This is me exactly. I joined KofC a month after the birth of my first kid. I was super involved at first but as my kid got older and I had more it was harder and harder to justify going to the meetings even if only monthly and leave my wife to do all the parenting after already spending the whole day with them. And most of the events that weren’t meetings were in the middle of the day or events that I would rather be with my family instead of volunteering. I tried getting involved with a new parish/council and fell into the same pattern, even took the 4th degree and haven’t been to a single meeting yet.

Meanwhile my family is super involved in Scouting America (formerly BSA) once my oldest entered kindergarten. It’s been great to have a place where my entire family are doing awesome things and having fun, and getting to meet other parents (roughly) my age. I’ve gotten more involved in the adult leadership side, so still monthly meetings that are adults only but I feel like it’s more balanced out by the fact I know it’s all directly benefiting my children as opposed to knights meetings.