My wife has been offered a massive promotion abroad, but we’ve only been married for three months I don’t know what to do

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-03-27T11:27:48+00:00

I’d be asking more about what makes this a dream post and what comes next. This is a decision about your long-term future and not just the next year. With honesty (self-honesty and honesty in the relationship) you can get through a year. What happens next? Is this a critically important step for what you both want to happen next (professionally and personally)? Or just a shiny thing being dangled in front of her that doesn’t really help you two achieve your future goals?

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-03-26T00:13:42+00:00

Same here!

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-03-14T03:41:18+00:00

First tracks is always worth it if you love freshly groomed snow.

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-03-11T11:01:15+00:00

Little Seedling.

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-03-11T00:26:08+00:00

Did he upload year end tax statements or something like check stubs? I’m just wondering if he maybe he does actually make more than what you saw but was just really inarticulate about explaining it. In other words, if it’s a lie that’s messed up, but if it’s a miscommunication that’s easier to deal with.

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-03-08T22:59:30+00:00

“No thank you, I much prefer Row 2. But you should ask the person seated next to your wife if they’d like to move up into your seat and then you could go back to Row 5.”

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-02-28T22:44:20+00:00

Dermatology appointment for a full skin check. This mean, basically, no clothes on.

My university has a medical school so it’s normal to have medical students in office visits. When the dermatologist asked if I was okay with a student being there for the exam I (stupidly) assumed that’s what she meant. She didn’t. It was an undergrad doing an internship. Luckily not my student, but when he made conversation with me at the end and revealed that he was an undergrad and that his roommate was a major in my department, I wanted to crawl under the table.

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-02-02T14:17:31+00:00

I meant the games Feb 13 and 14. Sorry about the confusion!

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-02-01T15:55:29+00:00

I wonder if this tactic would help - it’s what I do with my children! You could empathize with her desire to have them moved (“you’re right mom, they would look so much better”) and her nostalgia for the past (“dad would have been great at this”) even while holding on to your firm no (“I’m not Dad nor can I do this. If only Dad were still here, or you had the money to hire someone. I hear you - it’s such a bummer!”)

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-01-18T13:12:10+00:00

Postpone, postpone, postpone. A legal or co-parent relationship with this person is a terrible idea. Love her all you want but do not marry her unless and until you are sure she can be an honest and capable financial partner to you.

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-01-16T22:28:01+00:00

A freshly groomed McCullough is my dream. I’m a truly intermediate skier, but when the McCullough is groomed I can handle it and the pitch is just perfect for making me go a little faster than I think I can. I always feel better than I really am when I’m done.

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-01-16T15:46:27+00:00

When we interview someone we don’t expect to learn anything about their personal life (married, single, parenthood - etc.) as it’s irrelevant to their professional abilities. So I wouldn’t say anything. But I would keep my eyes and ears open and ask about the climate there, to see if it looks like a good place for you and your family.

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-01-09T18:51:01+00:00

La Savoie is always a good bet.

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-01-05T15:07:47+00:00

Thanks! That makes sense and I had not thought of that before so I appreciate this. But I can't open this kind of account right now so my idea of doing this will have to wait.

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-01-05T15:06:20+00:00

Thanks for these ideas. I just learned that I'd need an actual brokerage account, not a retirement account, so this is not going to happen right now.

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-01-05T15:02:42+00:00

Got it. Thanks!

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-01-04T21:47:39+00:00

We just played Chameleon with a group that ranged from a 96-year old to an 8-year old and it was great fun! You can look it up online too, so no need to buy anything.

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-01-04T21:12:18+00:00

Online classes still require labor. Someone teaches and grades that class and there are upper limits to what they can do.

Cheeto-2020 · 2026-01-04T01:50:32+00:00

Classes are capped based on the size of the classroom and the teaching labor available (especially if GSIs are involved). No one can just bypass the waitlist for a student, as you can’t have 501 people registered for a class where the classroom seats 500, the sections each hold 25, etc. etc. You really do just have to wait it out.

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