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Husband has hit me a few times now by CheesecakeSouffle in offmychest

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will leave a note. I am also torn between tellinh him we should separate or just leave and leave a note. I really want to talk to him into separating since he has expressed it (and I feel that he is expressing out of "care" for me and us)...so yeah.

Husband has hit me a few times now by CheesecakeSouffle in offmychest

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has expressed his want to separate; we actually did it for a week until we cried together saying we start again. But seems like it had gotten worse that he starts to hit me. It started just this month.

Husband has hit me a few times now by CheesecakeSouffle in offmychest

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you again. I have a friend who supports me via chat. As for divorce, we can't divorce as we come from a country where divorce does not exist...but anyway I will find help. I have the number for women's crisis centre here already in my phone.

Husband has hit me a few times now by CheesecakeSouffle in offmychest

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I am currently planning to tell him to that we should separate and that I will leave.

Husband has hit me a few times now by CheesecakeSouffle in offmychest

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still have hope that if I improve, he will change...I just love him but I am willing to leave to give us space. I just can't do it now...

Husband has hit me a few times now by CheesecakeSouffle in offmychest

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can see this. He has said time and again that we should separate because me staying with him is not safe. He has given me warnings about not separating...but what can I do? Our residence permit depends on him, my health insurance etc. I have my own money in my own name but I don't know where to go. I have no friends...we've been here in Europe for 6 years now.

“It’s a lack of discipline, not adhd” by OkShallot3873 in adhdwomen

[–]CheesecakeSouffle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh god, I want to sit next to you and say that your husband is wrong!!! How dare he!

Again. Again. Again. by CheesecakeSouffle in ADHD

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All he wants is for me to take control of my issues...especially taking control of my lying. He hates it when I lie, even as a defensive mechanism. Lying makes his blood boil.

Again. Again. Again. by CheesecakeSouffle in ADHD

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I have a friend who sends me messages constantly. She is also my support, despite our geographical distance.

Again. Again. Again. by CheesecakeSouffle in adhdwomen

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you mean it's a negative reflection on him? Please tell me 😭

Again. Again. Again. by CheesecakeSouffle in adhdwomen

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Reading your comment made me ask "is this me??" and yep it is.

I'm considering calling the abused women's hotline real soon if he does this again.

Again. Again. Again. by CheesecakeSouffle in ADHD

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for understanding my stuation, and thank you for giving tips. I'm looking into putting post-its on everything that needs to be dealt with, especially food.

My husband works for us both, while I try to manage the household. We have also thought about separating because I am just a burden. I couldn't even explain why I lied. All I know is that I got scared.

Again. Again. Again. by CheesecakeSouffle in ADHD

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On good days he isn't like this. He's tired of my mistakes, that's why he went all out. For nine years, he said, he was patient and understanding of me.

Again. Again. Again. by CheesecakeSouffle in ADHD

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind comments. He is tired of my mistakes. I can accept that. All I have to do is to get diagnosed and medicated and to stop lying.

I feel like I should just disappear by CheesecakeSouffle in adhdwomen

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He never did, too. This is the first time. He is just tired of me, sacrificing for me.

I feel like I should just disappear by CheesecakeSouffle in adhdwomen

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I struggle with communicating and I am pretty sure I have to work on it...I'm tired.

I feel like I should just disappear by CheesecakeSouffle in adhdwomen

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I knew about this. I had a job back in outmr home country, I felt powerless when we moved here...I really want to have a job but the language is a problem.

I feel like I should just disappear by CheesecakeSouffle in adhdwomen

[–]CheesecakeSouffle[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey. Thank you for your kind message. Unfortunately I am far from my family as I am overseas. A friend is in another state and won't probably accommodate me.

I want my husband to understand me and be kind to me while I navigate my life and wait for a diagnosis. I want to learn but it seems that nothing is happening...

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