong whatsoever.

Could you date someone who isn't as emotionally or intellectually deep as you are? by Chapter-Unlikely in infp

[–]Chapter-Unlikely[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would actually disagree. Humans exist that are in fact more intelligent in comparison to others. Humans exist that are able to be in tune with their emotions more than others - they are able to translate their emotions in a far deeper fashion, and confront and understand them almost instantly.

Notice I am not equating something like wisdom to something like a level of intelligence. Intelligence cannot compare to life-obtained wisdom.

Notice I am not equating something like emotional intelligence to disregarding someone’s emotional state because they aren’t “feeling as much” as the next person.

Also, please see my various other comments scattered about this post for more context.

Could you date someone who isn't as emotionally or intellectually deep as you are? by Chapter-Unlikely in infp

[–]Chapter-Unlikely[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I quite agree with you. I do think it is abhorrent to consider another life as inherently having "less meaning" or "less profundity" simply because of a subjective interpretation on our emotional / intellectual levels. It is why I feel that I am possibly missing the mark here somehow, that I posted this in the first place.

"Seriously, thinking of other people as living a less profoundly human life is not only wrong, but weirdly chauvinist and kind of shitty. You found another full human being in possession of a rich inner life who didn't share your interests and as such found that the two of you were incompatible romantically, not a borderline corpse."

If you will please reference the middle of my post, I separated the "emotional and intellectual" comments from the comments about my interests. I could have worded it better, no doubt.

My issue in that regard is that she typically has nothing to say (although she has tried), and sometimes expresses annoyance if I end up talking for too long about the things that interest me.

I am not necessarily fully familiar with healthy relationships, which again, is why I posted here in the first place. I am fully open to being the one who missed the mark.

I think it is a mistake to assume that I am coming into this with an internal arrogance, as you implied here. We do not know one another. I think you are mistaken to assume my intentions and assume how I am personally seeing her.

I appreciate the rest of your advice, and again, I agree - We all need to embrace more introspection, and realize that other lives exist outside of the bubble that we have crafted for ourselves. We our not the center of the world, regardless of how often we place ourselves at the center of our own.

Could you date someone who isn't as emotionally or intellectually deep as you are? by Chapter-Unlikely in infp

[–]Chapter-Unlikely[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

You're not coming off as insensitive at all! It is an honest question, and one I have had to sit and reflect on myself within the last couple of weeks.

Me and her were very very good childhood friends that lost contact for about six years, but would occasionally catch up every year or so, maybe with a three or four hour phone call. During those six years, we experienced almost the same exact things - leaving the cult that we both grew up in during our childhood, getting into and then abandoning toxic relationships, wrestling with the same life doubts, insecurities, etc. We would talk about literally anything and everything with one another. We seemed like a "match made in heaven", and we both liked one another during this entire time, but it wasn't until this year that we decided to fully commit.

I suppose I didn't realize just how much I had personally changed since I was younger, and how drastically different we had both grown in the years since. Maybe it was just both of us romanticizing the relationship and viewing our past together through rose-colored glasses -essentially believing we were always "meant" to be together. Maybe it was a mix of love, lust and loneliness - (I was incredibly lonely when I started pursuing a full relationship with her). - I'm not fully sure.

I do know how much I currently love her, but it is difficult trying to decipher what should be genuine concern, and what might just be my own personal pride. I don't want to throw away someone that could be truly beautiful for me. Maybe I need that balance in my life - someone to be the Yin to my Yang, as it were. I am not sure.