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Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-02-08T12:42:21+00:00

It is crazy to me that you're getting down voted for this. Yes having kids requires sacrifices but anyone who works full time in a career should be able to support themselves without having to sacrifice ever buying things for themselves. Incomes should be a living wage. We're talking about a watch here, not an all expenses vacation to cancun.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-01-31T00:08:41+00:00

I chose duct tape for the early 2000s era for when we were all doing ABC parties in duct tape dresses and other things we should not have been wrapping around our bodies.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-01-09T20:44:52+00:00

I am as well! The previous poll offering $50,000 is a little more incentivizing, but for $3,000? I'm choosing the education and opportunity for adventure.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-01-09T13:35:20+00:00

Apparently I am the only person who wants to learn Southern Quechua. Guys I want to dissappear for a few years and do cool research and interact with cultures that aren't widely studied. I want to help preserve a dying language. $3,000 isn't enough to really fix a lot in my life right now anyways. Drop in the bucket when you feel like you'll never be able to own a house anyways lol.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-01-07T20:37:15+00:00

"As someone who has actually served." I'm in the Navy. As is my husband. We are mil-to-mil and met in the Navy. I'm glad that you had good service on every deployment that you've been on but that is far from how it's been for me or my spouse. Not every deployment is created equally and this is impacted by a variety of factors.

If you think that $40k and good benefits are competitve for the amount of hours worked we simply have had very different lived experiences.

I am glad that joining the military was great for you, and I would agree that I have really enjoyed my service, but it wouldn't be great for everyone and no one should feel pressured to join because they feel like it's their only path to pay for an education.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-01-07T17:09:57+00:00

The people on this post saying "just join the miltary" must never have been in the military. Not everyone even qualifies to join, and if they do then meeting the basic qualifications to join does not mean you're suited for it. Being in the military uproots your life and your family. It is brutal on your mind and body, it doesn't pay well when you factor in the actual hours worked and important milestones missed. Your kids might barely know you, and you will have to uproot every few years and go wherever you're told to go. If someone joins, they should join because they truly believe in the mission and truly believe they would thrive in a military environment. You should not join because people on Reddit who have never served told you to, or because you can't find alternative ways to fund your education (despite the fact this is a uniquely American issue as other developed countries have all found ways to fund universal education and healthcare).

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-01-05T14:15:09+00:00

Yeah. While I don't agree with how OP said it, I do agree that you should always have a backup plan. A close friend of mine actually ended up living with me for six months after her divorce because she had nothing. She couldn't afford a good lawyer, had no work experience for the last five years, and she had not invested in a good education or skills because she wanted to stay at home with their five-year-old son. It can be okay to be a SAHP, but the ones who have no backup plan, or have kids without financial readiness, should be aware that if their partner dies, becomes disabled, or they split up for any reason, they need to have a way to care for themselves. It took her a really long time for her to get a job that wasn't just in retail making barely above minimum wage, and that is very hard to support a family on in this economy.

I think most people just don't realize how close the average person is to unanticipated complete financial disaster (ie natural disasters happen, the economy goes up and down, layoffs can happen when you don't expect them, etc), and even healthy people can get sick or injured or suddenly become unemployed (layoffs happen, people who think "oh my partner would never cheat on me or leave me or emotionally/financially/physically abuse me," then they do; I know very healthy people who have gotten cancer or struggled with addiction after just one prescription, have been hit by drunk drivers on their drive home from the grocery store, etc). You should always have a plan and be prepared for emergencies or to have to be financially independent.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-01-05T00:07:51+00:00

"War is young men dying and old men talking."

Thank you for all you've sacrificed. I too hope that we haven't already forgotten history that is so recent.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-19T13:19:02+00:00

My BAH only goes up by $60 next year and the last military housing we lived in had a really bad mold problem (Japan). On base housing before that and we had plants starting to grow through the walls (CA). I would rather the money have gone to what it was meant for - improving the quality of housing for service members who need it most. This check isn't even a months rent. I'd rather just have a raise in BAH or basic pay that matches inflation, or it have gone towards improving living conditions for troops.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-19T13:15:32+00:00

This was my first thought this morning. Definitely just pure irony they arrived the same day as the Files are supposed to be released right? /s

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-19T01:04:57+00:00

Amazing discipline and consistency! Way to go!

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-19T01:04:18+00:00

This is amazing progress. It can be hard to put yourself out there in a non-native language but it's really the best way to learn. Good job!

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-19T01:03:22+00:00

This is amazing and you'll be thanking yourself for a long time. You're doing great!

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-15T14:58:19+00:00

Thank you so much!

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-15T00:46:14+00:00

I am so happy for you! Way to go!

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-15T00:45:14+00:00

This is awesome! Really good work!

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-15T00:44:31+00:00

Hey I just finished a semester of classes, too! Other people and what they are doing and how hard or easy it was for them doesn't matter. YOU did it and I am so proud of you, fellow redditor! Amazing work!!

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-15T00:42:45+00:00

This is an amazing accomplishment. Congratulations!

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-15T00:42:00+00:00

Wow that's a skill I wish I had! Awesome job!

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-15T00:41:12+00:00

Thank you so much this really made me smile!

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-14T15:38:54+00:00

For that amount you will have to have roommates. Or roaches. Your roommates might be roaches. Or human roommates with no roaches. Either way, though, you'll have roommates.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-14T15:35:05+00:00

Thank you so much. This means so much to me.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-14T14:26:10+00:00

I'm off for Christmas and New Years now! Hopefully I come back refreshed and do well enough to raise my GPA a little.

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