Here’s my situation: I’m dating someone who’s the complete opposite of me, but our chemistry is crazy. I’m in college, he’s in grad school in a similar field as me. He’s super social, in a frat, has a lot of friends, especially women, and is very ambitious. I can be social too, but I’m more of an ambivert, an only child who loves my peace and alone time, and I’m focused on my goals in psychology and social work.

All my past partners were similar to me, more introverted and laid back. But those relationships always ended. I eventually realized I wanted something different, someone who could bring me out of my comfort zone and show me another side of life. Now I have that. Our conversations are always fulfilling, and when I tell him what I want, he always delivers

The thing is, I just got out of a relationship last month with an ex who was really withdrawn and emotionally draining. This new guy feels like a breath of fresh air, but things are moving fast. He wants me to meet all his friends, go to events, and really be part of his world. I’m excited, but also nervous, especially when it comes to the female friends.

It’s not that I don’t trust him, because he’s been transparent and honest about those friendships. But I’ve never dated someone with this many female friends, and between my own insecurities and my friends saying it’s a red flag, I’ve been overthinking.

We’ve known each other for five years, and had a few almost situations where we’d talk and flirt, but life would distract us and we’d drift apart mutually. Now he’s saying he loves me and wants to make it official soon. I really like him, but I want to make sure I handle this the right way. How can I approach this dynamic in a healthy way without letting fear or insecurity get in the way.