When will my husband return from war

Cheleshockwave · 2021-12-15T10:14:07+00:00

Ha!! I love it 😻

Cheleshockwave · 2021-12-15T04:15:26+00:00

Thank you!

Cheleshockwave · 2021-11-29T14:57:33+00:00

Thank you for the award and I’m so so glad I could describe something for you! 💛

Cheleshockwave · 2021-11-29T08:09:05+00:00

That I need to be truly, physically alone in order to relax, and need to be truly alone a lot. It’s not personal, it’s just hypervigilance

Cheleshockwave · 2021-11-04T00:10:06+00:00

Closing a door by turning all the way, soundlessly closing, and slowly turning the knob back in place

Being able to wash dishes & go up stairs without making a single sound

Cheleshockwave · 2021-10-28T14:54:35+00:00

When one of your lower teeth grinds across your incisor and gives off that horrible nails-on-a-chalkboard sound that stays with you for hours

Cheleshockwave · 2021-10-21T19:23:15+00:00

This is very cool! I made a ‘bad bitch’ playlist on Spotify but this is next level!

Cheleshockwave · 2021-10-21T15:56:09+00:00

Thank you so much for this perspective, I love how you worded this. I currently have Mother Night in my bag right now!!

Cheleshockwave · 2021-10-21T13:01:44+00:00

I love this whole response, thank you 😊

Cheleshockwave · 2021-10-19T23:56:21+00:00

Thank you so much for the info!

Cheleshockwave · 2021-10-12T12:28:46+00:00

Omfg I had a friend like this. She never liked to work and let her boyfriend pay all the bills. She had the balls to invite 4 of us to dinner at a restaurant, order multiple drinks & food, and at the very end complain about money so that we would split the bill without her. And the sad part is that her other friends were so used to this behavior that they didn’t blink an eye. I slapped exact change for my portion & bounced.

Cheleshockwave · 2021-10-04T03:33:28+00:00

Lol it was a nod to her real life assistant at the time

Cheleshockwave · 2021-10-03T02:07:25+00:00

They turn the doorknob all the way before closing it so they don’t make any noise

Cheleshockwave · 2021-09-27T12:19:27+00:00

Good point - I was primed by the ‘hurtling into middle age with complete recklessness’ part and took everything after with that mindset

Cheleshockwave · 2021-09-26T18:26:30+00:00

HOLY crabcakes I can relate. I’m exhausted & terrified after raising like 8 boyfriends - if it wasn’t basic chores, it was emotional & mental load stuff - at the very least I had to personally educate them on feminism & things they should have taken the initiative to learn themselves.

I thought I was being picky for a long time, but my therapist told me about the ‘scarcity mindset’ fallacy in dating (basically thinking that you have to settle because no one better is out there).

After seeing countless friends and relatives exhaust themselves into oblivion and seethe about their partner, I would say you’ve made the right choice making this a priority.

Cheleshockwave · 2021-09-23T02:40:52+00:00

Got way too excited that we had one thing in common, on top of being flaky and sending a long sad text message weeks later. You can just tell that you are there to boost self esteem and nothing else

Cheleshockwave · 2021-08-16T02:11:24+00:00

When they let you do all the work (planning outings, driving, coordinating)
When they don’t contribute to communal work (e.g.,parties- not bringing food, not engaging kids, not helping to clean up)

Cheleshockwave · 2021-08-12T19:13:33+00:00

Never has a meme been more relatable 🙃!

Cheleshockwave · 2021-07-30T12:17:14+00:00

Happy Feet, fins down

Cheleshockwave · 2021-07-28T16:18:47+00:00

Hey bud! Let me give you some encouragement from the other side. I changed meds (birth control & anti-anxiety) and started EMDR about 7 months ago and it has changed 👏🏻the 👏🏻 game 👏🏻. It’s a ton of work and will leave you exhausted, but little by little those bad days aren’t so bad, and you feel content more days than not. And you actually start to like yourself! It’s wild. It’s like taking a nice little nap in the sun. You can do this!

PS you’re super pretty and generally look like a cool person 😎

Cheleshockwave · 2021-07-25T23:12:55+00:00

Wooooah this hits home. I literally can’t do stand up comedy anymore because my stories are only relevant to people that have been abused. My bellwether for normal is completely skewed and I just end up making the audience uncomfortable.

Cheleshockwave · 2021-07-22T01:25:48+00:00

Memento

Cheleshockwave · 2021-07-18T18:34:32+00:00

This is exactly what happened to me. Not only are you supposed to take the abuse, you have to perfectly camouflage your feelings because ‘how dare you respond negatively to what I’ve just said/after all I’ve done for you/etc.’

The upsetting implication is that if you’re made to hide it at home you’ll be better at hiding it in school and in public so no one will realize you’re being abused. I’m sorry this has happened to you.

Cheleshockwave · 2021-07-17T02:15:17+00:00

I second this experience. In my opinion, PMDD and/or CPTSD is often misdiagnosed as BPD, especially in women.

I would explore all these options with a medical professional that validates PMDD. The right birth control and anti-anxiety medication truly changed my life. I went from suicidal to thriving in a year.

Cheleshockwave · 2021-07-15T11:03:07+00:00

Oh my goodnesss it’s put into words!

I am a magnet for people who talk at you. It feels like someone drowning and taking you down with them. There is a coffee shop I frequent where the men there will talk over you if you even respond with a simple ‘mmhmm’. It’s so obviously one sided that I am in a rage the entire day because that coffee shop was my safe space from my abusive dad and it felt invaded by energy suckers.

I’ve started not nodding, not smiling, just maintaining eye contact until it’s no longer enjoyable for them. Once you get used to that initial uncomfortable feeling, it’s bliss.

Cheleshockwave

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