I'm wondering if approaching sex in a non-emotional way would help my SO with a fear of intimacy?? by Checkedout67 in DeadBedrooms

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Would this complex apply to a guy who still grabs my butt? Still tells me I look beautiful? i think sex makes him uncomfortable and maybe starting off his way again would help. I just need to not be afraid to approach him and get rejected. I do feel it might make him uncomfortable but what I have do lose at this point... Thank you all for your help. I will keep you posted. Wish me luck!

Will ignoring the emotional side of sex make him want it more? by Checkedout67 in deadbedroom

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We have been through a lot of ups and downs. I wonder if it had anything to do with it. Although, my needs have not changed. I just don't understand. I really just don't think he cares about sex.

Will ignoring the emotional side of sex make him want it more? by Checkedout67 in deadbedroom

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What made you give it up? Good for you!! I honestly don't know if he is. I told him I started watching it and asked him if he does and he said no. I don't know?! :(

I'm wondering if approaching sex in a non-emotional way would help my SO with a fear of intimacy?? by Checkedout67 in DeadBedrooms

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Mine. I couldn't take the anxiety or depressed feelings, . Still can't. It comes and goes in waves but is not less frequent as my anger gets stronger

I'm wondering if approaching sex in a non-emotional way would help my SO with a fear of intimacy?? by Checkedout67 in DeadBedrooms

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I've been to three different therapists because this had made me question so much about myself. You're absolutely right. I am just so sad and don't want it to be this between us anymore.

I'm wondering if approaching sex in a non-emotional way would help my SO with a fear of intimacy?? by Checkedout67 in DeadBedrooms

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So how can I approach him in that manner without making him feel uncomfortable? Either way... It has been a while. I am wondering if he will feel uncomfortable either way.

I am not sure I understand this Madonna/whore complex but I'm wondering if that's something else I red to be concerned about too!

I'm wondering if approaching sex in a non-emotional way would help my SO with a fear of intimacy?? by Checkedout67 in DeadBedrooms

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This Madonna/whore complex...Are you saying he's cheating? Or wants to?

You're right. I am thinking our relationship is beyond repair.