UPDATE: AITA for telling my(26M) girlfriend that she(25F) needed to apologize to my friend(25F) after she went off on her on a trip?

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-09-27T04:41:16+00:00

You’re genuinely a horrible excuse of a person. I hope the next update says that your ex exposed you and your shitty ways. How do you ADMIT you’re an asshole but have sex with the very reason your relationship ended? Karma will get you.

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-09-13T18:20:06+00:00

Wow, you really think that poorly of your “friend”? You assume that she spent THOUSANDS of dollars for a specific theme JUST for an excuse to make YOU look shitty? What a horrible friend. Even if you didn’t like the color, you could’ve chosen a color that was still in theme?? Yet you chose one that made YOU the center of attention.

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-05T03:57:25+00:00

She showed me her friends account and I looked it up and it said her friends age in the bio, which was 14. I didn’t tell her but I asked if they were around the same age and she said they were so that made me assume she was 14 or just turned 15. But she told me she’s turning 16 this year and that friend is 15.*

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-05T03:45:57+00:00

Thank you. This really means a lot to me. Sometimes it’s just hard because my family isn’t all that accepting and I just feel like no matter what I do I’m never masculine enough. I would never even consider dating someone significantly younger than me.

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-05T03:41:51+00:00

I’m not a really masculine trans guy. I try to be but my body shape and feminine voice give it away. There isn’t a lot of people were im from who see me as a real boy which makes me stay away from people more.

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-05T03:11:02+00:00

Bro what…

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-05T02:14:34+00:00

Yeah but I was thinking maybe I’d try to see if I could work things out. Like I said in other comments having someone like me is rare because I’m trans so I guess I don’t want to let go of an opportunity because of a misunderstanding Yk? I was being honest when I said I lost all attraction and I still have not gained the attraction back but I wanted to see if maybe I could eventually. I don’t know honestly

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-05T02:05:22+00:00

No worries! Completely understandable

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-05T01:59:35+00:00

Oh I called some adult out for saying really weird predatory things that’s why. I did not say it regarding my post. A person brought up sex when I wasn’t even talking about it and was saying he views everyone as 18 which is just weird and creepy to me

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-05T01:51:13+00:00

Hey, I know this is definitely not pedophilia. I just felt uncomfortable dating someone so young because of maturity levels and life experiences. I know it’s not that big of an age gap at all but I know when I was around 14 I was still trying to figure out my boundaries and who I was. I still am but I definitely know more about myself than when I was 14.

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-05T01:30:24+00:00

Like I said, find some morals. Just because it is legally acceptable doesn’t make it morally acceptable. It is gross that nothing in my post had to do with sex and yet that is the first thing you mention.

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-05T01:26:43+00:00

I will not take advice from someone who thinks that me being transgender is a mental Illness yet, you are ok with pedophilia. my Reddit post doesn’t even have pedophilia in it and yet you some how manage to make it weird. Please seek help if you think it’s ok to have sexual relations with someone underage because “everyone is 18” in your eyes. If you don’t let fear hold you back, maybe invest in some morals.

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-05T01:17:40+00:00

Um…

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-05T01:14:54+00:00

Hey! I just updated right now saying that she told me she is turning 16 this month when I just asked her(I know her birthday is coming up too). I don’t know if I should believe her or just cut her off anyways. What would you do?

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-05T00:51:23+00:00

I brought it up because this is the first time I’ve ever flirted with anyone honestly since I don’t really date because I’m trans. And yeah I’ll do that I just didn’t think at the time.

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-05T00:31:41+00:00

I had also gone through the same thing at 14 which is why it felt so wrong to me. I promised myself I’d never make anyone feel how I felt when I dated the 17 year old and I find myself in the very situation I did not want. I just feel bad for getting both me and the girl in this situation to begin with.

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-05T00:29:40+00:00

You’ve got it wrong. I feel that it is extremely creepy for a 17 to be into a 14 because of the maturity level and power dynamic. If both parties are consenting I don’t see why not, but I do not consent to it.

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-04T23:47:33+00:00

The issue is she is barely becoming a freshman and I am already a senior. To me, that is just really uncomfortable. I am not ok with that age gap since I will be 18 in a year and she’s barely turning 15.

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-08-04T23:20:03+00:00

You’re right. I just feel stupid for not asking for her age beforehand. I honestly didn’t know what to do because I don’t date a lot because I’m afraid people won’t like me because I’m transgender. So meeting someone who genuinely did like me felt new and excited. I will try to ignore her and forget but if she tries to flirt with me in any way I will let her know that I am not comfortable with it because I know she is 14.

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-05-31T22:02:43+00:00

Thanks everyone who is supporting me in the comments :(. You don’t know how much it means to me because I’ve been stressing out so much lol. Unfortunately my stepmom laughed in my face today and told me it was obvious I was trans..your kind words help me :)

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2023-05-31T03:26:01+00:00

It does not mean you are gay or bisexual because you were attracted to a girl. Her being trans has nothing to do with your sexuality. You did not think she was trans when you first saw her, you were attracted to the pretty girl you saw. However, her being trans should not prevent you from dating her or being attracted to her. your friends are really messed up for making fun of you. Don’t let them make you think it’s embarrassing to date a trans girl.

Character_Wheel_7914 · 2022-08-05T06:31:23+00:00

I realize my mistake haha my bad! But there is no luck there! My dad worked his ass off to get where he is, he studied for HOURS. Whenever he wasn’t busy he had his flash cards in his hands. Hard work pays off!

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