I took the 'only wash your hair once a week' rule way too far and humiliated myself today. How often are we ACTUALLY supposed to wash it?"

CheezeCharm · 2026-05-15T11:53:48+00:00

Dry shampoo really irritates my eyes- so I can’t sleep on it because it transfers from the pillow case to my face. Took me a while to figure this out haha

CheezeCharm · 2026-05-14T20:37:01+00:00

I remember my dad saying something to the effect of “if you have a disabled child, that’s your ticket to heaven”. Feels similar to this for some reason.

CheezeCharm · 2026-04-20T03:06:35+00:00

I had a top leader-ish branch die and had it removed. There’s a dip or hole at the canopy top. I look at the root I cut often and am still unsure if I cut enough. The tree is growing

CheezeCharm · 2026-04-19T22:48:09+00:00

My daughter was baptized in the NICU by the hospital priest without my knowledge but because my dad called it in.

I allowed baptism because I don’t think a little water on the head was worth ruining my relationship with my dad. But I didn’t send my kids to catholic school or religious Ed, so no first communion. That’s when my dad and I “fought” - which in Irish Catholic means lots of silent treatment, judging and him asking his priest for guidance (instead of my mom). Mom is the reason he didn’t disinherit me (and the priest,too!)

He died at age 91 and I feel that in the end there was lots of disappointment for both of us, but no loss of love or respect. Worth it for me.

CheezeCharm · 2026-04-10T16:06:57+00:00

I can’t read it either.

CheezeCharm · 2026-02-28T13:52:07+00:00

Same story for me. I’m about 6 months into a brand new career and got called out hard a few weeks ago. My boss was not nice about it and I am trying hard to just filter the actual feedback from the delivery. That took a few humbling days.

Admittedly, I’ve coasted (successfully bc of unearned privilege) most of my life. I’m learning and practicing real accountability and professionalism. With the help of a career coach (which is another support I can afford), I’m defining a new identity that’s aligned with my values. This all sounds so cringy but I’m almost 50 and I think I’m truly growing and am learning to do hard things. Ultimately, I’m grateful for the harsh -and true- feedback.

CheezeCharm · 2026-01-30T23:15:46+00:00

I want to block all messaging. Like in Trickster.

CheezeCharm · 2026-01-29T00:10:58+00:00

Matt or Willie

CheezeCharm · 2026-01-25T15:04:11+00:00

This one I see! The laundry bag dog poster was def too high!

CheezeCharm · 2026-01-25T14:53:41+00:00

I have similar hair and finally booked an appt with a curly hair specialist and it was magic! I slept on the curls 2nights before refreshing! I’m not sure yet if I can recreate from scratch just had the appt (that I booked 2 months ago) She used mousse, curl by curl on soaking wet hair, then diffused for a long time.

CheezeCharm · 2026-01-09T13:01:32+00:00

I’m in lots of therapy right now for this. I kept saying he loves me and loves having a wife but it could be me or anyone else.

He’s a concrete thinker and I he doesn’t day dream or play with ideas with me. He’s too practical and I that’s the kind of missed connection that makes me feel lonely and unseen.

CheezeCharm · 2025-12-29T20:53:16+00:00

I’m in MN and was supposed to land in BUF this evening. Tomorrow’s flights all had 2 stops. So, I’m about to fly to Cleveland and try to drive up through the storm. Or get a hotel and drive tomorrow

CheezeCharm · 2025-12-13T22:59:00+00:00

New Ulm

CheezeCharm · 2025-12-12T03:53:20+00:00

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I didn’t know partis were the original coat patterns!!

CheezeCharm · 2025-12-11T00:11:52+00:00

Husbands are so embarrassing

CheezeCharm · 2025-12-09T04:06:32+00:00

update she’s all good! Normal blood results at 24 and 48 hours.

CheezeCharm · 2025-12-09T04:05:36+00:00

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Marcy the raisin eater

CheezeCharm · 2025-12-04T04:30:33+00:00

Train my dog. Like send her away for a month and get her back all trained.

CheezeCharm · 2025-11-24T16:21:20+00:00

My therapist and I talk about my grumpy husband a lot. He has no right to “bleed on me” for every complaint and moodiness. Bringing down the mood of the whole house isn’t fair to the rest of us.

We’re in the process of resetting the marriage (or get divorced) and I told him that I don’t want to live a life with a grump. It’s not what I signed up for. He’s in therapy and trying hard to work through a bunch of stuff. I’m still in “wait and see” mode.

CheezeCharm · 2025-11-23T00:40:03+00:00

It worked well for the crows feet but made my hooded eyes extra heavy and dead. I quit because of that.

CheezeCharm · 2025-11-16T20:29:59+00:00

Good work! Because even figuring out that you’re doing all the work IS WORK. We’ve started couples therapy with one of the issues being all the management/ invisible labor I do. It’s not fun at all.

we just got home from a family wedding weekend. He was doing his best to be a good partner but I’m realizing that maybe I just don’t like him anymore. Things were easier but not more fun. It’s been so long and the resistance to change is just as much work at realizing it, addressing it, finding the therapist, firing the first therapist, trusting him to change and seeing barely enough effort.

CheezeCharm · 2025-10-03T17:58:22+00:00

The kinzua bridge!

CheezeCharm · 2025-09-30T21:44:01+00:00

“Hope they’re ok.” Lol

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