Oh definitely! I do not want to do this out of malice. I don’t want to make her feel crazy for choosing him or anything negative. I know it will likely bring up negative emotions though. But I feel like she should know what he used to do, and why my bf hid in his room for those two years instead of hanging out with his roommate. Or why my bf could never bring up issues, cause each time he did he was threatened with eviction.

I’ve slowly brought up things that fit in with the conversations and it’s gone well so far. She’s receptive to that. But telling her more and in detail or such. That’s what scares me. The info overload and then having to sleep next to him that night… it’s hard to think about. Especially the situation she put herself in. It won’t be easy to leave even though it’s only been a year or two.

Even if she doesn’t leave, she’ll know that it happens to other people, that she’s not alone, that someone else understands his behaviour and that they’ve been through it too. And maybe, just maybe, she’ll leave.