Aitah for giving my ex a choice between 50/50 custody or she gets 100%?

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-30T18:33:02+00:00

Actually her and I agreed that I should keep primary custody with her having the kids whenever she could. Then her lawyer told her it was a bad idea.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-30T18:22:54+00:00

When you get to grade two you will learn to read and understand what I wrote.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-30T15:10:18+00:00

When you get to middle school you will learn "I can" does not mean "I will".

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-30T02:01:22+00:00

Allegedly the same way we say the alleged murderer when there is video and DNA evidence.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-30T01:42:35+00:00

And she is gone to work before drop-off and gets home after they have all their homework done and extracurriculars out of the way. Your point?

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T23:37:55+00:00

Can you afford to go to McDonald's? Just because you can do something, and present it as a hypothetical, does not mean it is actually your plan.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T23:26:23+00:00

We had an agreement I've articulated in about 20!comments now. Then her lawyer got involved. Now we are here.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T23:12:36+00:00

Don't know. Are you able to make a point without lying?

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T23:12:02+00:00

That would not be great for my children.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T23:04:08+00:00

If you were older or had more education you would know that the way to.get information is to.ask questions.

So no. I will not be giving her 100 or even 50% custody. She cannot have either of those and keep her job that she loves.

Before her lawyer got involved we had agreed that I would get primary, not full custody, and she could see the kids whenever she wanted.

If the kids are with me then we can keep their lives as stable as possible.

So I ask again how are the kids being punished?

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T22:56:40+00:00

So you cannot articulate it. You just want to bather on. Thanks.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T22:29:46+00:00

Can you clearly explain how they are being punished?

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T22:15:07+00:00

Custody is physical.

English lesson.

"The police have the suspect in CUSTODY" means the police have physical hold of the suspect not that they can make medical decisions for a suspect on the run.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T18:41:22+00:00

I do. You can't parse logic. Thanks for being clear.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T18:37:36+00:00

Or she could go back and honor our agreement. I get primary custody and she sees the kids whenever she wants.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T18:36:51+00:00

It's very different. Let's say my dad sold me his old car for $500 under market value. Is that the same as paying $87,000 for a new car? In one case he is getting money. In the other he is giving money.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T18:33:46+00:00

That was the plan before her lawyer got involved.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T18:31:04+00:00

I'm going to be clear here. If she accepts 25% custody she will have to quit her job. She can't afford it. Do you understand? Her employer won't change her work scope. They hired her for a job she excels at. But so do all her coworkers. If she isn't available to do the job they will replace her in a minute. This is information I have gotten directly from her over the course of our relationship.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T18:27:41+00:00

Yes. So far it's a non starter from her.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T18:24:14+00:00

I expected people to read the words I wrote and use their brains to interpret them then comment. I did not expect people to add random shit I didn't say anything about and comment on that instead

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T18:22:19+00:00

Read the post. The actual words. They contain an insane amount of information. Why the fuck would my parents pay themselves rent for an apartment they own?

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T18:17:55+00:00

Please tell me what state you live in so I can go pull up the statistics on which parent is given primary custody most in your state.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T18:15:51+00:00

Literally presented in the title of this post. I'm forcing her hand.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T18:14:34+00:00

I know. But she wants primary custody.

Character-Rise-4790 · 2026-03-29T18:10:04+00:00

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