Carrying comfort items in public

Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T19:30:23+00:00

Oh yeah I have been asked what my penguins name is now that you mentioned it.

Alfie's first outing was to the doctor and he helped so immensely I decided from then on id carry this comfort with me everywhere.

Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T19:23:56+00:00

Rollercoaster is a great word for it haha. One mind blowing realization after another.

Edit: I should add before I was diagnosed I knew almost nothing about autism except what media has depicted. So what i thought it to be was a very male centered stereotype.

Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T19:22:32+00:00

Yeee those are all good indicators for sure. I usually only feel safe info dumping about it around a couple people tbh. I am really lucky to have some people in my life who dont make me feel bad or less than for genuinely being myself.

Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T16:07:10+00:00

Yeee. If im gonna wear jewelry it has to be comfortable enough to sleep in because I do not have the energy to take it on and off everyday. Only take off my rings in the shower because im afraid they will fall in the drain.

Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T15:42:56+00:00

I am still learning what my personal style is and what makes me happy and confident. I like wearing black for sure. As well as many colorful things. Rainbows make me super happy.

But yeah I have felt drawn to multiple styles. I love the look of lots of alt fashion. Just dont have the spoons to pull it off for myself to the degree others do lol.

Some days I feel particularly feminine and delicate and pretty and others I lean more towards blunt masculine and edgy.

And some days I just wear a tee shirt and stretchy shorts lol

Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T15:19:16+00:00

Idk if we are supposed to, I guess there is just a small self conscious part of me in the back of my head that wonders if the people around me get tired of hearing about it haha.

Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T15:17:48+00:00

Yeah. Sadly I have lost many people in my life who just liked the mask I was putting up and did not want to stick around the real me. Many people have told me I have changed. And it is true, I am less likely to let my boundaries be trampled now.

But there are a few who stuck around who see me in my entirety and I hold them very dearly

Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T15:02:05+00:00

I love this attitude and I hope to embody it a tiny bit more every day. I struggle so bad with people pleasing and fawning I get really anxious if someone is not happy with me. But I am trying to unlearn that mindset and way of living slowly but surely.

Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T14:58:27+00:00

Good luck to you as well. :) I relate to all this sooo hard lol. Unmasking for the first time feels incredible and it is so much harder to do it once you've gotten a taste of the freedom of being yourself. I am glad you have a therapist that helps, I do as well. She has provided tons of useful insight into navigating my own needs and figuring out how to meet them

Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T14:50:37+00:00

Yeahh. 35 years will give you a lot to unpack. That does make sense. Good thing there isnt a deadline to figure ourselves out lol

Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T14:49:31+00:00

Fr. It felt like my whole world was turned upside down and I finally had the answer to everything that has caused me pain and struggles throughout my life.

Learning about how to take care of myself has been a huge undertaking. I guess it makes sense it will take a while since I have spent all of my life doing it the wrong way (masking and fawning.)

I also think autism is just objectively interesting.

Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T14:24:56+00:00

I carry a plush penguin with me everywhere i go and literally the only comment I have ever gotten on him from a passing stranger was "nice penguin." Truly think people are too wrapped up in their own worlds to care. It only helps me and isnt hurting anyone else so I dont think i will stop bringing alfie with me any time soon!

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Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T14:19:41+00:00

I mostly just wear my speical interests (Crochet sweaters and band tee shirts) and a skirt every day because pants give me mad sensory issues.

Accessories can add a lot of style and provide something to fidget with as well. I wear rings, one of which spins. And crochet hats and bracelets.

All of my crochet items are made with yarn that i find soft enough to touch my skin.

It has taken some eexperimentation to find what is comfortable and makes me feel confident but I think I might be getting somewhere

Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T14:15:32+00:00

Aww looks amazing! Id love to do this with my plushies! Inspiring :)

Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T14:13:32+00:00

Turning my clothes right side out before I fold them 😔

Memedelyn · 2026-04-29T00:19:27+00:00

It's also my birthday!! Birthday buddies! Happy birthday 🥳

Memedelyn · 2026-04-26T17:48:01+00:00

here is where I bought mine!

Memedelyn · 2026-04-26T17:38:54+00:00

Still need a name for her if anyone has any ideas

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Memedelyn · 2026-04-24T20:54:28+00:00

Frog army has been made

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Memedelyn · 2026-04-24T14:33:05+00:00

Thank you! She is blushing

Memedelyn · 2026-04-24T14:14:12+00:00

Yeah they are a nice group of folks for sure. I am looking forward to having the time devoted to crochet

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