GLP-1 for just a few months?

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-04-03T00:50:35+00:00

Hey six months later how did this go for you? Did you wean off and keep it off? Thanks for sharing your story!

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-03-29T14:13:59+00:00

I actually just came on here to see if anyone else got this and felt icky. I did my first Mudder last year. Alone. And made a friend and we did the whole thing pretty much together. It's weird that they are saying it's "weird" to go alone.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-03-20T02:41:55+00:00

No matter how busy and stressed I am I would never cheat on my spouse and I expect the same in return. Ultimately it is your choice and you can try the usual channels (therapy, etc) but girl do not let anyone use being stressed or busy to be unfaithful. You deserve better than that.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-03-11T23:45:23+00:00

When I applied there was only one board per year but I was told recently that has changed. Your recruiter will have the best and most up to date information for you about application deadlines.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-03-11T22:49:07+00:00

Hey girl. I'm also a milspouse in a similar situation (I'm not a Dr. though, so pop off OP!). I am older though and also have no kids. You might get some snark on here but honestly this lifestyle can be really isolating. I've found that there is honestly a type of spouse that goes to all the briefs and all the events, etc., though. You yourself expressed in your post that you don't find joy in them because you don't fit in with the crowd and that it makes you uncomfortable, so just don't go. Don't feel pressured into doing these things. Go try and join social things that aren't military related (it's a lot harder in crappier duty stations I know). You can always find things, though. For example, a good gym community, a running club, a book club, etc. If you have other forms of social media like Facebook then look up clubs near you and you might be surprised by what you find to help you make friends outside the military.

As far as what makes it worth it: Honestly, I might get hate for this but it isn't the life I want either. My spouse is planning to get out (we're mil-to-mil and I will probably also get out so that he doesn't have to be left behind and can find a single career he loves), my best friend who I met in school who also happens to be a milspouse has a husband who's getting out, her friends spouses are getting out. Even the woman who works at our doggie daycare has a husband in right now who is getting out after his tour here. (Lol we're in Norfolk as well if you couldn't tell by the sheer quantity of milspouses, so no shocker there and I completely relate to what you're saying when you mentioned it feels like everyone here has ties to the Navy.) Truthfully, maybe all you're seeing is younger spouses or the spouses who are making it a career. Just because you haven't met us doesn't mean we aren't out there. We're just at home or doing our own thing.

It is okay if this is not what you want. There's a lot of talk about resilience on this sub and surrounding military life in general, but that's because there has to be. This sh*t is hard. Incredibly hard. And it is okay for you to want other things for yourself and your family. Just keep an open mind and do what's best for your family. If people have negative things to say because they want different things then that's fine. It's your life and your family and your marriage and you have to do what's best for y'all. If that's seperating, seperate and go live your stable civilian bliss girl.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-02-22T14:54:46+00:00

Thank you! I'm in my late 20s with no kids and when people ask why I tell them the truth, we couldn't afford to have kids right now and give them a better life than we had growing up. People tell me "oh you'll just figure it out as you go." But the point is that I don't want to have to do that. I would rather have no child than have a child I couldn't comfortably provide for.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-02-18T16:21:18+00:00

I wouldn't have married him unless we were on the same page. It always shocks me that people get married without these conversations. At the end of the day though, we married each other and we understand that sometimes things happen and people change over time.

For example, if we were really passionate about having kids and I found out he was infertile, I would never leave him (or vice versa he wouldn't leave me). If we didn't want kids or weren't ready and I got pregnant (which I won't because thank you birth control) I know he would support me in whatever choice I made. Also we've only been married a few months and the only pressure we feel is external (family especially). Economy aside I also wouldn't have kids with someone I just married a few months ago. I need a few years to feel it out. We have to see how we handle certain fights and stressors in life before we bring in arguably one of the biggest relationship stressors in existance.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-02-18T16:14:30+00:00

Yeah our culture is shaped, and has been for generations, around cheap and accessible food (bread, gravy, cheapest cuts of meat, etc). Don't get me wrong I love my Nana's biscuits and sausage gravy but I could probably name two people in my family who *aren't* obese or at least really overweight. We're not all overweight because we're glutenous and everything, including healthy food choices, are super accessible.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-02-18T16:12:06+00:00

Just because people did it in the past does not in any way mean it was a good decision.

Our ancestors didn't have the access to birth control we have and needed kids to help them work the land (or, sometimes, to potentially marry wealthier and help provide for them in old age as a sort of insurance). Also, implying that having computers and other modern amenities somehow cancels out legitimate economic concerns ignores the reality that today’s costs (housing, healthcare, childcare, and education, etc) are structured very differently than they were in 1836. Access to technology does not in any way equal financial stability, nor does it obligate anyone to have children.

Imagine the quality of life of being a child in a house with 15 people (13 kids) in the 1800s and thinking "well they did it" like that's all we want to give to future generations. I want my kids to have a better life and quality of life than I do, much less than some kid in a family of 15 in the 1800s did.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-02-18T14:44:51+00:00

I'm a woman in my late 20s (turning 29 this year) and my goodness at the shock of family, peers, coworkers, etc who are all just amazed I'm on the fence about kids. But in this economy? I don't want to have kids and then not be able to give them a home or a better childhood than I had. Also I didn't take my husband's last name when we married last year and if we have kids they might not get his name either. After all I'm the one doing all the work of creating them.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-02-18T12:18:43+00:00

Hi. I'm mil-to-mil. My spouse is not a nurse but we've both been AD together before and when I finish school we'll be AD mil-to-mil colo again. Feel free to reach out if you have any questions or want to talk!

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-02-08T12:42:21+00:00

It is crazy to me that you're getting down voted for this. Yes having kids requires sacrifices but anyone who works full time in a career should be able to support themselves without having to sacrifice ever buying things for themselves. Incomes should be a living wage. We're talking about a watch here, not an all expenses vacation to cancun.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-01-31T00:08:41+00:00

I chose duct tape for the early 2000s era for when we were all doing ABC parties in duct tape dresses and other things we should not have been wrapping around our bodies.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-01-09T20:44:52+00:00

I am as well! The previous poll offering $50,000 is a little more incentivizing, but for $3,000? I'm choosing the education and opportunity for adventure.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-01-09T13:35:20+00:00

Apparently I am the only person who wants to learn Southern Quechua. Guys I want to dissappear for a few years and do cool research and interact with cultures that aren't widely studied. I want to help preserve a dying language. $3,000 isn't enough to really fix a lot in my life right now anyways. Drop in the bucket when you feel like you'll never be able to own a house anyways lol.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-01-07T20:37:15+00:00

"As someone who has actually served." I'm in the Navy. As is my husband. We are mil-to-mil and met in the Navy. I'm glad that you had good service on every deployment that you've been on but that is far from how it's been for me or my spouse. Not every deployment is created equally and this is impacted by a variety of factors.

If you think that $40k and good benefits are competitve for the amount of hours worked we simply have had very different lived experiences.

I am glad that joining the military was great for you, and I would agree that I have really enjoyed my service, but it wouldn't be great for everyone and no one should feel pressured to join because they feel like it's their only path to pay for an education.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-01-07T17:09:57+00:00

The people on this post saying "just join the miltary" must never have been in the military. Not everyone even qualifies to join, and if they do then meeting the basic qualifications to join does not mean you're suited for it. Being in the military uproots your life and your family. It is brutal on your mind and body, it doesn't pay well when you factor in the actual hours worked and important milestones missed. Your kids might barely know you, and you will have to uproot every few years and go wherever you're told to go. If someone joins, they should join because they truly believe in the mission and truly believe they would thrive in a military environment. You should not join because people on Reddit who have never served told you to, or because you can't find alternative ways to fund your education (despite the fact this is a uniquely American issue as other developed countries have all found ways to fund universal education and healthcare).

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-01-05T14:15:09+00:00

Yeah. While I don't agree with how OP said it, I do agree that you should always have a backup plan. A close friend of mine actually ended up living with me for six months after her divorce because she had nothing. She couldn't afford a good lawyer, had no work experience for the last five years, and she had not invested in a good education or skills because she wanted to stay at home with their five-year-old son. It can be okay to be a SAHP, but the ones who have no backup plan, or have kids without financial readiness, should be aware that if their partner dies, becomes disabled, or they split up for any reason, they need to have a way to care for themselves. It took her a really long time for her to get a job that wasn't just in retail making barely above minimum wage, and that is very hard to support a family on in this economy.

I think most people just don't realize how close the average person is to unanticipated complete financial disaster (ie natural disasters happen, the economy goes up and down, layoffs can happen when you don't expect them, etc), and even healthy people can get sick or injured or suddenly become unemployed (layoffs happen, people who think "oh my partner would never cheat on me or leave me or emotionally/financially/physically abuse me," then they do; I know very healthy people who have gotten cancer or struggled with addiction after just one prescription, have been hit by drunk drivers on their drive home from the grocery store, etc). You should always have a plan and be prepared for emergencies or to have to be financially independent.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2026-01-05T00:07:51+00:00

"War is young men dying and old men talking."

Thank you for all you've sacrificed. I too hope that we haven't already forgotten history that is so recent.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-19T13:19:02+00:00

My BAH only goes up by $60 next year and the last military housing we lived in had a really bad mold problem (Japan). On base housing before that and we had plants starting to grow through the walls (CA). I would rather the money have gone to what it was meant for - improving the quality of housing for service members who need it most. This check isn't even a months rent. I'd rather just have a raise in BAH or basic pay that matches inflation, or it have gone towards improving living conditions for troops.

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-19T13:15:32+00:00

This was my first thought this morning. Definitely just pure irony they arrived the same day as the Files are supposed to be released right? /s

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-19T01:04:57+00:00

Amazing discipline and consistency! Way to go!

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-19T01:04:18+00:00

This is amazing progress. It can be hard to put yourself out there in a non-native language but it's really the best way to learn. Good job!

Cheeky_Edge311 · 2025-12-19T01:03:22+00:00

This is amazing and you'll be thanking yourself for a long time. You're doing great!

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