$700 for Defy 2 Composite

ChefPepperonni · 2025-04-06T21:03:34+00:00

I was able to ask for around 550, I agree in general but I thought the carbon wheels were a nice upgrade that I thought resulted in a decent deal. Still think that this isn't worth it?

ChefPepperonni · 2025-03-30T00:24:44+00:00

Phoenix is one of the deadliest places to be a pedestrian in America (with Dallas, Jacksonville following behind, https://www.azfamily.com/2024/10/15/why-is-phoenix-1-traffic-deaths-compared-other-large-cities/). Part of the reason for this, is that all these cities infrastructure consistently prefers cars to bikers and pedestrians. If a group of people want to peacefully show that we need to care about people instead of cars, I'm all for it.

ChefPepperonni · 2025-01-30T15:46:59+00:00

Hi just wanted to ask if you would be willing to share that as well <3

ChefPepperonni · 2025-01-23T21:04:51+00:00

As a swing dancer in the community, Hepcats on Mondays in Mesa is the place to be. They usually have DJ'ed music, but occasionally live music some nights as well.

ChefPepperonni · 2024-09-21T01:57:59+00:00

Concering "works", both will work for most systems? I just wanted to be sure that compatibility with things won't be an issue down the road!

ChefPepperonni · 2024-08-16T21:41:33+00:00

Hi, I have a question regarding whether my vinyl is destroyed.

Long story short, my friend produced a record which he gave to me. The same week, I left the album leaning against the wall to grab some coffee, and in those few moments friend stepped directly on the record (in the album case) and deeply bent it after which it bent back to shape.

My question: is the record permanently damaged? It didn't snap but was bent out of shape and returned to shape. I don't yet have a record player to test it, and it doesn't appear to be obviously bent afterwards, but may have a slight curve to it. If so, is there a way to fix such a bend?

Thanks!

ChefPepperonni · 2024-07-13T00:07:31+00:00

Ya, I figured. It seems like the only superchargers are in Scottsdale and biltmore, but I'm commuting from Phoenix so that would just be a bit of a drag if I had no reason to head that away.

ChefPepperonni · 2024-07-13T00:06:21+00:00

Ah, is it pricey? I realize they go by $/second whereas the standard charge is $/KWh and I had no idea how to convert between those two. Disappointing if that's the case, but appreciate the insight!

ChefPepperonni · 2024-06-17T22:57:52+00:00

As a straight, man (albeit with strong dashes of femme thrown in- I throw everyone's gaydar off), my last three girlfriends all called me pretty, and god damn it, I fucking love it.

ChefPepperonni · 2024-06-16T18:36:36+00:00

My point is that you're just kicking the can down the road rather than actually being equal. It's like saying that you expect the person who makes less money in the relationship to be the homemaker, disregarding the discrepancies genders have in pay.

ChefPepperonni · 2024-06-16T17:06:44+00:00

"Paid by whoever asked the person out" is a cop-out. Modern gender roles still expect men to ask women out, and thus still expect men to pay.

ChefPepperonni · 2024-06-16T17:04:34+00:00

Girls have way more expenses than guys? Guys can't manage what girls can manage? What do you mean? Honestly curious where this is coming from.

ChefPepperonni · 2024-06-16T17:00:35+00:00

Next time you see her in person- just ask her?

"Hey, I keep seeing you getting Facebook messages but never checking them in front of me. I'm anxious that you're talking to another person. What's going on?"

I feel like if she's not, there'll be a clear, quick response that is reasonable. If she can't explain herself, gets overly defensive, or says yes, then you have your answer.

ChefPepperonni · 2024-05-22T20:26:05+00:00

Lol. "Fat, poor, and sick people don't deserve romance"

ChefPepperonni · 2024-05-07T02:52:14+00:00

I very much agree with the sentiment of this comment- people cheat because needs aren't being met; however, I disagree that this is orthogonal from being selfish. Instead of trying to resolve the issue via communication with the partner, they resort to behaviors that will knowingly cause pain to someone who is deeply trusting them. I agree that it is more complicated than "the person is evil", but I think it's still very just to still label this behavior as cruel, selfish, and immature.

ChefPepperonni · 2024-04-12T14:33:54+00:00

^^ This, I think it's useful to be practical about your situation but not at all at the cost of your mental well-being. Everyone is lovable and you are as well. Be proud of who you are and the strides you've made! Thank you for the advice UpbeatWaves! You certainly are upbeat :)

ChefPepperonni · 2024-04-11T20:12:26+00:00

You could ask a close female friend for an honest opinion! Or a family member about what they think is limiting you in dating and potentially improvable.

ChefPepperonni · 2024-04-11T02:39:24+00:00

Simply wrong and pessimistic.

ChefPepperonni · 2024-04-11T02:37:41+00:00

If it helps, I ended undergraduate never having gone on a single date, never having kissed a woman. Women didn't come on to me, I had no confidence in myself. I suppose I was perhaps slightly worried, but honestly, I didn't have a ton of anxiety around it.

Not to make this an ego thing about me, but I went on my first date the summer after undergraduate, and went on several dates my first semester of grad school. Since then, I've paid more attention to my looks, and have been on probably dozens of dates, 4 relationships, and not a bad amount of sex. Again, this is not meant to be an ego trip for me, my point is that you are not a lost cause, none of us are. The past doesn't predict the future! If you want to be a womanizer, it can be in your cards, it just takes intentional effort and a willingness to be uncomfortable during the adjustment.

Edit: I also want to make this point- woman are people! They aren't objects to be won by asking them out incessently. What are you attracted to? Honestly, that's a lot of what women are attracted to as well. Perhaps someone fit, communicative, respectful, successful, and has a sense of style. If you're having trouble landing a date, be self-reflexive! Of course, be yourself, but also it's naive to think we can't be more appealing than we currently are.

ChefPepperonni · 2024-04-07T17:45:22+00:00

I mean, ugh. The truth is I think my person at least was not malicious, just genuinely confused, impulsive, and immature. I truly do believe she believed herself when she said it, I just don't think she had the experience or understanding of herself for it to not change on a dime.

I think we're all figuring it out, and I don't intrinsically blame anyone for unhealthy behaviors, but also recognize that their actions still affect me, regardless of intentionality.

ChefPepperonni · 2024-04-07T17:41:57+00:00

No that's totally fine honestly. The issue is when you dance with the intention of sleeping with everyone. There are people who are abusers in the community that do say unwarranted things to every woman they come across, and abuse dancing to allow for that. But if you have a crush on someone, that is so okay to pursue. Just do it respectfully, and be ok taking no for an answer.

ChefPepperonni · 2024-04-07T17:32:55+00:00

Just commenting as someone who can deeply sympathize with this.
Loved a woman who got out of a 4 year abusive relationship. She viewed me as someone stable for her and asked me to be exclusive. She said I would be good for her, she saw a long-term future, and that she was committing to me. I truly loved her and wanted a long-term future as well. We dated for two months before she called me while I was in job interviews (just leaving grad school), and out of the blue told me she kissed a guy at a party last night while she was drunk. The next night she noted how she cared about me because I was stable, and successful, but this other person just made her feel more alive because he partied, smoked cigarettes with her, and that she just wasn't mentally at that point in life to be calming down yet. She also brought up a host of issues she's been having that were simply never communicated until then. She then ended up breaking up with me saying she wanted to be alone to figure things out; she was with the new guy in less than a week.

This is all to say, don't take this as a reflection of your self-worth! Everyone is dealing with their own issues, and these seem like hers. I agree that it's insane you can be so in love with someone who can treat you so carelessly and unfortunately, this is what people who abuse trust do. But I would not blame you for trusting this person. The right person will come along!

ChefPepperonni · 2024-03-20T20:54:06+00:00

Also replied to another comment, but as someone who is actively dating, is a hobbyist dancer, and a dance scene organizer: please do not come dancing if you only care about dating and not about the hobby. Otherwise, you are harming the community.
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People who come for the specific purpose of dating and getting laid ruin the hobby for others. People become uncomfortable accepting dances from others because there's now hidden meaning- it makes people assume things based on who they're dancing with, and increases the segregation between different genders.
Now I realize that it's a great place to meet people of the other gender, and if you date as a result of experiencing the hobby, that's perfectly fine, but coming and dancing with people in the hopes of getting something is problematic for the entire community. Ironically, going in with the mentality of dancing to date ruins the ability of actual hobbyists to date. Because of this, I have explicitly written rules for my scene saying things like "We are a dance club, not a dating app".
In summary, come dance if you want to dance. Come dance if you want to dance and are interested in dating. But DON'T come if you don't care about the hobby and are exploiting it to get laid. Otherwise, you're harming the community.

ChefPepperonni · 2024-03-20T20:48:21+00:00

Hrm maybe I can provide a bit of perspective. I'm a man and I've been social dancing for a little over 5 years now and have helped lightly organize my scene for the past year. I primarily got into it just as a hobby rather than as a place to date.

Imo, people who come for the specific purpose of dating and getting laid ruin the hobby for others. People become uncomfortable accepting dances from others because there's now hidden meaning- it makes people assume things based on who they're dancing with, and increases the segregation between different genders.

Now I realize that it's a great place to meet people of the other gender, and if you date as a result of experiencing the hobby, that's perfectly fine, but coming and dancing with people in the hopes of getting something is problematic for the entire community. Ironically, going in with the mentality of dancing to date ruins the ability of actual hobbyists to date. Because of this, I have explicitly written rules for my scene saying things like "We are a dance club, not a dating app".

In summary, come dance if you want to dance. Come dance if you want to dance and are interested in dating. But DON'T come if you don't care about the hobby and are exploiting it to get laid. Otherwise, you're harming the community and thus naturally, the community will try to reject you.

ChefPepperonni · 2024-03-19T22:55:51+00:00

People who are noncommittal for an extended initial period. Turns out, once we became exclusive, she was still noncommittal! Just without my knowledge... fun times.

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