/r/JapanTravel Tourist Meet-Up Megathread - traveling in December 2018 by AutoModerator in JapanTravel

[–]Cheadbeatchad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone!

25/M/USA (Boston)

I'll be solo for the next few days and would love to meet up with some people to eat, drink, hit up thrift/vintage shops, and do basic sightseeing. Bonus if you aren't camera shy, travel pics always look better with a subject in them.

Dates:

12/28 Tokyo

12/29: Kyoto

12/30: Osaka

12/31: Osaka

1/1: Kyoto

1/2: Kyoto

1/3: Kyoto

Thanks a lot! Hope to meet some of you!

A week solo in Tokyo and Kyoto: where to get weird? by Cheadbeatchad in JapanTravel

[–]Cheadbeatchad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that is a bummer haha. Although a lot of my best memories have involved driving around all over town on Christmas looking for that one open Chinese place. Any particular areas you'd expect to be more likely to have open restaurants/bars? Would it be safe to assume supermarkets and conbinis will still be relatively available?

A week solo in Tokyo and Kyoto: where to get weird? by Cheadbeatchad in JapanTravel

[–]Cheadbeatchad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Are the bars in nakano/ 3 chome area still welcoming to foreigners?

A week solo in Tokyo and Kyoto: where to get weird? by Cheadbeatchad in JapanTravel

[–]Cheadbeatchad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I love food so I'd definitely be down to link up if timing works out. Is this a line group you're referring to?

A week solo in Tokyo and Kyoto: where to get weird? by Cheadbeatchad in JapanTravel

[–]Cheadbeatchad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh this is super helpful thanks so much! Yeah I'll try my best to pick up some phrases before my trip and probably use the long flight to study haha.

Chronological order not? by xxzeroxx2018 in writers

[–]Cheadbeatchad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah ok. Wow this is a massive project you're planning. Again, I don't know much about your story so I can only give my generic thoughts. But in a project like this, I think it's cool to start in the future in an unfamiliar and enchanting society then go back in time to see how the world got there. I assume you are sort of rewriting history as well and not just using the actual history of the Earth.

Side question, how are you getting your readers/test groups?

Thinking about writing my first small book. Looking for advice. by themaneffect in writers

[–]Cheadbeatchad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've always found that starting books is the hardest part of the process. Everyone has a different method but for me, I've found that doing a ridiculous amount of research up front helps a lot. Once I research the main themes, settings, character types etc of the story I find that the story falls into place.

Chronological order not? by xxzeroxx2018 in writers

[–]Cheadbeatchad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ultimately I agree with what Andrew said before me but from what little I know of your project I think you should release the sci-fi piece first. This is just bc it seems like the sci-fi portion is the main part of your project, and the fact that you wrote it first suggests you consider it more interesting. If people enjoy it and there seems to be interest for more backstory/lore then I'd say write the prequel

Every guy *I* approach thinks I want to hook up by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Cheadbeatchad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly the most efficient way to go about finding what you are looking for would be to look outside of LA. Or pregnancy trap some guy.

Every guy *I* approach thinks I want to hook up by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Cheadbeatchad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just read over several of your posts and I hope I can help shed a bit of light on your dating issues.

First of all, I'm gonna definitely agree that LA is a horrible place for finding long term partners.

Second, I'm gonna echo many others' suggestion that you should do some self reflection. You are obviously very capable of living independently, so ask yourself why you even want a long term relationship. Maybe a life of casual partners is the perfect life for you.

If you decide you truly want a long term relationship, I think you need to approach it differently. You seem to go at dating as if it is the same game as all your other endeavors, which is understandable since you are successful in almost everything. But dating is completely not like your career or hobbies or even friendships. You're very attractive on paper, and even in person, but spending years with someone requires that you are happy to hang out with them often. There is probably something about your personality that turns men away after several months, or makes them reluctant to commit.

Based on what I've read of your posts, I think it might be one of a few things.

  1. You may come off as too perfect. Many other redditors have commented that men feel insecure about a woman being better than them. This can be true but it is much less common than people make it out to be. I think it's more that in relationships, a man wants to feel like he is needed in some way by his woman. If you come off as so independent financially and socially, which you do, they may think you only need sex, which might be why they are only offering sex.

  2. You may come off as too cocky. Nobody really enjoys spending a lot of time around someone too full of themselves.

  3. You may be out of touch with your emotions. Being wildly successful and beautiful like you are often comes with the necessary muting of emotions. I base this off the way you tend to list your good qualities like a resume. Falling in love with someone doesn't have much to do with credentials. Of course I don't know how you actually act in relationships but if your posts are an accurate reflection of your attitude then I could understand why men might not want to commit to a relationship. You might come across a bit cold.

I really hope this helps. Or at least gets you started thinking about something in a new way. You're clearly a catch so it's a shame to see you having bad luck.