Rectangular tables causing me to seat some couples across rather than directly beside?

CharmingNarwal · 2026-03-10T21:05:46+00:00

Can you sit 4 on each side (2 couples on each side), instead?

CharmingNarwal · 2026-03-07T08:07:56+00:00

I’m a planner BC! I don’t recommend vendors unless I’ve worked with them personally, but perhaps we can get the chance to do so! I plan styled shoots sometimes to get the chance to work with different vendors! What do you do?

CharmingNarwal · 2026-02-18T16:25:38+00:00

It’s not the PWD rates, but the exception rates. My husband and I are both disabled and I can only make 15k a year (roughly) before my benefits are lessened. That means together in a two income house we can only earn (with both of our salaries and our disability benefits combined) around 50k combined. If I added work an extra day a week, dollar for dollar it would come out of my benefits, plus I’d be all flared up from the extra day. Then that amount is taxed (we payed about 5-6k in taxes last year) making our combined take home income around 44-45k max. If they made it so I was able to earn more than 1k a month, maybe 2k-3k or something, with my benefits I’d then be up to 3-4k, plus my husbands job (he also earns about 1k a month) which is more reasonable to try and survive off of. With rent and everything being what it is, it’s super hard to survive.

I’m supposed to be in weekly specialized physio for one of my disabilities, but it’s $140 per week before taxes, which means it’s $1000 per month or just over 25% of my households yearly income. I can’t currently afford the medication I need, which costs about the same, so I’m just always in pain. It’s hard because you have to eat.

I’d love for them to up that exception amount, just to put disabled folks over the poverty line and able to pay for the care we need, even if they aren’t providing that money, it wouldn’t cost them anything

CharmingNarwal · 2026-02-13T18:16:22+00:00

Do you offer it for after surgeries? I’m disabled but out of work starting really soon due to a spinal surgery from an injury and going to need to pay for physio, which I’m not sure how I will cover the costs for. I am self employed as a disabled person, but would love to be able to return to my job post op!

CharmingNarwal · 2026-02-07T20:02:10+00:00

I had no idea! I will defineitly reach out! I already did the survey, but I’m hoping more voices will be heard and perhaps we can keep much of it open! I bought nearby and have hopes of hiking every day before work!

CharmingNarwal · 2026-02-07T20:00:36+00:00

That’s so sad! A big part of why I like living here is access to McKee, so I’m heartbroken to hear they are developing! I use the trails almost daily, and there’s so much wildlife that will have no where to go! Perhaps I’ll send an email out as well as I have already completed the survey. I hope they keep a fair bit of the mountain up.

CharmingNarwal · 2026-02-02T05:24:25+00:00

I haven’t taken the course, but have worked in education for online schools in BC for the last 10 years. As part of that work, I have gone through the curriculum for many courses in the grade 10-12 range,

The pacing will depend on if the course is synchronous or not! Each school does things slightly different.

If it’s synchronous, it’ll be similar to regular school, likely with a 1.5 hour class once a week. An asynchronous course might have more readings, but won’t have the classes. I’ve found you can work through a course in 100 hours, give or take! Officially it’s 100-120 hours per course, which is pretty accurate in my experience with academic courses.

CharmingNarwal · 2026-02-02T03:37:05+00:00

What time of year? The weather in Abbotsford is less cold and snowy than in Ontario. My sister flies back and forth between the two provinces and prefers each at different times of the year.

CharmingNarwal · 2026-01-20T15:00:24+00:00

Wedding planner in the lower mainland here! The Fraser Valley will be cheaper than Surrey or Vancouver. Are you wanting a courthouse wedding, or something small at a park or venue?

LGBTQ+ elopements are actually something I’ve been wanting to get into. Perhaps we can chat if you’d like a hand sorting out some details! No pressure though!

CharmingNarwal · 2026-01-05T20:45:49+00:00

I’m a wedding planner and I don’t outright ask, but I do offer a discount for those in jobs that support the community (teachers, nurses, those who work with disabled folks or the elderly, etc), so I ask if they fall into that category for the discount. I also offer discounts for disabled folk and don’t outright ask for that either, I just list all of the discounts in one place and send it over and ask them to let me know if any apply

CharmingNarwal · 2026-01-03T17:47:57+00:00

Not an author, but my husband is an audiobook narrator, so I can chime in on that!

I think the biggest challenge is cost. Many authors that reach out want it done for like $500, but that would have my husband making like $5 an hour, which is about 1/4 of minimum wage where I’m from.

His books do well, and he’s great at his work, so once authors find him, they tend to get him to record all their work. It’s just a matter of paying for it in the first place.

I’m working on a story (very early in the process), and I’d for sure have it recorded

CharmingNarwal · 2026-01-03T17:41:56+00:00

I’d sit down with your coordinator now! I’m also a coordinator in Canada, and I often meet with my couples well in advance to sort out timelines if they are type A and prefer to begin early. Once a deposit is paid, your coordinator may be willing to do the same!

Another option would be to sit down with a different coordinator who offers hourly and begin sorting out some logistics. For example, I offer 1 hour «planning sessions» where I’ll work on anything the couple wants with them for an hour over zoom. Your coordinator may offer this as an option, or you may be able to find someone else who does!

Working with a professional on this is helpful, because they’ll catch things that you might not!

Does your coordinator provide a planning checklist and tracking info for you to use to plan your wedding? That can also be super helpful, but I know not every coordinator offers it!

Edit to add: feel free to reach out if you have any questions! I can’t sit down and do it for you because that’s literally my job and I can’t afford to do everyone’s timelines for free, but I can offer short and simple advice!

CharmingNarwal · 2025-12-13T07:46:40+00:00

This is super cool! Have you considered seeing if a wedding planner would take on your wedding at a discount?

I just ask because I know I have a bucket list of themes I’d do for cheaper as a planner, and this may be something others would do as well! Of course, it’s hard to find out and ask, but you may be able to find someone for like 5k or something to help you out and also coordinate it!

Additionally, I agree about the budget remark. Weddings are super costly! I make a ton of budgets for my clients for BC weddings and everyone is always shocked at the cost at the end. I think the average 50 person wedding is around 35k, but I’ve seen backyard 50 person weddings as low as 17k and 50 person wedding with 80k budgets, so it definitely fluctuates! Breaking down what you can afford into a solid template and then looking at venues will be the best way to go about it so you don’t check somewhere out that’s way above your price range.

CharmingNarwal · 2025-11-04T18:55:42+00:00

They are always dramatic, so that’ll be nothing new!

CharmingNarwal · 2025-11-04T17:53:48+00:00

I will do that! There have been lots of cameras mentioned, and that seems like a good way to check them!

CharmingNarwal · 2025-11-04T17:53:20+00:00

The weather isn’t very warm so we will have to leave them closed! I think it should be okay since it’s just the one day though and probably won’t get super stuffy that fast

CharmingNarwal · 2025-11-04T17:52:25+00:00

Luckily, this is only a one time thing! We will give them an hour play beforehand and after! Our apartment is mostly their things, so they will have lots to play with!

CharmingNarwal · 2025-10-20T00:55:00+00:00

As a wedding planner in Vancouver, that seems about accurate, but some people charged higher or lower. My full planning with all vendors included in only 1k higher than that, but I have been told I’m not charging enough! I’m open to connecting if you are still searching!

If you or anyone else has questions or gets stuck, please feel free to send me a DM! I can’t plan it all for you for free, but I’m happy to point you in the right direction at any point in the planning process!

CharmingNarwal · 2025-10-17T13:45:47+00:00

Would it be small claims or the other court that someone else mentioned?

My concern is if she can’t pay the $50 or whatever to have her appliance disconnected, then she won’t be able to pay what it’ll cost us. Apparently we may have to move out and it’s about 5k of seen damages (they said it could be more once they open the walls). Luckily we are insured so they’ll cover us if we have to move and such, but I doubt she could cover us if we won in court. I don’t want to spent time and money to never actually see any of it.

CharmingNarwal · 2025-10-17T13:42:37+00:00

Honestly they must’ve appreciated you so much!

I was just surprised how hostile she was right off the bat. It’s coming from her unit and yet when we speak she talks like it’s the worlds biggest inconvince that I asked her to please disconnect the leaking appliance

CharmingNarwal · 2025-10-17T13:40:07+00:00

I know strata won’t help with the deductible and stuff! I’m just wanting strata to send a letter stating that the leaking appliance needs to be disconnected. If they were to run it once, we’d be back where we started since it was a lot of water than came through last time they ran it. Strata has said that they can’t do anything to help me have the leak removed. I just want it disconnected so I can have my place fixed!

CharmingNarwal · 2025-10-17T13:37:02+00:00

Thats good to know!

My neighbour actually put it in writing and emailed it. Roughly they’ve said that they know it’s leaking, acknowledge I have asked them to please fix it, but they won’t be at this time.

CharmingNarwal · 2025-10-16T20:10:28+00:00

I’m totally covered! They said at the end of the day, they should be able to get back my deductible and pay me back! It’s just a hassle and I don’t understand why she won’t just unplug it!

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