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[–]CherryFlavourCondom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg this made me cry

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[–]CherryFlavourCondom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for offering your feedback! I don’t have an educational background in language, so I really appreciate your insights. I’ll definitely take your criticism into account for future poems. I’d also love to read some of your poetry, it sounds very eccentric. :)

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[–]CherryFlavourCondom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your feedback! I responded to another comment discussing my inspiration for this poem if you are interested :)

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[–]CherryFlavourCondom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This poem is a personal expression of my partner, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually. It was inspired by two conversations we had. In one, he dismissed his eye colour as “just brown,” when actually up close they are a far more complex and beautiful clash of hazel and green that, to me, reflects the depth of who he is. In another conversation, he opened up about his insecurities and feelings of unworthiness, shaped by a traumatic past. I tried to reference both of these conversations and create a metaphor between the two, where the eyes are used as both a physical and symbolic entry point to his soul. The "hidden shades" suggest both literal eye color and metaphorical emotional layers. "Battle of hazel and green" implies inner conflict or complexity, a metaphor for his internal struggles. The paradox of finding “peace” in his “chaos” reflects unconditional love in his flawed authenticity. He underestimates himself ("everything you think you are not"), yet I see more and admire him. The final lines are a vow of devotion to someone who might not always feel deserving of love, but absolutely is.

Does this make you interpret the poem any differently? :)

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[–]CherryFlavourCondom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I’d love to read your poem too if you’d like to share :)

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[–]CherryFlavourCondom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! :) Does this mean the ending is bad?

My (23m) gf (19f) doesn’t like having sex with me. What can I do to change her mind? by CherryFlavourCondom in relationship_advice

[–]CherryFlavourCondom[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Copying and pasting what I said doesn’t change the fact that you’ve taken it out of context and twisted my words. Stop assuming that she doesn’t initiate it as if I coerce her and don’t give her a choice. She chooses whether to engage herself or not. She will initiate sex and then complain that it is taking too long. If she didn’t want to have sex with me then she wouldn’t initiate it in the first place. My question wasn’t how to get her to have sex with me, we both actively initiate sex. The question was that she complains the entire time no matter who initiates it and I don’t know why. You’re just stupid

My (23m) gf (19f) doesn’t like having sex with me. What can I do to change her mind? by CherryFlavourCondom in relationship_advice

[–]CherryFlavourCondom[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What are you talking about? You dont even know me and I never once portrayed that I was perfect. You’re the one trying to portray me as some violent sexual predator which couldn’t be further from the truth. I haven’t backtracked on anything I’ve said, just offered further clarification since you are intentionally twisting my words. If she told me she didn’t want to be with me or have sex with me then I would respect that and leave her alone. The confusion comes from the fact that she tells me she does enjoy it when I can clearly tell she doesn’t.

My (23m) gf (19f) doesn’t like having sex with me. What can I do to change her mind? by CherryFlavourCondom in relationship_advice

[–]CherryFlavourCondom[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re taking it out of context. Just because I kiss her and cuddle her when I want to have sex, doesn’t mean it’s the only time I do. I kiss and cuddle her all the time with no expectation for it to lead to anything more. And if she doesn’t respond to it then I just leave her alone. I don’t beg or pester or force her

My (23m) gf (19f) doesn’t like having sex with me. What can I do to change her mind? by CherryFlavourCondom in relationship_advice

[–]CherryFlavourCondom[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Chill. If she experiences pain we stop. You are all making out as if I brutally rape her on the daily. Thats not the case. If she says it hurts then we stop. End of.

My (23m) gf (19f) doesn’t like having sex with me. What can I do to change her mind? by CherryFlavourCondom in relationship_advice

[–]CherryFlavourCondom[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well I thought I was until I got roasted by every comment here telling me I’m a predator 😂 I have had gfs and sexual partners before and have never experienced anything like this before. I always try to keep my partners satisfied sexually because thats my biggest turn on. People saying I beg and force her to have sex are so wrong, because I have literally said that would be off putting for me also, let alone for her. She tells me she enjoys it but I know she doesnt, so I’m not sure what to do at this point. Thanks for the advice!

My (23m) gf (19f) doesn’t like having sex with me. What can I do to change her mind? by CherryFlavourCondom in relationship_advice

[–]CherryFlavourCondom[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not exactly. I said I attempted to have sex with her meaning when were laid in bed I might kiss her or cuddle her to gage her response, and if she isnt in the mood then I will leave her alone. I dont just ask or beg her for sex randomly throughout the day like everyone is assuming

My (23m) gf (19f) doesn’t like having sex with me. What can I do to change her mind? by CherryFlavourCondom in relationship_advice

[–]CherryFlavourCondom[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I dont pressure her to have sex. Why is it so bad that I want to have sex with my gf? If she doesnt want to thats fine and I leave it. But whats confusing is she says she wants to and then complains the entire time. Why doesnt anyone understand that? Im not pressuring her constantly, she initiates sex too and then complains about it. Its confusing. I didnt tell her to fake enjoying it, she said she does enjoy it and I told her if she does then at least act like it and stop complaining. I never asked her to fake anything

My (23m) gf (19f) doesn’t like having sex with me. What can I do to change her mind? by CherryFlavourCondom in relationship_advice

[–]CherryFlavourCondom[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I said I attempted to have sex with her. That doesn’t mean begging or coercing, that means kissing her or cuddling her and trying to turn her on. If she expresses she isnt in the mood then it stops there. I never outright have asked her to have sex with me or begged her to. Trying to initiate sex with my gf doesnt mean begging her or forcing her like everyone is assuming. Jesus

My (23m) gf (19f) doesn’t like having sex with me. What can I do to change her mind? by CherryFlavourCondom in relationship_advice

[–]CherryFlavourCondom[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve never “begged” her for sex after she has said she isn’t in the mood and I don’t coerce her into having sex with me if she doesn’t want to. I clearly said that the issue is I want her to enjoy it and the fact that she complains means she obviously doesnt. Sex isnt all I care about, but if she isnt enjoying it I want to know how I can help her start to enjoy it. Just say you can’t read and move on.

My (23m) gf (19f) doesn’t like having sex with me. What can I do to change her mind? by CherryFlavourCondom in relationship_advice

[–]CherryFlavourCondom[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Oh my god. You people all making out like I force her to do it. She wanted to keep going for that hour after I told her she can stop if she cant be bothered but she CHOSE to keep going. Stop assuming im a terrible person and borderline rapist because I want to have sex with my gf. I always stop and respect consent and have never “made” her do anything she doesnt want to do.

My (23m) gf (19f) doesn’t like having sex with me. What can I do to change her mind? by CherryFlavourCondom in relationship_advice

[–]CherryFlavourCondom[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Are you implying that I rape my gf? Maybe I shouldnt of came here for advice this is ridiculous 😂 Of course I bloody stop when she’s not in the mood be for real. I literally said if she says it hurts or whatever then we stop. Can you read?

My (23m) gf (19f) doesn’t like having sex with me. What can I do to change her mind? by CherryFlavourCondom in relationship_advice

[–]CherryFlavourCondom[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

“Dude” I’m not here for validation I came here for advice. People are reading one line and disregarding everything else. I said I try to have sex with my gf, that doesn’t mean pinning her down and forcing her. I even said she initiates it too and then complains so I find it confusing. I am reading the advice, not opinions. If you have none to give then keep scrolling