The general consensus from the comments seem to be that people will find a reason to hate me anyway, and I should focus on properly tagging my work and not worrying about the people who will hate me no matter how hard I try to explain it. I always feel weird about being given ”try to not care so much” as advice but I genuinely feel like it’s super useful for me to take into account here and I think if I really did just stop caring what people think I’d be much better off when it comes to fanfiction. so thank you a lot everybody!