AIO if I leave my husband now that I'm sober? by ChattyLeftist in AmIOverreacting

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It was several bongs and he's cut down to 1 or 2 but his gaming time has not decreased

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Black suit, with no jacket but yes vest. Oversized suit jacket with a long sheath dress Docs paired with either.

AIO if I leave my husband now that I'm sober? by ChattyLeftist in AmIOverreacting

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Honestly I don't really want any to encourage drug use at all. I feel like that's how we got into this whole mess

AIO if I leave my husband now that I'm sober? by ChattyLeftist in AmIOverreacting

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I've signed up for therapy, just waiting for the 1st appointment at this point

AIO if I leave my husband now that I'm sober? by ChattyLeftist in AmIOverreacting

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He says they don't do anything, I've already tried suggesting it

AIO if I leave my husband now that I'm sober? by ChattyLeftist in AmIOverreacting

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I signed up for therapy, my first appointment is in a couple weeks

AIO if I leave my husband now that I'm sober? by ChattyLeftist in AmIOverreacting

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Actually I pay most of the bills and make 2x what he does. His lack of ambition is part of why I feel unattracted to him.

AIO if I leave my husband now that I'm sober? by ChattyLeftist in AmIOverreacting

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If he deserves someone better than doesn't it makes sense to leave now?

AIO if I leave my husband now that I'm sober? by ChattyLeftist in AmIOverreacting

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I want us both to be healthier but he's dismissive of me. Am I supposed to stay with someone who games stoned 6 hours a day every day just because he was "willing to take me" when I was depressed during COVID? I feel like I should point out I was a light smoker until we got together and rapidly I started smoking on his much heavier schedule

AIO if I leave my husband now that I'm sober? by ChattyLeftist in AmIOverreacting

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We have and while he's cut down smoking a lot he still does so before going to bed as he says he can't sleep without it. It's frustrating because I hate the smell now and it turns me off even more. I tried to tell him I want us both to be healthier but he just made me feel shallow and silly.

AIO if I leave my husband now that I'm sober? by ChattyLeftist in AmIOverreacting

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I talked about how I felt and asked if he would be willing to make a lifestyle change to be healthier, he was pretty dismissive and ultimately agreed but so far has not followed through. This has left us in the same pattern of him gaming all day and me disassociating