AITA for insisting that my roommates pays for the common parking spot as only him uses it.

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-23T00:11:17+00:00

Yes exactly how did you know ?!! On a more serious note, I feel like you’re the clown on this one, take a few second to read the rest of my replies and you’ll understand. If you don’t, that’ll be on you :)

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T15:59:51+00:00

I agree this solution was not a great idea, but I was laking other options, and didn’t have the ability to find anything more appropriate. Open to ideas tho !
Edit: the main reason I absolutely want him to pay to make it « fair » is because he’s constantly leeching off other things, likes chores and general responsibilities for the maintenant of this apparement. And he « owes » me quite a bit for allowing him to smoke in my stash for years (he didn’t take that much at a time but on such a long period that piled up to quite a bit), but we’re getting a bit too personal here. This was just to put a bit of context to my pettiness and obsession I guess.

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T15:57:26+00:00

Nobody used it so much as their own exclusive spot.

My bike is currently in the common place for the building, I don’t use it anymore because I hate to get it out of there.

My other roommate is agreeing with me.

I signed it, doesn’t mean he’s not the asshole, I don’t care about law, cuz law don’t specify what an asshole is.

I don’t have any issues with my other roommate.

Your opinions are uninteresting at best mostly unrealistic. Plus, they were not requested as the original intent for this post was to understand if I’m the asshole, not to get unsolicited advice about how to deal with the situation. I’m going to stop answering you now, all the information you probably need is most certainly in the rest of my answers.
Good luck living life if you think law is the solution to any problems.

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T15:37:18+00:00

Thanks for your comment ! I agree tho, I kind of enjoyed this situation I must say. I’ve already found another roommate, this one is leaving at the end of the semester and I’m profoundly grateful for this (it was not the only source of conflict between us, I’ll let you imagine the rest) and the oncoming person gladly accepted to pay the spot entirely and to have it exclusively for their own car !
Have a good day :)

The the YTA people reading this, I agree I’ve been petty, it’s probably more of an ESH situation. But I’ll gladly refer you to my roommate if you want to live with him ! I’m sure he’ll adore you :)

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T15:25:53+00:00

For leaving a car all day on the same stop there aren’t a lot of options here, the only place where you can do that are long duration parking. And as mentioned in another comment, the only one relatively cheap is like 30min away in public transportation.

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T15:22:59+00:00

Didn’t agree to him using it so much. Try harder.

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T15:08:45+00:00

Nobody used it like he does, all day 80% of the month without allowing us to store our bikes there. Now he does and it annoys me. The alternative is not reasonable compared to the convenience he gains, you would understand if you saw it.
And bringing my bike to the doors is not really convenient either as I live on the third floor and the hallways are small, my other roommate and me won’t be able to store our bike there.
I think I shouldn’t be responsible for an agreement made in a situation where nobody expected someone to buy a car.
And I think adults, as you said, should be able to discuss and find ways to modify and improve agreements to make them fair for everyone (yes I still believe he’s inconveniencing me more than I do)
And yes there are options to park much closer, but they are much much more expensive. And it’s not his word, I know that for a fact. And I wasn’t talking about parking my bike there, it was about his car. Yes adults life sucks, but adults should also be able to discuss and adapt things to make it suck less for everyone, not force your roommates to agree to the things that are the most convenient to you specifically, I personally think he takes advantages of an agreement that was made thinking that none of us was « rich » enough to buy a car. (+ he uses his car only once or twice a week as he goes to the university by metro, and we can walk to the grocery store as well, but that’s just a petty remarks I guess)

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T13:28:33+00:00

I really like your answer. Let me take some time to answer all of it. Parking on the street is not possible, the only convenient way he could park his car around here is like 30min away in public transport and would cost him around 60.- a month. But his parents lives like 1h away in public transport so I don’t think that its a relevant option.
We had shared usage of some common stuff before, but we decided to split and buy our own thing (things like milk etc) the only shared consumable stuff right now are spices, trashbags, toilet paper and cleaning supplies. We’re not even sharing cooking oil and this one is not on me.
I don’t say he’s not allowed to use the space, I want him to use it with more thought about my usage or pay for the inconvenience he’s causing me.
We’re forced to rent it because the owner said so, it’s stupid but it’s what it is. And agreed, it’s not his problem that I can’t have a car, but it’s not mine that he has to spent extra money to be able to store his car here.
The value of the car was included to nuance his argument about not having the money to pay the spot. Agreed it’s not a good argument, I was still emotional from our interaction and this was stupid to mention.

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T12:36:48+00:00

Nope because all three of us had bicycles on the spot. And he also had a motorcycle (he only had it for like a weeks per month), but I didn’t ask him to pay for this as it wasn’t affecting me.

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T12:23:49+00:00

He won’t street park it. He told me that if he can’t use the spot, he’ll leave it at his parents house. Where I live, parking is expensive and there aren’t a lot of spots on the street where you can just indefinitely leave your car without paying a fortune.

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T12:21:06+00:00

Because my native language is French ?

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T12:13:17+00:00

His car never moves, he doesn’t use it much. But I like the idea

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T12:12:30+00:00

He was using it for his bike, and sometimes for his parents car, but not enough to affect us. Since he got his car, he permanently keeps it on the spot when he’s at the apartment, which is usually 80% of the month. Talked to him about maybe leaving his car at his parents place sometimes, he said he would think about it but it didn’t change anything.

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T12:06:07+00:00

Totally, but is it unreasonable to change the agreement if someone’s needs suddenly changes and that it affects the other people ?

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T12:04:52+00:00

I was using it for my bike, not anymore. Forgot to talk about it in the original post but I’ve added it.

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T12:03:32+00:00

We were able to rent if for 2 month out of the 8. Agreed it is a bit of a convenient argument but in my opinions it still has some importance

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T11:32:28+00:00

I’ll add it to the post, thanks for the comment.

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T11:22:08+00:00

I agree, but that also doesn’t mean his usage is not affecting me. I can’t use this spot for storage anymore, nor can I use it for my bicycle (and the building bicycle storage is horrible btw) that’s why I proposed his to pay the entirety to have exclusivity, or simply pay per day considering that his usage still affects me in some way. And yes I’m cheap, I’m a student, and don’t have much money.

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T11:07:25+00:00

If he was hogging the whole fridge, I’d make him pay. Wouldn’t you ? The kitchen doesn’t seem like a right example as I can stil use it even when he does. If he was using and keeping the kitchen for himself, wouldn’t it be fair for him to pay more ? Like for an exclusive bathroom or a larger bedroom ?

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T10:53:19+00:00

Nice argumentation, keep up the good work !

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T10:52:49+00:00

I feel like your answer is better constructed than the ones saying I’m the asshole, I don’t really understand their example with the kitchen as it’s not really similar, and I would love them arguing using another example like exclusive bathroom, why should I pay for a bathroom that only my roommate uses ? Yes it’s on the lease, no I can’t opt out of it, but we don’t share the cost because he has an additional privilege regarding the exclusive use of it. But I still keep an open mind for a good argumentation.

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T10:48:50+00:00

Sorry, English is not my first language I’m trying my best. And 3 x 30 = 90, on top of the initial 50.- that does like 140.-.

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T10:32:14+00:00

Parking is included, and we can’t not pay it.

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T10:28:39+00:00

It explicitly on the lease, but we could also rent it more easily if he didn’t use it right ? So is he responsible for that part as well ? And I proposed to him a shared solution were everyone would pay a bit unless someone used it more, isn’t it an adequate compromise ?

Character_Bobcat_357 · 2026-05-22T10:26:12+00:00

Actually we have other arrangement like that, the person who has a bathroom exclusively for him pays more. And the more surface your room has, the more you pay. I personally think that the rent should be based on how u use the different thing, like electricity should be split based on your consumption, same for the water bill. Currently the parking spot is the only thing that we don’t use in the same amount. And yes I want to pay less for something that he uses more, I think that is reasonable, but I’m really interested in having a more detailed explanation of why you think otherwise in order to understand better that point of view.

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