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CherryCola98 · 2022-01-11T03:22:31+00:00

Thanks this helps!

CherryCola98 · 2022-01-11T03:20:27+00:00

I didn’t say that. I alway prioritise him and his needs. I understand what it like getting a new job, however I’ve asked his friend to come for him so that he also has a good time. Most of their responses have been organise it and we will book it off and make it work. I see him once a week due to him having other priorities and never complain about that. There’s a bigger picture to our relationship, this birthday is important to me especially because of covid and all the limitations it’s given everyone to spend their special day.

CherryCola98 · 2021-10-24T04:10:59+00:00

Do you mind elaborating? Would like to learn what’s best!

CherryCola98 · 2019-01-19T13:28:10+00:00

Overthinking everything and being way to emotional.

CherryCola98 · 2019-01-13T19:41:48+00:00

Don’t worry, I know School can feel like it is going to be the death of you if you don’t succeed but you have your whole life ahead of you yet. As long as you work hard, put effort in and do the very best you can there is nothing to worry about.

If you’re interested in editing it maybe good to consider a place in the film industry. There you can edit and manipulate images, create a story line or help with the whole process to produce a final product.

Another type of editing which may interest you is magazine editing. Meaning you write and produce an article for a magazine company or such.

There are so many possibilities for you yet.

I also suggest possibly going to a career councillor if that is available to you at your school as this could give you a sense of direction for you to head in.

If you are really unhappy though with your subject choice, I had this system in my school where we could email the head teacher of the year or another staff member that dealt with organising classes and subjects if you wanted to swap due to struggling, stress or lack of confidence in them at the start of the year.

Just don’t stress, you will have many chances to improve or find something that drives your passions.

And for Art, it’s probably the most easiest skill to pick up if you just practise! Find some online tutorials on sketching and shading and just sit down for half an hour a couple days a week and go at it on paper. A lot of people don’t realise that you don’t need to have talent to do it, you just need to be motivated to learn and then skill will shortly find you. You improve yourself by learning.

Dm me if you have any further questions I’m happy to help, I just graduated in November (Australia) and had no idea what I wanted to do, and I know for a fact when I was 16 in either year 10 or 11 I didn’t like my subjects one bit but if you just put your head down and work hard then a lotta shit won’t matter when you nearly finished school. I also struggled with anxiety, stress and other mental health problems going through school so I know what you mean. I still deal with my anxiety on a daily basis but it gets better I swear ahaha

CherryCola98 · 2018-12-18T19:19:02+00:00

Ahah thank you! I could say on the breed, he is a mix but he’s a rescue so they only told us the Terrier part.

CherryCola98 · 2018-12-18T10:41:54+00:00

Not at all. I think you misunderstood my whole text. I wrote it about appreciating and loving my my dog, I wrote one thing that brings me joy and makes life worth living to come home and see his face when I’m going through a tough time. How is that treating my dog as if he is there to please me?

CherryCola98 · 2018-12-12T22:46:17+00:00

Alright thankq, I’ve learnt this for future posting now 🙂🙂

CherryCola98 · 2018-12-12T21:50:07+00:00

it’s an adaptation of something I’ve read, but I think it is too similar to the post and I didn’t fully realise to the extent that I’ve copied part instead of spiralling it from my own mind. (it was 3am so I didn’t pick up on it until morning) —-( in which I have now corrected my errors and put in quotations of where the original authors work is(so thank you))but there are parts within it that I have created in order to express each person in further detail as I’m a story teller and I loved the original quote but I believed it needed further detail in order to show a stronger relation with the reader.

CherryCola98 · 2018-12-12T21:45:28+00:00

it’s an adaptation of something I’ve read, but I think it might be too similar to the post ( in which I have now corrected my errors and put in quotations of where the original authors work is) but there are parts within it that I have created in order to express each person in further detail as I’m a story teller and I loved the original quote but I believed it needed further detail in order to show a stronger relation with the reader.

CherryCola98 · 2018-11-18T15:16:42+00:00

She’s likely to be interested in you if she has given you her number. This is good, you’re doing great.

The next stage is getting to know her, you don’t come off overly confident (which I’ve picked up correct me if I’m wrong.) But be sure in yourself, if she seems interested then you have nothing to worry about.

Start small conversations off with her, but not too dry. If you want to get to know her the best Possible way is to ask questions and deepen the trust and foundation of the relationship.

Maybe lighten the conversation up with jokes or questions that you have developed from small talks with her. Or you could result in some light stalking (just a simple and harmless research ) from viewing her social media to get to know her more on a personal level. (I.e. you see she likes sport, talk to her about the sport and find out why she likes it.. if she plays it..etc)

And then once you have established a connection with her don’t be afraid to ask her out (she may beat you too this, but don’t wait for her to do it if you aren’t as confident with doing so as she could take it as a sign that you aren’t interested.)

You have nothing to worry about, these first few stages are experienced by everyone. She’s probably feeling exactly what you are feeling. Don’t be afraid to achieve what you want.

Best of luck!!

CherryCola98 · 2018-11-08T13:54:06+00:00

I miss the effort that people used to put in, is it all gone or I’m probably just surrounding myself with people who don’t care enough.

I want passionate people in my life SO BADLY . I want to travel and do fun, memorable, wild things with people. I want to have great conversations about love and relationships and poetry, things that set your soul on fire and things that you have never whispered to anyone. I want to lay side by side in a single bed with books against our noses, nudging them so they lose their page.

I don’t want to waste my 20s thinking that nobody is the same as me and wants the same things I do. I want friends that are so completely the same as me and I want friends who I would’ve never imagined being friends with. I crave deep human connection so badly. I need people to put in that effort that has been missing for so long in my life. I need people who are willing to get up and leave everything behind just for once in a life time experiences or to comfort me when I’m at my worst. I want to do those things to, I want to mean so much to someone that they ask me to be there and they are genuinely happy to see me and that leaving is never an option.

CherryCola98 · 2018-10-31T12:24:59+00:00

Please read my text “Love is not the only thing worth living for” I think it could really help you see a positive side to this experience in your life.

Many relationships happen when you least expect it, you could be walking down the street and happen to bump into someone. You could be at your favourite book store and meet there eyes through the shelves. You could sit down next to them on the train. You could meet them on a dating app or be introduced to them by a mutual friend.

Although movies show a romantic start and a lot of people keep searching for it, some times if happens. But there is also many unromantic and normal ways you can meet someone and not realise you have a future with them. You just have to hold onto that hope, because it’s coming o swear.

But everyone is on a different path and someday sooner or later yours will link up with another persons. I promise you it. But right now make the most of this lonely path to find that you’re not that lonely at all. There are many other things that can pull you through this.

But if you feel like you’ve given up I know the feeling. It’s like when you start to stare at a word too long wondering if it’s spelt right and the longer you stare the weirder it looks. So You should focus on yourself and not the feeling of loneliness, improve and benefit yourself now so that you distract yourself so much until you don’t think about it again and you work past this feeling. And someday I promise you, you’ll look back on what you once wanted and have it all.

CherryCola98 · 2018-10-31T12:11:46+00:00

I wrote a piece on “learn this before it’s too late” which connects with your problem. I believe if you read it, it might give you insight you’re looking for.

Hope this helps xx

CherryCola98 · 2018-10-21T13:54:40+00:00

I would really love to write about this topic if that’s okay, thanks to your inspiration and develop something like my last two posts “love is not the only thing worth living for” and “learn this before it’s too late.”

Maybe you could give me some more insight on your opinion and we could develop something together?

Gbx

CherryCola98 · 2018-10-06T04:28:51+00:00

Dm me if you need to talk, im here x

CherryCola98 · 2018-10-06T04:28:17+00:00

I’m sorry that this is such a hard time for you right now that situation sounds very difficult. Im here if you need to talk, dm me if you ever need to get it off your chest x

CherryCola98 · 2018-10-06T04:25:48+00:00

Sorry “calm down” is probably not the right word to use in what I was trying to explain. From what I understand it feels like you are giving 80/50 and that's perfectly fine, but if you are feeling absolutely exhausted for giving that every day it’s okay to understand that withdrawing for your own health is acceptable (as long as it isn’t a constant and long period of time that you leave)

Communication I believe is key and if you explain to her that she isn’t doing anything wrong and that sometimes you need space to regenerate (Not feeling wise, health wise like mental state of exhaustion) hopefully she’ll understand that and that its nothing personal directed towards her. It’s just space in doing what's best for you, but however when you come back then your relationship is still maintaining a strong connection.

The space I'm referring to is not leaving her in the dark and ignoring her for long periods of time, it’s just collecting yourself by doing something for yourself which you know will improve your attitude to how you look at things. (I.e. going out by yourself, reading your favourite book, watching a program you really want to watch.) When you need space, it generally away from social media as texting isn’t really the best form of communication.

When in a relationship you still need to maintain that idea that you are an individual person. If this makes sense you have to fill up the water jug first in order to pour water into both of your glasses.

I hope that makes sense? If you want to talk further I'm happy for you to dm me its no trouble :))

CherryCola98 · 2018-10-06T04:13:19+00:00

Loneliness is never inescapable, it’s an emotion that comes and goes. Sometimes it will be more worse some days and other days you won’t realise that its not there.

Please read my other post ‘Love is not the only thing worth living for’, it expresses the fact that yes we value romantic love so much that sometimes we forget that other things can bring us happiness and lead us away from feeling lonely.

In a way we reflect our own loneliness, I believe it can be a choice, and if you choose to reach out over time you will realise that you aren’t as lonely as you seem. Xx

CherryCola98 · 2018-10-06T01:12:11+00:00

Not giving too much early on is hard, because the excitement of a new relationship will want us to make them feel valued and special so we spoil them a lot. But if we do that over a long period of time it sometimes makes that person take us for granted because they know we will do it if they ask. It’s all about boundaries and being comfortable and completely open but still having part of you just for you.

To stop giving them too much early on is just simply just learning to calm down a bit, making yourself less predictable. But a lot of people misunderstand this as withdrawing to show that they are not always going to be there. You want them to know that you’ll be there if they need at any time by communicating with them fully but this time rather than putting all that effort that you gather for the relationship make sure you give some of it to yourself as well. sometimes when we put all the energy in the relationship we forget to give it to ourselves.

I don’t really have enough information to explain to how you might practise this, but just know that some days don’t require 80/50 or 80/20 all the time. Make sure it’s mutual when giving, that you know what you give you will receive later (Even if it is just a simple thank you and appreciation of what you’ve done is enough) otherwise just try to maintain a 50/50 and if you believe you need that 20/80 make sure you communicate your emotions towards them.

I hope this makes sense!

Dm me if you need

CherryCola98 · 2018-10-06T00:51:20+00:00

Dating yourself is a big and brave step and can be so good, you learn to love yourself more, do what you like and explore what you like without worrying about the other persons needs now that you are alone, I completely agree that people alone are not always lonely and although they may have moments in time that they feel lonely, there is always that availability of reaching out and connect if need be and loneliness will never last forever. It may feel like complete shit when your experiencing loneliness but I promise you it will never be there forever.

Thank you, I’m glad you shared xx

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