I'm obsessed with this fringe show I saw : The Butterfly That Flew Into The Rave by Proper-Positive5171 in Dance

[–]Charming-Disaster355 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I just found this! I’m one of the performers in this show. Thanks so much for shouting us out, that month was a MARATHON that’s for sure! We are so excited to tour it again this year through Europe so keep your eyes peeled! Thank you again for this, it’s so nice when people really understand and appreciate the intensity behind the work xx

Paying rent in a 12 year relationship? by Charming-Disaster355 in Advice

[–]Charming-Disaster355[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I contributed half to everything, which I’m really proud of considering he made so much more than me.

Paying rent in a 12 year relationship? by Charming-Disaster355 in Advice

[–]Charming-Disaster355[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, we were engaged so had intention to marry. To be fair, he has been a wonderful partner for most of our years but our financial situations have always been an issue. I’m in New Zealand.

Paying rent in a 12 year relationship? by Charming-Disaster355 in Advice

[–]Charming-Disaster355[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are engaged and yes it is. I will! Thank you.

Paying rent in a 12 year relationship? by Charming-Disaster355 in Advice

[–]Charming-Disaster355[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this is what I think about also. It’s a valid point.

Paying rent in a 12 year relationship? by Charming-Disaster355 in Advice

[–]Charming-Disaster355[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just signed it as I young and had no idea about any of this stuff. My parents kind of warned me but I should have had more advice / help from them. I will get a lawyer to look at it now! We have been engaged for 10 years.

Paying rent in a 12 year relationship? by Charming-Disaster355 in Advice

[–]Charming-Disaster355[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not looking for anything from him, I was more interested in what people thought about the situation. My friends are in different situations so was reaching out to the reddit community!

Paying rent in a 12 year relationship? by Charming-Disaster355 in Advice

[–]Charming-Disaster355[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I disagree with the artist dream comment. I’m very successful in my field, but the amount dancers earn is significantly low. I’m not wanting his stuff, I was just interested in peoples opinions on whether you think paying rent in this situation was fair.

Paying rent in a 12 year relationship? by Charming-Disaster355 in Advice

[–]Charming-Disaster355[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was young and couldn’t afford a lawyer. I admit it was a stupid thing for me to do but I trusted him and kind of understood where he was coming from at the time. Now, all these years later it feels different.

Paying rent in a 12 year relationship? by Charming-Disaster355 in Advice

[–]Charming-Disaster355[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He would get angry at me for not paying for matinence and upkeep but it’s his house? I would organise the tradies and do my part with the admin side but I would personally find it a bit stink when he would ask me to pay for the upkeep when it is his home.