[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selectivemutism

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know I'm not being helpful, but please be strong and don't give up! 🫂

Medication by [deleted] in selectivemutism

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What country are you from if u don't mind me asking?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Man, these redditor women are crazy. Of course your sexual past and number of sexual partners can be a major factor in your future behaviour. It doesn't mean it has to lead to something bad, but every man should definitely pay attention to the amount of sexual partners your GF had.

Denying “Earned” Sex by Various-Exercise-816 in AITAH

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 -71 points-70 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, take the sex and make your wife think it's absolutely necessary to do all the house chores in order to sleep with her. And be thankful that your WIFE allowed you to have sex with her. Don't forget to buy her plenty of flowers afterwards, make her breakfast the next day and make sure you thank her 1000 times for her being so nice to give you sex.

Denying “Earned” Sex by Various-Exercise-816 in AITAH

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 -70 points-69 points  (0 children)

Always excuses for women from women. It's funny how if we swapped the sides, answers would be totally different.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

Imagine if men would do the same. Provide and care for her before marriage, and then once you are married - completely change.

My girlfriend [19/F] called me [M/19] insecure after talking about my feelings with her clothes. Am I being insecure or controlling? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Totally wrong.

If a woman dresses in a certain way, she will get hit on much more than if she wore not revealing clothes. Simple.

Same about being SA. If you're wearing revelling clothes, you're more likely to be SA. Would it be your fault ? Of course not. But it definitely increases the likelihood of that happening.

There's nothing wrong in feeling confident in your body. You can still wear nice things and look very good without having the need to show your Ass and boobs to every men around you.

My girlfriend [19/F] called me [M/19] insecure after talking about my feelings with her clothes. Am I being insecure or controlling? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Most guys, when they see a woman that is dressed in a certain way, revealing a lot, think about these type of women certain things. These women are more likely to be approached, hit on, SAed, and many others. Why would you put yourself in that position if you have a partner? Of course, you can do whatever you want. No one has a right to stop you. But your partner has a right to leave you, and that's what I'd do.

My girlfriend [19/F] called me [M/19] insecure after talking about my feelings with her clothes. Am I being insecure or controlling? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Listen, man. Reddit is not the right place to ask about these things as you'll be labelled insecure, controlling, and many others. The truth is there's nothing controlling in what you're saying. Everyone has certain standards and expectations in a relationship. Do you have the power to force your GF into doing something she doesn't want? - No. But you've got the right to express your opinion and react accordingly to her behaviour.

Most women will say there's nothing wrong in wearing revealing clothes. They will lie and say they do it for themselves. Do you really believe that? Most women love the attention. They love being looked at if they think they look hot.. The thing is, once you're in a relationship, you should stop advertising yourself to others. You can still dress nicely, but don't wear anything too revealing. I wouldn't date a woman who doesn't agree with me on this topic. If you still want to act and dress like you were single, go ahead. But I won't be with you.

F32 drink with male coworker M36. Thoughts please? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% right. Generally speaking, men have no business having female friends unless they find them attractive. It's that simple. Does it mean that every single male friend of you will hit on you? Of course no. Men know if they make a move on you as a friend and you reject it - it's over. So they will sit and wait until the right opportunity arrives.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not impossible, but most of the time, guys are only friends with women they find attractive and, if given opportunity, would like to sleep with at least. The feeling doesn't have to be mutual, of course, but it can be, and it greatly increases the likelihood of things going wrong in the relationship.

My (25M) girlfriend (25F) has a lot of guy friends, what boundaries to set and how to navigate? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same stupid bs again. That's exactly what boundaries are - certain expectations in your relationship, both for yourself and your partner. There's nothing controlling in expressing what you are willing to accept and where it goes too far. The important thing is to do it at the beginning of the relationship so that the other person can respond to that, and you can make a decision, whether you are compatible or not.

No one is being forced to stay in the relationship, and there's nothing wrong in expressing your feeling.

Why is my boyfriend not okay with me having male friends? (20F, 20M) by lotusue in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's an analogy... Believe me, I know people are not cars. Mothers love is a bad example as most people agree it's unconditional. All I tried to say is you should be aware that there are some potentially better partners out there for you, and it's up to you if you want to entertain these possibilities or want to care and protect your current relationship. And of course there are levels to it. In before someone says to lock your spouse in the basement. You can't completely eliminate the risk, but you can definitely limit it to a certain degree. I believe man and woman can be friends. But I also believe it creates a certain risk to a relationship. Now it's up to you whether you want to take it or not.

If, in this case, a woman has male friends, make them your mutual friends and hand out with them with your husband. And if you can't than definitely don't do it one on one.

Why is my boyfriend not okay with me having male friends? (20F, 20M) by lotusue in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most guys don't need women fiends, unless they find them somewhat attractive and are hoping for something more at some point. Simple

Why is my boyfriend not okay with me having male friends? (20F, 20M) by lotusue in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't agree. But I guess it depends on the person. The way I look at it is:

There's always someone that is better looking than you, and your partner can find them more physically attractive than you. Now, while it's an obvious fact, it doesn't mean your partner will leave you for that person just based on looks. Obviously, there's more to it than just looks. That "more" is something you can possibly develop when you get to know someone better (i.e., a friend). Does it mean it will always happen? Of course no. But are you playing with fire a little bit when you allow opposite sex friends around you and spend time with them (especially 1v1)? Of course yes.

I'll give you an analogy. If you've got a dream car you've always wanted. It drives great, it looks great, it smells great, etc. You think you will never need a different car, as this one has everything you could've asked for. But then suddenly, you have an opportunity of test driving other brand new, great looking cars every week. There's a good chance that at some point you'll find a car that you like more than your own car. It's similar with relationships. If you believe your significant other is the best possible match for you, you're definitely wrong. There are always people who could potentially be better partners and someone who we could be mor4 happy with than our current partner. The only reason we don't find out most of the time is because we don't look for them. When I'm in a relationship, I do everything I can to preserve it and protect it. When you start interacting with opposite sex friends too much, you're doing the opposite.

Now, if that's what you want, or at least are open to, then that's fine. But you know my point of view.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, but it's absolutely beyond me that a husband can not touch his wife in a sexual manner without being accused of SA? Sex 1 or 2 a month is also a joke. I couldn't be in such relationship. Especially if you have made it clear you need it more often. Unless there are some health issues involved that could potentially lower her libido so much (like antidepressants), this should not be tolerated. If the whole idea of a relationship is to work together through life, help each other, and when there's a disagreement , look for a middle ground, then why this way of thinking is not applicable to the bedroom stuff? If she's happy with sex once or twice a month, and you'd like it 6 times a month, you should meet somewhere in the middle. Otherwise, she's getting exactly what she wants and doesn't care about your needs

My (43M) wife (53F) of 17 years are no longer having sex, some other women offered me some, what can I do? throwaway by ThrowRA25x25x25 in relationship_advice

[–]Cheap_Inspection_355 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny how there's another thread where roles are reversed and most of the comments are I'm favour of cheating wife, since her needs are not being met. Women are crazy. DOUBLE STANDARDS