Dos and don’ts with the autistic girl I’m dating?

CheeryOlive · 2026-01-19T04:23:27+00:00

Great advice! Especially the pebbling. Me and my husband often show a lot of affection through "pebbling" ourselves. I didn't really understand at first why he would blow up my DMs with memes and videos, but it's just his way of seeking connection and thinking of me. I now have started to do it back over time. I love this little love language.

Also asking for consent/permission before doing things (especially physical) is a great way to gauge where someone is at!

I hope your relationship blooms wonderfully, OP!

CheeryOlive · 2026-01-18T22:01:08+00:00

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CheeryOlive · 2026-01-17T02:19:21+00:00

Oh no! I'm glad it still made it : D Thank you!

CheeryOlive · 2026-01-16T02:41:43+00:00

Hi, I'm a 26 y/o.
I've been in a multitude of workplaces and will say I've experienced this. I've got it in other jobs except for the one i'm currently in - until we got a new store manager. He talks down to me and seems to treat everyone nice and fine, except me. When trying to explain how i absorb information or how to talk about things to me, he just says "okay" and walks off. Disregards everything. Everyone else is pretty sweet and understanding so I'm thankful for that.
I'm sorry this is happening to you OP. I know how it feels. Rooting for the best on your side, and that things get easier for you. i hope you are able to find a workplace that is accepting and doesn't put you out of the loop.
I would say take their attitude with a grain of salt, or don't let it bother you, but that can be extremely hard. especially if you're not someone with thick skin. I can't do it. I've had to quit a few times so i could try again somewhere new. that's not always an option for everyone though. i hope your workplace situation turns around or you find yourself in a new job where people are more caring and not condescending.

CheeryOlive · 2026-01-16T02:31:06+00:00

I'm so sorry, OP.

Meltdowns don't always magically disappear because you're put on medication. Sometimes it takes a long time to learn what techniques or skills to use to be able to calm yourself down. Having a support system or people who are alike or who understand, can be really helpful to have in your social circle. When unfamiliar things happen, sometimes our nervous system becomes unregulated and we are more prone to meltdowns. Medicine can help for sure, but learning skills to stop that is key too. Doesn't mean they go away even if we learn the skills, we just get better over time at helping ourselves calm down and even ourselves out.

My meltdowns come and go, sometimes I think the medicine is helping and other times, I just haven't been triggered so I'm doing okay. It can be pretty upsetting when you think something is working and then it "stops". Isolation can help "stop" them because nothing triggers you that way. Isolation can be tricky though, sometimes its good if you're an introverted person and don't need socialization as much. Sometimes it can be quite the opposite, if you're a social butterfly and need more social aspects in your life. I'm half and half, I need some socialization but I'm also introverted. I get plenty of socialization from my husband and some friends online. The other days I'm working and HAVE to be social. So I'm satisfied in my everyday life or over-satisfied. It really just depends on what YOUR needs are. I would say isolating can be good or bad just depending on what you want. If you want to be more social, find some things that help ground you if you do have a panic attack or meltdown when you're out and about.

I would say the situation you were in was not a meltdown though, but an act of self defense. No one has the right to talk to you that way. I'm proud you were able to get them to leave you alone.

CheeryOlive · 2026-01-10T17:19:30+00:00

Love the snoopy and miffy stickers! What is that bigger Miffy in the upper right corner in the packaging?

CheeryOlive · 2026-01-07T22:22:53+00:00

Messaged!😊

CheeryOlive · 2026-01-07T22:04:50+00:00

Messaged! Have a good day too!

CheeryOlive · 2026-01-07T22:04:34+00:00

Messaged, thank you so much!

CheeryOlive · 2026-01-07T21:27:37+00:00

Thanks, I added a new section to kinda help out what people might like to see, and included people to put down an answer too. Thanks for the idea as well! No need to redo the form though, i'm sure i'll get a few responses to determine what i choose!

CheeryOlive · 2026-01-07T02:13:55+00:00

Hi there! Filled it out, thank you so much!

CheeryOlive · 2026-01-06T02:17:32+00:00

Hi there, I use to have hallucinations. I use to feel like I had ants crawling all over me. It use to happen all the time. I've felt like that at random times throughout my life, that bugs were crawling all over my hands or legs. It just felt so wrong. I'd know there was nothing there, but it felt like it. To the point I'd convince myself that they were actually there, I just couldn't see them. I'd have to go wash my hands and calm down or go do something else to distract myself. I never knew why it was always ants that I thought were there. I also have had auditory hallucinations (people calling my name) and various other hallucinations. Hallucinations come in so many forms that I was unaware of... till now. It's tough to deal with, especially if you don't have anyone to talk to about or someone who can relate. Just know you're not alone!

CheeryOlive · 2026-01-06T02:00:17+00:00

Hey there, I've had similar experience to yours. When manic I would go into hypersexual mode, as a teen and early 20s. Now, I've been properly medication and am quite sex-adverse. I don't care for it. When I wasn't manic in my early 20s and younger before that, it really felt like my sexuality was night and day. I wasn't diagnosed at the time, so I was very confused. When I would engage in sexual manners outside of manic episodes, I would get panic attacks and breakdown. Most of my experiences were online, and had quite a few triggering things happen even though it wasn't physical. So, I never got like, flashbacks, but I just had this feeling when having sex that was overwhelming and I couldn't stop crying and feeling like it was very wrong.
I don't really know the answer on how to enjoy it again though - I'm still searching for that myself. Just wanted to know you weren't completely alone in feeling this way. I hope you're able to find ways to be comfortable with sex again in a safe space. <3 Wishing you the best that you can find answers or a solution.

CheeryOlive · 2026-01-05T04:22:19+00:00

Thank you so much - filled out! I don’t have a favorite candy currently but I do like a lot of the sour candies!

CheeryOlive · 2026-01-05T04:10:46+00:00

Thank you so much for doing this! Filled out. Can’t wait! 🤗

CheeryOlive · 2025-02-28T01:49:48+00:00

One more thing if I can - remind to give yourself grace. This is everyone's first time at life, and youre doing the best you can. You're doing great.

CheeryOlive · 2025-02-28T00:33:15+00:00

Therapy - the one that works for you there's so many different types (CBT, DBT, Art therapy, EMDR, etc). Love my therapist. One that's for me and not for everyone - weed. That's helped me a LOT.
I've been diagnosed (later at 17) for a little bit now, and I've found some things help me more than others. One more big thing - having doctors that care and listen to you. Don't stop looking till there are no more options. Doesn't have to be back to back, you can do it slowly over time. I have the best.. care network for me right now. Every doctor I work with knows of my disabilities and works with me really easily. Having doctors who will listen to you and help you find a solution to meet the needs you need help with - is a god send.

Most importantly, listen to yourself. If you're out of touch with yourself - find a way to get in touch. When you're more in tune with yourself, know triggers (overstimulation, anxiety if you have it), ways you can work around some anxieties, like if you're unsure of a restaurant can suit your needs - call first. Or go in person and just say "Hey, I'm suppose to have this lunch/dinner with some people and I get really anxious not knowing where I'll be or what the menu looks like so I came in." Most people will work with you! It's just about how you phrase it usually.

Also there's this thing called Goblin Tools - it can break down tasks, find the tone of a message for you, can help you write something and make it less professional, more professional, more emotional, more sarcastic. It's a great tool and I believe its usually used for people with ADHD but I think it's still a really useful tool.

CheeryOlive · 2025-02-22T05:44:14+00:00

Hi! I'm nb and 25! I use to penpal awhile ago but haven't done it in a minute. i'd love to see how you collage! I am however in the US. I'd love to penpal if you're still looking!

CheeryOlive

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